Do Pick-up Lines Really Work? - dating advices and dating tips

We have probably heard almost every pick-up line invented on earth, from the usual “What's your sign” to the cheesiest of “I must be in heaven because I'm seeing an angel.” Men usually use this as a way to break the ice, but do they really work?

Truth is, it can be helpful, and some of the lines does magic with the ladies. Pick-up lines are best useful among guys who wanted to try the dating circuit for the first time. So what should you do to make it really work? Here are our pick-up line tips that we hope would be helpful.

Pick-up lines work at the start of the date – Pick-up lines are meant to jump-start a conversation with your date or to give her a favorable impression of you. Blurting out a new pick-up line every time you talk to your date is not a good idea.

Make your line sincere – You won't achieve a lot of success in your dates if you speak out your lines as if you're memorizing a math formula. Pick-up lines only work if you say it from inside of you.

Use a line that would make her smile – The best pick-up lines are the ones that would make your date smile at you or laugh with you (not AT you). For starters, you can complement about her beauty and compare it to something exotic or beautiful as well. You could also try creating a joke as you comment about the event both of you are in, like when both of you are in a art exhibit or in a dance night.

Learn from your mistakes – Do not be afraid that the line would not work. If you experienced failure on your first date, at least you learned not to use it again. As you gain more and more positive (as well as negative) replies from your dates, you also gather more and more information on what to do and what not to do in pick-up lines.

Incorporate your line to your personality – Internalize your strong points, such as your positive attitude and beliefs, into your pick-up lines. The result is that the lines are not the only starting point in your dating, but also the personality that you display to her.

Do not rely on your lines too often – Use your lines every once in a while, especially if the the girl you want to pursue is difficult to please. Sometimes, a simple “Hi,” “How are you doing,” and introducing your name with a smile is enough to meet the woman you like.

Try making up your own lines – Like I said before, girls have probably heard a lot of pick-up lines that they might say out loud the continuation of your lines. If you can, create unique pick-up lines that are positive and void of double-entendres (to create a favorable impression).

Tips For Teen For Creative Dating - dating tips and dating advices

Make a picnic - Pack a basket of your favorite foods, pick a great spot and have a picnic.

Go see a movie - Inviting someone to a movie is always interesting. One good way to make it a little interesting is to let your date choose the film, or put a bunch of movie names in a hat and pick one at random when you get together.

Plan a sporty activity - Take advantage of the time of year and enjoy a seasonal activity together. For example, rollerblade on a summer afternoon or ice skating on a winter night can make for a great date!

Drive to the beach - Take a drive down to the beach for the day. No matter what the time of year, a walk in the sand is always a refreshing change.

Be volunteer in a community service – If it is a project that you are both interested you could do together. Lending a helping hand to a good cause is always a satisfying way to spend an afternoon or evening.

Head to the city for a day - From seeing a matinee to shopping or viewing a great art exhibit, you should select what you are interested.

Make a great plan – You could get tickets to a game and cheer for your favorite team or go to an amusement park for the day.

10: Pickup Methods - Dating advices and dating tips

Number 10

Smile when you walk into a room

See the group with the target and follow the three-second rule. Do not hesitate -- approach instantly.

Number 9

The opener should open the group, not just the target

When talking, ignore the target for the most part. If there are men in the group, focus your attention on the men.

Number 8

Neg the target

Neg the target with one of the slew of negs we’ve come up with. Tell her, “It’s so cute. Your nose wiggles when you laugh.” Then get her friends to notice and laugh about it.

Number 7

Convey personality to the entire group

Do this by using stories, magic, anecdotes, and humor. Pay particular attention to the men and less attractive women. During this time, the target will notice that you are the center of attention. You may perform various memorized pieces like the photo routine, but only for the obstacles.

[The photo routine involves carrying an envelope of photos in a jacket pocket, as if they’ve just been developed. Each photo, however, is preselected to convey a different aspect of the PUA (Pickup Artist)’s personality, such as images of the PUA with beautiful women, with children, with pets, with celebrities, goofing off with friends, and doing something active like roller-blading or skydiving. The PUA should also have a short, witty story to accompany each photo.]

Number 6

Ask the group, “So, how does everyone know each other?”

If the target is with one of the guys, find out how long they’ve been together. If it’s a serious relationship, eject politely by saying, “Pleasure meeting you.”

Number 5

Ask permission to take her away from the group

If she is not spoken for, say to the group, “I’ve sort of been alienating your friend. Is it alright if I speak to her for a couple of minutes?” They always say, “Uh, sure. If it’s okay with her.” If you’ve executed the preceding steps correctly, she will agree.

Number 4

Hold her hand

Isolate her from the group by telling her you want to show her something cool. Take her to sit with you nearby. As you lead her through the crowd, do a kino test by holding her hand. If she squeezes back, it’s on. Start looking for other IOIs.

Number 3

Ask her about her qualities

Tell her, “Beauty is common but what’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me want to know you as more than a mere face in the crowd?” If she begins to list qualities, this is a positive IOI.

Number 2

Stop talking

Does she reinitiate the chat with a question that begins with the word “So?” If she does, you’ve now seen three IOIs and can…

Number 1

Kiss close

Say, out of the blue, “Would you like to kiss me?” If the setting or circumstances aren’t conducive to physical intimacy, then give yourself a time constraint by saying, “I have to go, but we should continue this.” Then get her number and leave.

glossary

FMAC -- noun [find, meet, attract, close]: a rudimentary sequential model of pickup.

IOI -- noun [indicator of interest]: a sign a woman gives a man that indirectly reveals she is attracted to or interested in him. These clues, generally unintentional and subtle, include leaning toward a man when he speaks, asking mundane questions to keep a conversation going or squeezing his hand when he takes her hand in his.

Kino -- verb: to touch or be touched, generally with suggestive intent or the purpose of arousal, such as hair-stroking, hand-holding or hip-grabbing; precedes actual sexual contact.

Kiss close -- 1. verb: to kiss or make out, with passion. 2. noun: a passionate kiss or makeout.

Neg -- 1. noun: an ambiguous statement or seemingly accidental insult delivered to a beautiful woman a pickup artist has just met, with the intent of actively demonstrating to her (or her friends) a lack of interest in her. For example: “Those are nice nails; are they real?” 2. verb: to actively demonstrate a lack of interest in a beautiful woman by making an ambiguous statement, insulting her in a way that appears accidental, or offering constructive criticism.

Chick Flicks We Can Stomach - Dating advice for men : dating tips

Snuggling up on the couch with your honey bunny to watch a movie is one of life’s greatest simple pleasures. But often, what should be one of the easiest ways to spend an evening can take a harsh, unexpected detour to Scrapsville, and it usually all starts at the video store. Finding a movie you both want to see can be tougher than brokering Middle East peace deals. And then, before you can say “Pretty Woman,” you’ve insulted one too many of her choices and she’s not talking to you for the next hour. Sound familiar?

This doesn’t have to happen to you. We’ve compiled a safe list of 10 guy-friendly chick flicks that you can offer up as an olive branch without objecting yourself to too much pain -- another service from the kind souls at AskMen.com.

Number 10

Meet Joe Black (1998)

Brad Pitt, Claire Forlani, Anthony Hopkins

Pretty boy Brad Pitt scared a lot of guys away from this film, but those who got past his coiffed good looks were treated to a strange, moving study of life, death and love. Pitt plays Death, who decides to try his hand at life and see what he’s been missing all these years. He enlists a media baron played by Anthony Hopkins to act as a guide and promptly falls in love with the man’s daughter. Is it a compliment if the Grim Reaper thinks you are attractive? I guess so, if he looks like Brad Pitt.

Why she’ll like it: Deep down, just about every girl is a daddy’s girl. So watch for the waterworks to come out when Hopkins stands up to Death and tells him his love isn’t good enough for his daughter (played by the always underrated Claire Forlani). His speech is moving, eloquent and directed at a man who could kill him with one touch. That takes a lot of balls.

Why you’ll like it: Brad Pitt’s sudden, unexpected and downright brutal death scene early in the movie is almost reason enough to sit through this long melodrama. The fact that it is also a totally unique, well-acted movie is another.

Number 9

Desperately Seeking Susan (1985)

Madonna, Rosanna Arquette, Aidan Quinn

A lot of guys have grown up watching Madonna go from vixenish voguing dancer to cougar yummy mummy. But back in her younger days, she was something else! And you get to see her in her prime in this better-than-you’d-expect little ‘80s comedy. The material girl stars as a funky sort of transient who comes into the life of a bored urbanite wife (Rosanna Arquette). Their meeting quickly ends the housewife's boredom, as all sorts of mob antics and mistaken identity hilarity ensues.

Why she’ll like it: It’s not so much just one scene she’ll enjoy; it’s the whole movie. And she’ll enjoy it on an entirely different level than you, taking great pleasure in mocking the classic ‘80s haircuts, clothes and lingo. Just nod and laugh.

Why you’ll like it: It’s not so much the movie you’ll enjoy; it’s more like watching a lithe, young Madonna prancing around in slutty outfits for 104 minutes -- what guy wouldn’t like a film like that?

Number 8

Thelma & Louise (1991)

Susan Sarandon, Geena Davis, Harvey Keitel

There are a lot of reasons to hate this movie, from Brad Pitt’s extended (and shirtless) acting debut to its male-bashing undertones. But Ridley Scott’s (Alien, Blade Runner) quick-paced direction and Academy Award-worthy performances from its two stars (Sarandon and Davis) make this more than just a passable “chick flick;” they make it a downright phenomenal movie-watching experience.

It tells the story of two women on a cross-country road trip who get caught up with the law after they kill a would-be rapist. It’s a tale of justice and honor, and how it can end up making you drive off a cliff.

Why she’ll like it: Take your pick: She’ll either love the instant justice Sarandon and Davis impart on the attempted rapist or she’ll draw much inspiration from their suicidal choice to avoid further persecution from mean, old men. It might not sound too interesting, but she’ll feel so empowered from this stuff you just might see a new, interesting side to her if things get frisky.

Why you’ll like it: It’s sort of a road trip movie, so that means cars! And what a car they drive: It’s a 1966 Thunderbird convertible and it is one hot, little rod. Not only that, but this film is also head and shoulders above most of the other fluffy chick flicks. Pick your poison: car chases and sex scenes or You’ve Got Mail. Enough said.

Number 7

An Officer and a Gentleman (1982)

Richard Gere, Debra Winger, David Keith

It would seem that director Taylor Hackford (Ray, Proof of Life) and his screenwriters set out to make a film that bridges the gender gap and makes for a peaceful night of movie watching for a guy and a girl. He takes a realistic love story for the ladies and mixes in lots of hardcore boot camp action to keep the guys happy. The results are good enough that you shouldn’t resist if she suggests it. You’ll see Richard Gere play an ambitious recruit fast-tracking up the ladder, and Debra Winger as a bored textile worker trying to ride his coattails out of her dead-end town (no offence to Port Townsend, Washington, where the movie was filmed).

Why she’ll like it: It has a long, drawn out, exceedingly realistic love story that plays on the age-old themes of true love, chivalry and spastic facial muscles. In other words, she is going to cry -- a lot. For most girls, that is a good thing.

Why you’ll like it: It’s like Top Gun, only with more drama and less overt homoeroticism.

Number 6

When Harry Met Sally (1989)

This has basically come to epitomize the “chick flick,” meaning most guys would rather shave their mother’s legs than waste a Friday night watching this presumed puff piece. But the fact is it’s a good movie packed with hilarious dialogue. Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan play longtime friends who find themselves delving into that age-old “friends with benefits” category. Under the skillful direction of Rob Reiner (Spinal Tap, A Few Good Men), the awkwardness that ensues is priceless comedy. So get over yourself and just watch it. You’ll be glad you did.

Why she’ll like it: When Harry Met Sally is like shoe shopping: Only females truly appreciate its existence. She is basically hardwired to like this movie with its sappy charm, so just sit back and enjoy the humor.

Why you’ll like it: The movie is filled with some really good jokes. This is Billy Crystal at his best and Meg Ryan at her cutest.

Number 5

Serendipity (2001)

Watching any chick flick involves putting up with a fair amount of cheese. This offering boasts the always reliable John Cusack and the easy-on-the-eyes Kate Beckinsale. OK, it also oozes buckets of cheddar, but it’s a small sacrifice for making the girl happy for two hours. It’s good enough that you’ll admit privately to liking it, but will disavow any knowledge in public.

Two lovers meet by chance and declare to go their separate ways to see if fate will reunite them. Perhaps motivated by raising women’s expectations on irrational, romantic behavior, fate does indeed see to it that they meet years later (at the same spot), and they end up falling in love. That’s a bit of a spoiler, but it won’t ruin the movie.

Why she’ll like it: It is kind of like math: One lovable loser + One quirky, misunderstood young girl divided by Time = One weepy girl beside you on the couch who needs to be held.

Why you’ll like it: Get past the cliché schmaltz, accept the cute dialogue and enjoy the steady Cusack performance. Then look at the box and realize it is only 90 minutes long.

Number 4

The Craft (1996)

A lot of girls toyed with the Goth stage in their youth, so this little chick flick appeals to that dark past. In it, hot, teenaged witches duke it out for more and more power with their spells. A new girl in town gets involved with the bad crowd (bad being the aforementioned witches), and from there, it is a supernatural catfight of good versus evil, which makes for a pretty entertaining horror-inspired movie.

Why she’ll like it : No doubt she liked the bitchy teens in Mean Girls. Now it’s time to give the girls with creepy, evil powers a chance.

Why you’ll like it: Did I mention that the girls go to a private school? Can you say uniforms? Yes, it is a horror movie that makes something besides the hair on the back of your neck stand up.

Number 3

Blue Crush (2002)

This chick flick is about bikini-clad surfer girls, so she might be a bit suspicious if you suggest it, but in the end, your hormone-driven choice will be justified, as the movie is pretty darn entertaining. Miss "Booty Shorts" and Miss "Bare Midriff" star as surfers who take on riptides, professional quarterbacks, bitchy girls, and all the other usual pitfalls associated with being a surfer. Gorgeous Hawaiian scenery and amazing surf footage make this an entirely entertaining and underrated movie.

Why she’ll like it: Besides the obvious cushy love story stuff, there is a very empowering, girls-rule feel to Blue Crush. If that’s not enough, there are six-pack sporting hunks all over the place. So, there’s a bunch of eye candy for everyone.

Why you’ll like it: Seriously? You have to ask?

Number 2

Mean Girls (2004)

Anyone who has been in high school knows how catty girls can be to each other. So imagine how funny a movie about them would be (especially when it’s written by Saturday Night Live cutie Tina Fey). Throw in a little Lohan for window dressing and it’s the ultimate renter. Our favorite freckled Hollywood starlet leads as a newcomer planted in a socially tense high school. At first she wins the praise of the popular girls (self-named “The Plastics” -- although I would have much preferred “The Silicones”). But, one major social faux pas later, she becomes the target of their extremely mean-spirited spite. This is a bad place to be, unless you are a scheming, precocious teen like Lohan is in this film.

Why she’ll like it: With all the hair pulling, name calling and backstabbing, Mean Girls will remind her of those halcyon days of high school.

Why you’ll like it: It is a smart “teen” movie that is miles better than the rest.

Number 1

Bridget Jones’s Diary (2001)

One of the things that makes any chick flick somewhat watchable is how easy on the eyes the female lead usually is. So how does an uber-chick flick that stars a frumpy, disheveled Renee Zellweger make it on this list? By doing everything right, from little things like editing to the big things like casting. Bridget Jones is a perpetually single, 30-something girl living in London who makes a pledge to improve her life and get a man. She records this in excruciating detail in her diary, hence the film’s title.

Every guy will have to admit that Zellweger oozes irresistible charm as the spunky lead character, and Hugh Grant’s smarmy turn as her misogynistic boss is hilarious.

Why she’ll like it: It’s like a perfect storm of chick flick obsessions: shoes, diaries, torrid affairs, celebrity gossip, and so on. In fact, I believe girls are legally obligated to like this movie.

Why you’ll like it: You might not want to like it, but it will suck you in and make you like it.

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Anyone can tell you how much compromise it takes to maintain a peaceful relationship. And there is no place this holds truer than the video store. It can’t always be Cops, Guns & Boobs or Dead Soldiers In The End Zone. Eventually, you’ll have sit through something she wants to watch. Now you’ve got 10 suggestions that can make her happy and will keep you from trying to swallow your own tongue out of boredom. Happy viewing.

10: Ways To Turn Digits Into Dates - dating advices for men: dating tips

Have you ever gotten a woman’s phone number, but when you called, things got "weird" and you never ended up seeing her again? Make no mistake -- turning a phone number into a date isn’t always easy. When to call, what to say, how to handle voicemail… obviously there are tons of "landmines" you need to navigate through in order to actually get together. Use these 10 tips to help you do it right.

Number 10

Conquer your fear

You would never guess it, but one of the biggest mistakes most guys make on the phone is this: THEY NEVER CALL. When you get a number, it's easy to tell yourself you'll wait a couple of days before calling, but then the days turn into weeks, and then you can't find the number or -- worse yet -- you call and find out that while you were procrastinating she met a new guy she's crazy about. Ouch.

Listen, fear happens to the best of us… just don't let it get the best of you. She gave you the number because she WANTS you to call her. Don’t let her down. Call her a couple of days after you meet. And relax -- she WANTS to hear from you.

Number 9

Keep it short

Most guys have the misconception that you need to have a long conversation on the phone in order to get a woman to go out with you. Well, actually, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, if you talk too long you send the message that you don't have a very busy life… or worse, you risk BORING her. Instead, keep it short and sweet and leave her wanting MORE.

Number 8

End it first

Want to know a simple secret that 99% of men don't know? When you're dealing with a woman, always be the one who ends the interaction. When you do, you send a subtle -- yet clear -- message that you have other important things in your life BESIDES her, and that you're the one in charge. Women love to be with men who are leaders and this is a simple way to show her that you're EXACTLY the kind of guy she wants.

Number 7

Don't reassure her

When you end the conversation, resist the temptation to say "I'll give you a call" or "We'll talk again." And don't set up a meeting or a date on the first call either. When you leave the future open and uncertain, you help her see you as a CHALLENGE and a MYSTERY -- “Is he going to call me again? Why didn't he ask me out? Does he like me?” -- Getting a woman intrigued and curious about you is ALWAYS a good thing, and this is a great way to do it.

Number 6

Show her that you have a busy life

There are few things you can do that dial up a woman's attraction for you more than being a guy with a busy life. We all want what we can't have, and when something is hard to get, we value it more. So after your first call, wait a couple of days -- she'll be wondering what you've been so busy with -- and then call her again. And again, keep the conversation short and to the point. Tell her that you are really busy but you have a couple of nights free this week, then ask her what her schedule is like.

Number 5

Limit the time frame

When you agree on a date, be SPECIFIC about what you are going to do and how long you'll be together. You can say something like, “Let's meet at Tom's on Thursday at 8:00 p.m. for 20 minutes or so and have a quick drink. That way if you turn out to be scary I can say I have to shampoo my dog or something and run away.”

When you set up a short time frame for the meeting, you avoid expectations. You won’t be forced to spend time with someone you aren’t into, and should you decide she isn’t for you -- or should she end up looking like a wildebeest when you finally meet her -- you have an easy “out.”

Most importantly, telling her upfront about why you only want to meet for 20 minutes challenges her to show you that she isn’t weird or crazy, and it DRAMATICALLY increases the chances of her showing up. Nice.

Number 4

Disarm her objections

Many women will test you on the phone and resist your idea to get together. What's happening unconsciously is she wants to see if you have a backbone. So DON'T CAVE IN. The best way to respond to a test is to DIAL IT UP A NOTCH. Say something like, "Don't be silly! It's just 20 minutes for tea, you dork." Turn the tables on her like this and she'll see that you're a "cut above" the other guys.

Number 3

Dealing with voicemail

These days, it seems like many men are AFRAID to leave a message for a woman. Well guess what, fellas? Women are onto all of the “tricks” these days. I’m talking about blocking your number and calling a hundred times until she answers, or calling from different numbers so she doesn’t know it’s you.

The good news for you is that since 90% of men make these “mistakes,” leaving a message for a woman is going to set YOU apart. This shows extreme confidence to a woman because she knows that you are putting yourself out there and that you are confident that she is going to get back to you… unlike the other wussies she’s met who had to hide behind blocked numbers.

Keep the message short and sweet. Remind her who you are, but don’t get into great detail. For example, you could say, “Hey Jennifer… Kevin here from the Square Friday night… it’s 4:45… give me a buzz when you get this at XXX-XXX-XXXX.” Simple and to the point is always best.

If she doesn’t call you back, give it three days and try again. If you don’t get a call back this time, MOVE ON. You have better things to do than stalk a woman -- and that’s how women see it when you call again after leaving two messages, ESPECIALLY if you call from a different number the next time.

Number 2

Get her right number -- every time

Here’s another trick that will save you a TON of time and hassle: Instead of asking for her number right away, say, “Take my number down.” After she puts it in her phone say, “Call me right now so I have yours.” BAM -- you’ll get the correct phone number every time. And just as important, she now has your name in her phone, so she will know who it is when you call. Women are 10 times more likely to answer a call from someone they know, so this will DRAMATICALLY decrease your chances of running into her voicemail.

Number 1

Be spontaneous

If the phone continues to trip you up, try avoiding it altogether. When you meet a woman, instead of getting her number, suggest grabbing a coffee or tea RIGHT NOW. Even a 15 to 20 minute "mini-date" can give you a sense of what kind of woman she is and help you decide if you want to see her again.

If the phone continues to be a BIG obstacle for you, it’s probably because you aren’t creating enough ATTRACTION in a woman when you first meet her to get her to want to see you again. Luckily, this is a fairly easy fix as well.

10: First Date Faux Pas - Dating advices and dating tips for men

Women are harsh critics, and being critical is exactly what we do on a first date. We’re analyzing your clothing, your table manners, what you say, and what you don’t say. If you want to pass the test (and advance to date number two), be sure not to commit any of these top 10 first date crimes.

Number 10

Being a knight in shining armor

You pick up your date and hand her a dozen red roses. “Your chariot awaits,” you say as you race ahead to get the car door for her… the first of many doors. In your world, chivalry is not dead -- it’s very much alive and requires you to open every single door for her. Well, I hate to shatter your Prince Charming dreams, but women don’t expect you to be a doorman. In fact, this can be downright annoying. Of course, we don’t want a heathen who shovels food into his mouth, talks with his mouth full and keeps his elbows on the table either. That’s just plain rude (and a major turnoff). What we do want is something in between: not a knight in shining armor or a slob, but a gentleman.

Number 9

Choosing a bad venue

You’ve offered to pick the restaurant, so which one do you choose?
a) Fast food joint
b) Happy hour at Hooters
c) Fancy schmancy restaurant (where entrees start at $50)
d) None of the above

If you answered d) None of the above, give yourself a pat on the back. That’s the winning ticket. The other options serve a purpose, but they’re not appropriate first date venues. A fast food joint tells her you’re cheap, Hooters tells her you’re a pervert (even though they do have great wings) and fancy schmancy tells her you’re a show off. Women want something that’s not too cheap and not too expensive, but just right -- a place that falls in between fancy and cheap, so that it doesn’t look like you’re trying too hard or that you’re not trying hard enough.

Number 8

Being wishy-washy

When she asks where you want to go for dinner, you hem and haw and eventually say, “Doesn’t matter.” And then at dinner, you spend hours deliberating over the menu and end up asking the waitress what she recommends. Wrong and wrong. Women don’t want a spineless guy who can’t make a decision to save his life. We want backbone, we want direction, we want confidence. In fact, some women rate confidence higher than appearance and sense of humor, so make sure you show her you’ve got lots of it -- just try to avoid being overly confident to the point of arrogance.

Number 7

Getting transfixed by TV

You’re listening intently as she goes on about her sister who just got accepted to the Peace Corps and her brother who’s doing his Master’s in chemical engineering. While you’re honestly enthralled by the conversation, you briefly glance at the TV perched behind the bar for one teeny tiny second… and you get busted! You might not think it’s a big deal (come on, you barely looked), but to her it’s huge. Why? Because even though you were listening intently, she takes your sneak peek as a screaming sign that you’re not interested. There goes date number two. The easiest way to avoid the TV trap is by not picking a place with TVs in the first place, and if you do wind up at a sports bar, strategically position your chair so you won’t be tempted.

Number 6

Being too honest

Okay, so you just got out of rehab, but there’s not need to share this tidbit of information with your date (at least not if you want to see her again). I’m not saying you should lie (honesty is the best policy), but you don’t have to tell her everything. That includes DUIs, divorces, speeding tickets, minor indictments, depression meds, the fact that you still live with mom, or that case of syphilis from a couple of years back (which hopefully has cleared up). There may be a time to come clean, but it’s definitely not on the first date. At least let her get to know you first before you start dropping truth bombs. Just remember: She probably has a few skeletons in her closer that she’s not revealing just yet either.

Number 5

Constantly interrupting

She mentions that she’s been to England. You jump in to say that you’ve been too. She goes on to say that she loves Coldplay. You jump in again to say that you saw them live at Coachella and they were great. Well, stop right there and bite your tongue. Yes, shared interests are a must, but there’s no need for you to keep interrupting her. Not only is it impolite, it tells her that you’re more interested in hearing your own voice than hers. Instead, wait till she’s done and then wow her with your similarities. Your politeness will be duly noted.

Number 4

Dressing inappropriately

Before stepping out the door on your big date, you give yourself the once over. Your jersey/ball cap/shorts/flip-flops combo (all clean and wrinkle-free) doesn’t look too bad, if you do say so yourself. Well, think again. Unless you’re taking her to a ball game (which is a totally acceptable first date venue, by the way), leave your sports jersey at home. Women put a lot of thought into their first date outfit.- a lot. Heck, they probably even went out and bought a whole new ensemble for the occasion. And while we don’t expect you to invest in new digs, we do expect you not to under-dress (see above outfit) or over-dress (three-piece suit or tuxedo). That said, there are certain articles of clothing that are always off limits. These include socks with sandals, dark shoes with white sport socks, too-tight jeans and jean shorts.

Number 3

Touching on taboo topics

Just in case you’ve been living under some rock (or have been out of the dating race for a while), the taboo topics for first date conversations are as follows: ex-girlfriends, past heartbreak, religion, politics, and money. This last one is especially important because, contrary to popular opinion, all women are not after your dough. In fact, yapping about it (in particular, how much you make and how much you have), could send your date running for the hills. Show us what your worth (and I don’t mean in a monetary sense), don’t tell us about it. Same goes for name-dropping and bragging. Leave it for the locker room where it belongs.

Number 2

Staring at the waitress

It’s not your fault the waitress is smokin’ hot or wearing a V-neck down to her navel, but under no circumstance should you acknowledge this. No lingering leers, quick looks down her top or flirting. None whatsoever. First of all, no matter how discreet you think you are, your date will notice. Secondly, women want to believe that you’re with them because you want to be with them. Sure, we know that you’d opt for a Victoria’s Secret model given the chance (just like we’d take Brad Pitt any day of the week), but Gisel is just a fantasy girl. The waitress, however, is all too real. When you acknowledge her hotness right in front of our eyes, you’re showing disrespect -- a big no-no.

Number 1

Getting loaded

You want to have a good time, and more importantly you want to show her a good time, so what do you do? You order a couple rounds of tequila shots. Tequila equals fun, right? Wrong. This is not a bachelor party it’s a first date, and whether you like it or not you’re under strict observation. Having a couple glasses of wine with dinner is one thing, but getting drunk or plying her with alcohol is another -- unless you want her to think you’re still a frat boy who hasn’t grown up. And if you’re driving, don’t even think about having more than two drinks. Safety first.

honorable mention

Texting up a storm

Everyone knows that cell phones are off limits (unless it’s work-related, in which case warn your date in advance). Well, texting may not get as much air time, but it’s just as bad. It tells your date that she’s not the most important person in the room (or in your mind), and shows her that you can’t shut the world out for one measly date. If you start to go into withdrawal, you can try and sneak in a quickie while she’s in the bathroom, just make sure you don’t get caught. That will make you seem sneaky and self-absorbed. To avoid temptation, your best bet is to ditch your Blackberry altogether. Out of sight, out of mind.

10: Ways To Render Her Powerless - Dating advice and dating tips for men

Everyone has a weakness -- a critical Achilles' heel that can be exploited for both fun and profit. In the case of dating, understanding a woman’s weaknesses can be the difference between an unforgettable night of passion and yet another evening of cruising the internet for donkey porn. Read on to discover the top 10 things that render every woman powerless, regardless of her background or position in life.

Number 10

Us Weekly

Did you know that Lindsay Lohan recently spent more than $9,000 at London’s Arrogant Cat boutique or that Beyonce Knowles enjoys riding the subway? Of course you didn’t (you have a life of your own), but your girlfriend certainly knows. That’s because, like all women, she loves to gossip. Luckily for her, trashy periodicals like Us Weekly and People Magazine give her a chance to get the inside dirt on all of the planet’s newsworthy celebrities.

Number 9

Dirty Dancing

Just as men can’t resist films with gratuitous nudity and explosions, women are similarly powerless in the presence of melodramatic movies that contain excessive dialogue and soundtracks featuring Patrick Swayze. Take Dirty Dancing, for instance. No, seriously, take it, because we don’t intend to waste another minute of our lives watching two grown adults do the jitterbug. Some other irresistible chick flicks include The Notebook, Breakfast at Tiffany's and Beaches, a film that not even Bette Midler's man can sit through from start to finish.

Number 8

“These Boots Are Made For Walking”

It’s been scientifically proven that no woman above the age of 30 can resist shaking her money maker to “These Boots Are Made for Walking.” In fact, the song’s allure is so strong that even Megadeth deemed it necessary to record their own version of the 1966 hit. Other female friendly tunes include Cyndi Lauper’s “Girls Just Want to Have Fun,” Madonna’s “Like a Virgin” and Marc Cohn’s "Walking in Memphis" (a light-rock classic designed to suck the testosterone out of your body with every saccharine verse).

Number 7

Tanning

Let’s be perfectly honest: Most men would be happy living in a cave if they could find one that was rent-controlled. Women, on the other hand, positively need the sun. That’s why they insist on bathing for hours at a time until their skin becomes crispier than a freshly baked tortilla chip. It’s also why America’s fake tanning industry raked in more than $4.2 billion in 2000; although to be fair, George Hamilton probably accounted for about a third of that. Nonetheless, the U.S. now has more than 15,000 fake-and-bake locations from sea to shining sea, most of which serve a predominantly female clientele.

Number 6

Conversation

Although most people know that Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone, few people realize that he never had the chance to use it because his wife was always on the line. The fact of the matter is that women love to talk: They do it on the phone, they do it in person, they do by e-mail and, if they had to, they’d do it through smoke signals and carrier pigeons.

And the conversations are never brief. Although some men can resolve a nuclear arms treaty in a matter of minutes, most women can somehow find a way of discussing their hairdo for up to seven hours at a time. Anyone who thinks the art of conversation is dead needs only to ask his wife how her day was to discover otherwise.

Number 5

Trash-talking one another

In the words of American essayist Agnes Repplier, " Conversation between Adam and Eve must have been difficult at times because they had nobody to talk about.” Luckily, with more than six billion people now on the planet, women have no shortage of targets to address. From their mouth-breathing boss to the best friend they secretly hate, the fairer sex love to complain for hours on end about the people who complicate their lives.

Number 4

Relationship analysis

Contrary to popular belief, Dr. Phil isn’t famous because women love bald guys with porn star moustaches. Rather, the good doctor is adored by the fairer sex because he willingly analyzes their relationships, something that all women do anyhow. As unbelievable as it may sound, women actually spend just as much time thinking about how they interact with others as you spend looking at box scores and managing your football fantasy team.

That means that while you’re busy considering whether you should drop Drew Bledsoe in favor of Jon Kitna, your girlfriend is trying to figure out if your fear of commintment is linked to the time your best friend moved to Idaho when you were 7.

Number 3

The Bachelor

All women crave romance, which is precisely why they fall for sappy reality shows like The Bachelor. After all, where else can they experience a world where everyone lives in mansions, first dates involve transatlantic flights to Paris and women get rejected with a single red rose? God knows, they’re certainly not going to experience it with you or you buddies. The last we heard, a typical Friday night with you involved pizza and a sweaty sock.

Number 2

Bath baskets

More than anything else, women love to be pampered. That’s precisely why they adore manicures, pedicures and dainty little bath baskets full of scented products. Luckily, men have no need for bath products. After all, we already have our own built-in bath toy that we’ve been happily playing with since we were toddlers.

Number 1

Photo albums

Ask a man where he was last Thursday evening at 8:00 and he’ll likely draw a blank. Ask a woman where she was and she’ll tell you not only the location, but also what she was wearing, who she was with, the color of the wallpaper in the room, and the song that was playing on the radio at the time. And nowhere will you find a woman’s obsessive love for detail more thoughtfully arranged than in her collection of photo albums.

These exhaustive volumes carefully document good friends, good times and, more often than not, horrible haircuts. It’s only fair to warn you now that in the event of a five-alarm blaze, most women would sooner save their albums before they saved you.

a little understanding goes a long way

It has been said that knowledge is useless without a practical application. So now that you know women’s weaknesses, it’s up to you to put your understanding to the test. Who knows? With a little luck and a lot of charm, she could end up dirty dancing her boots that are made for walking right into your bedroom...

Attracted to a handsome man - how to discover if love is returned?

Have you been attracted to a handsome man, and yet still confused if he is attracted to you? If you’ve been dating him for some time you made an initial contact and some subtle contact has been created.

Moving beyond an initial casual chat with a man

When is the right time to go further on beyond an initial casual chat and entail some personal info in a conversation with a man?

Should you reveal too much about yourself too early? How would you know if she is interested to know more about you?

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills to date men:

1. Recognize male’s changes in expression and body language
2. Would you go for clever man vs. physically built the way you want?
3. What hints men are sending if they are interested in you>

So, let’s evaluate all-important steps one by one!

Recognize signs of attraction go after changes in expression and body language

The fact is you will quite rarely get clear signs that a man is obviously attracted to you. Men are intimidated by woman’s presence too and tend to send insignificant signals, hints, and subliminal messages.

You can pick up on changes in expression, posture, body language, etc that tells you more about what the man is thinking than what he is saying.

How do you choose whom to approach?

If you do not decide how to choose whom yu will accept as a romantic partner, you will be open to everything. What are you really looking for, someone to love and care for and grow old with or someone to wow others with and make you rich?

Weigh up men who might be fantastic but not built physically the way you want

It is very common for a women’s aspiration that a man has to be taller than she is. So at the start she has eliminated any man who might be fantastic but not built physically the way she wants him to be.

However the moment you know him, you reveal all the character, intellectual and spiritual values he has. Comparing a clever man to someone who lacks all the intellectual qualities, except the body shape you’ll understand which is more important to you.

Being in familiar terms if a men you’re attracted to is likely to mate you

How to get women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome man - dating advice and dating tips for men

You can experience a state of brainpower where being with a woman, or doing a particular thing, feels magically smooth and easy. To enhance the romantic mood, make sure you share at least some common ideas and interests with each other.

Which woman will appreciate your masculine qualities?

Women like it when you show that you respect them and agree with their ideas. However, believe in yourselves. If you don't learn how to do it, you'll probably find that others won't believe in you either. So, how do you enhance romantic mood with women?

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:

1. Win women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome
2. Show strong personality mature and desirable attitude
3. Develop promising relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction

So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!

Win women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome

Women don't ask guys out generally. They don't even indicate romantic interest initially. However, fact that women aren't responding to your signals doesn't inevitably mean you're a total loser.

Women tend to be picky and play games too, as some men do. Pretending to be uninterested to a guy unless he's amazingly charming and handsome, they expect men to make the first move.

Strong personality makes a men appear mature and desirable

Women like it when you show that you respect them and agree with their ideas. However, don't compromise your own belief system just to please him. Having a strong personality and unshakable attitude makes a men appear mature and desirable to women.

As a guy matures in his feelings about women, he should tend to go from sex-oriented view of women to emotional intimacy of women.

How to show off your strong personality

Men don't drop hints, like the way women do when they're interested in a guy.

Women find men who are pro-active extremely attractive, that's the quality, which men should go for. It involves confidence, charisma, and the ability to have fun. Showing off your strong personality, requires knowing yourself and your surroundings.

Promising relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction

The truth is that some relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction lose interest and wind up as just-friends.

On the other hand, the ones who start off, as close friends may become lovers someday if the conditions are right. So how do you progress from an acquaintance to a true relationship with a woman you’re attracted to? For more tips about developing strong personality and unshakable attitude attractive to women, refer to the e books below:

Relationships On Mutual Interests - Dating tips and dating advice for men and teens

Do you feel that initial lust and passion in relationship wit your former girlfriend waned over the time? Once promising relationship gradually turned down to boredom and mutual avoidance, why if you still like her?

Friends as lovers remembering their previous relationship usually make mistakes that turn lust ad attraction off. They try to get used to partner’s pleasance and neglect their relationship.

Attracting women

Have you been stuck minding the ideas for activities on date? Should you propose walking out, coffee, dinner, watching sports, or something completely different? How do you actually know what she is interested in at all? You can always start with activities you personally enjoy, and hope she’ll share your interests.

Ask, and you’re never on the wrong side. However if she’s shy or a bit introvert, she could reject your date proposal even if she’d like to make you company. The only idea you need for a date is something you enjoy or have wanted to try.

Dating women - achieve experience with physical and emotional intimacy

Men would enthusiastically view socializing with women as a big step that could lead to getting in closeness of someone interested in relationship or long-term friendship. Being an extrovert and funny person makes you an interesting company, which women would like to acquaint.

How do men deal with the vagueness that occurs after the first few initial dates?

However some women are very open, honest and unambiguously expressive but most are quite guarded in their response or give conflicting signals.

Men scarcely deal with the vagueness that occurs after the first few initial dates. Deciding if both partners has similar intentions regarding their evolving relationship ambiguous decision. They would ask partner whether she will want to continue to see them again.

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:

1. First steps in dating – pass up tenseness with a little practice
2. Know to achieve self-confidence in early phase of dating
3. Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel

So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!

First steps in dating – pass up tenseness with a little practice

The first steps in dating are often quite terrifying for both partners involved, but it gets tremendously easier with a little practice. If you can realize this, you will feel better and relax. Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. If you stammer slightly while asking her out, don't worry. She'll probably think it's cute.

The good move is to tell her how you feel. Getting used to a habit of being straightforward about how you feel works out tremendously. Afterwards you’ll have a better idea about how she feels in the same situation.

Achieving self-confidence in early phase of dating

Women are often left in the position of really wanting men to ask them out, but not feeling they can initiate anything for fear of how their actions would be perceived.

Gaining self-confidence in early phase of dating and acquainting women is essential for long-term success with women. You need to know you're attractive guy and achieve some experience with both physical and emotional intimacy. Maybe you'd be better off seeing other girls on a not-so-serious level.

Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel

It’s often better to be subtle when it comes to showing how you feel, especially when you're uncertain as to the seriousness of your relationship.

If you tell a girl that you need her, you risk scaring her off by giving the impression that you're desperate or dependent whatsoever.

Tips to communicate comfortably with women

Bottom line: Convince yourself that you can converse comfortably with women when there's nothing at risk. All you have to do is realize the women you want to ask out on dates are no different from your female colleagues.

Even if she says “no”, it will be good practice. For more tips about first dating steps, physical and emotional intimacy, refer to the e books below:

10: Ways To Meet A New Woman Tonight - Dating advices and dating tips.

Meeting a new woman can be a daunting task. Most guys have NO CLUE how to do it, so they crash and burn, again and again. If you want to meet a new woman without running the risk of getting shot down you need a solid game plan. Use these 10 tips to start talking to women and getting numbers and dates in no time.

Number 10

Find a target-rich environment

It’s important that you find those special places that are PACKED with attractive women, places where it's natural to start talking to them and where there's less COMPETITION and distraction from other guys. Try the yoga class at your local gym… the Starbucks across from the tanning salon… the weekend art show, etc. If you’re willing to do a little research, you’ll discover that there are literally TONS of great places to meet women in your area that most men have NO IDEA even exist…

Number 9

Play it cool

When you see a woman you want to meet, pay attention to the situation and approach her when she's not likely to feel "rudely interrupted." It’s also a MUST that you eliminate nervous ticks, stilted body language, fast movements, stuttering, and any other signs that show you're uncomfortable. And, of course, look her straight in the eyes. When you do, you'll come across as the type of cool and confident guy she'd LOVE to give her number to.

Number 8

Practice your approach

It's important to mentally rehearse your first conversations with women. Plan what you're going to say, think about how she will probably respond and what you're going to do in the most common situations. Also, plan how you're going to physically and emotionally respond to a woman who ISN'T interested in talking to you. When you know you can handle the worst-case scenario, your confidence will sky-rocket and women will take notice.

Number 7

Use great “opener” on her

Here’s a great opening line you can go out and use RIGHT NOW to get you started. This one works especially well in bars and nightclubs, and it’s one of my personal favorites. Simply go up to a woman and say, "I'm sure that every drunk dumb-ass and his nine friends have been bothering you tonight, but I just wanted to say that I think you are fantastically beautiful… and I wanted to find out what you were like."

Here’s another great line you can use just about anywhere: "Hi, can I ask you a question… are you single?" [Her: "Why?"] "Well, I know someone that I think would really like you... and if you're single, I think you should consider having a cup of coffee with him…" (Your sly smile hints that the certain someone is YOU).

Number 6

Get her number on the road

Believe it or not, you can get a womans number at 65mph. If you see an attractive woman driving in a car next to you, smile and wave. Then hold up your cell phone and mouth the words "What's your number?" slowly. I love this one…

Number 5

Get her talking

A woman loves sharing her opinions, so why not use this to your advantage? Start the conversation by asking her opinion on something, such as saying, "Hey, my friends and I were talking, and I just want to get a female perspective from you… Do you think that men understand what women want and need?" WARNING: Once you get her talking, you might not be able to stop her!

Number 4

Get her e-mail and number

Most guys make this step way more complicated than it really is. After talking for a minute or two, just say, "Well, it was nice meeting you, I'm going to get back to shopping/my friends/work/whatever." Turn away and take a few steps… then look back at her and say, "Hey, do you have an email? Great, give it to me," then take out your pen and hand it to her. As she's writing her e-mail address, say, "And put your number down there too."

Number 3

Get a female-centric hobby

Another way to meet woman is easily is to take dance lessons… or start teaching something you're an expert on. And if you're with a friend, you can always fall back on the age-old standby where you have your friend approach her for you and build you up to be the man of her dreams.

Number 2

Handle objections

If she says "No, I don’t have e-mail," you say, "Well, do you have ELECTRICITY? OK, you can give me your number then, but it's so hard to reach people these days." And if she objects to giving you her number, no worries… just tease her with "You're going to be OK, just write it down. It's only an e-mail address (or phone number), silly."

Number 1

Get her to start conversations with YOU

There's nothing better than getting a woman to be the one to initiate contact FIRST… and fortunately there are a lot of ways you can get this done. One of my favorite ways is to walk by and say something to a friend within earshot of her, something so provocative that she can't RESIST responding to it… for example you could say "I think that secretly ALL women do it…" Few women will be able to resist coming over asking what you’re talking about.

go get her

The possibilities are endless. Use your imagination, and you can figure out all sorts of ways to bring new, attractive women into your life -- any time, anywhere.

Overcome Silence & Idle Talk - Dating advice for men , Dating tips

Looks aren't everything - you might attract women if you learn correct attitude


Have you ever been upset in favor of tiny chance for being picked up by girls due to your average looks? Most average looking Guys does, obsessing it was their main obstacle for success with women. But have in mind that looks aren't everything. You need to learn how to emphasize your positive personality side and mental strength so you compensate average exterior.

Do you think you are not what girls usually look for in a guy? You could be a bit overweight, introspective, quite shy, and not exactly the social champion. But what's dreadful about that?
Show your interest for woman by putting your feelings evident for her


Woman will get really frustrated with you if you act too shy and probably will conclude you might not be interested in her company. She has no clue whether you’re being shy, or you’re not interested. You have to put your feelings on the line much the same as the other person.

Girls would quickly lose interest when a guy expects her to call, plan and do everything, because she probably initiated the conversation and waits for your action. She would be even more disappointed when they find out months later you really liked her, but just did not say it.

Dating women - achieve experience with physical and emotional intimacy

Men would enthusiastically view socializing with women as a big step that could lead to getting in closeness of someone interested in relationship or long-term friendship. Being an extrovert and funny person makes you an interesting company, which women would like to acquaint.

How do men deal with the vagueness that occurs after the first few initial dates?

However some women are very open, honest and unambiguously expressive but most are quite guarded in their response or give conflicting signals.

Men scarcely deal with the vagueness that occurs after the first few initial dates. Deciding if both partners has similar intentions regarding their evolving relationship ambiguous decision. They would ask partner whether she will want to continue to see them again.

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:

1. First steps in dating – pass up tenseness with a little practice
2. Know to achieve self-confidence in early phase of dating
3. Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel

So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!

First steps in dating – pass up tenseness with a little practice

The first steps in dating are often quite terrifying for both partners involved, but it gets tremendously easier with a little practice. If you can realize this, you will feel better and relax. Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. If you stammer slightly while asking her out, don't worry. She'll probably think it's cute.

The good move is to tell her how you feel. Getting used to a habit of being straightforward about how you feel works out tremendously. Afterwards you’ll have a better idea about how she feels in the same situation.

Achieving self-confidence in early phase of dating

Women are often left in the position of really wanting men to ask them out, but not feeling they can initiate anything for fear of how their actions would be perceived.

Gaining self-confidence in early phase of dating and acquainting women is essential for long-term success with women. You need to know you're attractive guy and achieve some experience with both physical and emotional intimacy. Maybe you'd be better off seeing other girls on a not-so-serious level.

Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel

It’s often better to be subtle when it comes to showing how you feel, especially when you're uncertain as to the seriousness of your relationship.

If you tell a girl that you need her, you risk scaring her off by giving the impression that you're desperate or dependent whatsoever.

Tips to communicate comfortably with women

Bottom line: Convince yourself that you can converse comfortably with women when there's nothing at risk. All you have to do is realize the women you want to ask out on dates are no different from your female colleagues.

Even if she says “no”, it will be good practice. For more tips about first dating steps, physical and emotional intimacy, refer to the e books below:

Get an inside look at what you will learn:

• How to take first steps in dating and pass up tenseness with a little practice?
• How to achieve self-confidence in early phase of dating?
• Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel?

Male Role Models: Who You Need and Why You Need Them - Dating advice for men, dating tips

Whenever youre searching for advice and wisdom and your dad just wont do, you have to look for role models elsewhere. You need to define yourself as a man, and you need examples to lead the way. Being a real man means that there are certain traits you have to adopt and most of these are already latent in your personality. All you have to do is find the perfect role models to mold yourself after. Here are the best men, fictional and real, to help you take the steps you need in order to become A Real Man.

1) James Bond

Bond: That looks like a woman's gun.
Largo: Do you know a lot about guns, Mr. Bond?
Bond: No, but I know a lot about women.

Have you ever seen this guy in a crisis? Does he run away and scream at the first sign of trouble? Never. He maintains a state of relaxed confidence. The way you react during a crisis definitely shows your character, and if you have any sense at all, youll prefer having James Bonds character instead of Richard Simmons. Of course, you may give yourself only five seconds of panic at the first sign of trouble. But after that, you have to take a calm and confident attitude or else your emotions will get the best of you, and youll end up making things worse.

When it comes to approaching women, James Bond doesnt stutter or say Uhm between silences. He knows exactly where he wants to take the conversation. If the lady shows disinterest in him (a rare case), he shrugs it off. He doesnt wallow or linger around like a loser. He walks away from it elegantly. It takes practice to follow his example when it comes to rejections, but its an attitude youll definitely have to develop if you want to allow yourself to take chances.

2) James Dean

Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today.

James Deans persona is the embodiment of the saying Live fast, die young. While it is not recommended that you die young, living fast sounds like good advice. Do something wrong once in a while. It doesnt have to be illegal, it just has to be wrong in one way or another. Smash your fist into a wall. Take up boxing or wrestling and join an amateur competition. Find a way for you to get that natural, exhilarating high. While women say the like stability, most of them are attracted to the wildish nature in men. This wildish nature is the part of a man that seek adventure, unpredictability, and excitement. Get in touch with that aspect of yourself once in a while. Not only will this make you open to new experiences, but it will also make you feel as if youve lived life to the fullest.

3) Donald Trump

"Think big, or go home."

His hairstyle notwithstanding, Donald Trump is a man that all men with ambition should look up to. He takes his dreams seriously, and he doesnt tolerate laziness and mediocrity. He was also married to very beautiful women probably because they couldnt resist how strong and driven he is. It doesnt mean that you should make money and business a priority, the Donald Trump way is finding something that youre passionate about and pursuing it. It means finding a balance between listening to other peoples advice and following your own instincts. Having a sense of accomplishment is something that all men should aspire to, mostly because it makes you feel as if youre contributing something to the world. And lets face it other people, especially women, are drawn to men who have attained something worthwhile.

4) Those Guys from Queer Eye for a Straight Guy

It just goes to show: bad taste does not discriminate. Jai Rodriguez

No, you do not have to sleep with other guys. While it may seem odd that five gay guys are in a real mans role models list, wouldnt it be great if these five guys didnt have to work on straight men anymore? The concept is simple, really men should pay more attention to proper food, grooming, fashion, interior design, and culture. Get rid of the stereotype that heterosexual men are clueless about fashion. Leave the dirty rooms and baggy gangsta clothes to highschool boys. You dont have to nit-pick on every speck of dust in your home or every gram of fat in your food, you just need to pay a little more attention on how you present yourself as well as what you put inside your body. If youre finding the whole gay thing a little awkward, get a subscription of a mens health or mens fashion magazine to keep yourself updated.

5) Vito Corleone

Do you spend time with your family? Good. Because a man who doesn't spend time with his family can never be a real man.

Women like an alpha male, and one of the important characteristics of an alpha male is that he takes care of his family. Being protective and caring of your family and friends shows your deep interest in people, as well as your dependability. Give your younger siblings advice, give your mom the nice coat shes always wanted, and dont be afraid to help out random strangers. You have to be a rock that people can lean on during times of crisis. The test of a true man is to show strength during hardship and this strength is based on reason, not anger and brute force. All real men should display leadership qualities, but they shouldnt confuse this with bossiness. True leaders know when to take charge and when to step aside make sure that you let your woman take control from time to time. The plus side of being a good family man is that when you see how strong youve become for other people, youll soon learn to trust your own strength and instincts.

What Women Look For - Dating advice for men and women, Dating advices for men and teens

good guys

Many women believe that all the good guys are taken, but you know that’s simply not true. iVillage.com is telling women exactly how to spot a great guy, so you best read on to see what qualities she’s looking for in her dream man.

finding mr. right

We all want to find a great guy. But let's face it: How many of your exes seemed fantastic at first, only for you to find out that they were Mr. Wrongs? Well, no more bad boys, mama's boys or anything of the sort! Dr. Bethany Marshall shares her shopping list for a healthy man in this excerpt from her book, Deal Breakers.

When you first meet a man, whether it's online, at the grocery store, at a bar, at school or at your job, you should feel that he wants you.

It may be conveyed by a look, a touch, a compliment, curiosity or attention to detail. And it must, within a short amount of time, be conveyed in person -- not online, through a text message or on the phone. And definitely, it should be backed up by his willingness to make a plan and move the relationship forward. If he's not interested enough to call in advance and make a plan, he's not interested enough to invest his emotions in a relationship. Conversely, constant calling, e-mailing and text-messaging is not true contact. He cannot touch you, see you, adore you or get to know you through words on a screen or over the phone.

Soon after meeting him, you should discover that he has appropriately achieved in at least one area of his life.

For instance, if he went to college he now has a good job. Or a decent car. If he inherited his parents' business, he has learned how to successfully manage it. Or if he is a member of a baseball team, he has learned to become a team player. His efforts continue to generate new opportunities, new skills, new challenges, or new possessions. Thus, he is progressing and not degenerating.

If he's a healthy man, he will never make plans for the future that he does not intend to back up.

And he will certainly not say, “I'm not sure where this relationship is going,” and then continue to call you and have sex with you. He will not send messages that are confusing and difficult to decipher. A healthy man says what he means and means what he says. And the words that he speaks are backed up by action that coincides. Even if he cannot give a guarantee, the relationship is always moving forward. Thus, you will never find yourself drunk-dialing at two in the morning because you fear that he is out with another girl. Or find yourself in a situation where he claims to want to get married , but you are the only one who is planning the wedding and paying for the caterer.

If you are in the right relationship, it will feel reciprocal and mutual.

When you offer emotional support, is he appreciative? Does he give back by surprising you with a special little something? Or remembering your favorite drink? Do you feel that what he gives is as valuable and meaningful as what you offer? For instance, if you set aside a Saturday night, will he make an entertainment plan that is enjoyable for both of you? If your car breaks down, will he come and get you? If you have a problem, will he help you? Is he as devoted to you as you are to him? Healthy relationships are based upon mutual give-and-take. And what is given and received should feel of equal value. If the only thing that you are getting out of this relationship is text messages or e-mails, occasional plans or the assurance that you won't be alone on a Saturday night, you are not getting what you need.

If he's the right guy for you, he will have good friends and you will like who he is when he's with them.

Whether he's at the bar, at a tailgate party or running for political office, you are confident that he is the man you know and love, both with you or apart from you. When he's out of sight, he does not turn into somebody else. For instance, a player. Or a jerk. Conversely, when you include him with your friends, you know who he will be: charming and engaging, enhancing instead of detracting.

If he's a healthy man, he will like you for who you are.

Even if you have a bad day or say something that he does not like, his adoration will remain steady and his view of you will remain the same. Beware of the guy whose perception changes whenever you deviate from his expectations. For instance, you dress a certain way and he refuses to hold you or compliment you. Or you gain weight and he stops having sex with you. Does he take pleasure in you, whether you look sexy in your low-rider jeans or have just gotten out of bed? Does he spend time with your family because he knows that you are a part of them? Is he interested in your spirituality? Or do you feel that you must suppress your personality in order to hold on to his approval? Even when it comes to your sexual preferences, you should feel free to reveal yourself without fear of losing his affection.

A healthy man will never view you as unconditionally bad or make you feel terrible about yourself.

Even in the midst of an argument, he will be able to see both the good and the bad in you. For instance, he will not stay mad at you once the argument is over. And he will move on instead of clinging to bad feelings or suspicions. He loves you and sees you as a good person, no matter what. And he would never refuse to call, refuse to be nice, or walk out the door without quickly returning simply because you shared your concerns with him.

A healthy man has a learning curve.

For instance, if you tell him that you need more time together or need him to stop doing something that is obnoxious, he will shift his behavior because he loves you and does not want to lose you. He is willing to learn from his mistakes and modify his actions. For instance, if he begins a friendship with a flirtatious girl and you let him know that this is creating a problem, he will be concerned about your feelings and come up with a solution. When you discuss relationship obstacles, he works on them. He would never admit to a substance abuse problem and then refuse to address it. Or agree to appropriately separate from his mother (who dislikes you), but then go running back to the nest.

If he is healthy, he will seek his own solutions.

For instance, if he has a problem, he will reach out to others for help, find resources, have a conversation, go to therapy, attend a 12-step program -- anything that will move him closer to making the changes that he needs to make. (You could do worse than give him this book. No, wait -- make him buy his own damn copy!) Petty pride, laziness or stubbornness will not keep him from taking the steps that he needs to take to have a full relationship with you.

A healthy man will not try to have power over you.

He won't leave you wondering where he is and what he is doing. Or leave you hanging just to prove a point. Or make you feel that you have to disappear for a few days to recover the power you once had. Even if he has more money, status and power, he will not make you feel that you would be nothing without him. A healthy man is willing to take you into account instead of pushing you away. He is willing to listen, meet your needs, and include you in mutual decision-making. Because you matter, he does not want to have undue influence or control over you. And he can trust that he is loved, even when he is not in charge. When it comes to who takes care of whom, and who makes the decisions, and who gets the last say, he is willing to negotiate (because, really, all of life is a little like Let's Make a Deal).

10: Ways To Attract Her With Humor - Dating advice for men dating advices for teens

Number 10

Cocky Comedy defined

The purpose of Cocky Comedy isn’t to make a woman laugh -- it’s about making her feel ATTRACTION. Cocky Comedy is just the right mixture of cocky or arrogant and funny. Why this combination? Women aren’t attracted to lower-status men… and the cocky element implies you have high status. Healthy-minded women aren’t attracted to complete jerks either, and the comedy element keeps you out of the “complete jerk” category. If you can make a woman laugh at something you say that’s busting on her or is extremely arrogant-sounding, you’ve achieved a magical accomplishment. THAT is Cocky Comedy.

Number 9

Mess with her

When you mess with one of your friends but you sound serious, how does your friend know that you’re messing with him? It’s obvious because you’re being overly serious or “overly harsh” or “overreacting.” The problem is that most guys don’t do this stuff with women they don’t know… ESPECIALLY women they’re attracted to.

But it’s critical that you switch the conversation from the normal mode to the “I’m messing with you” mode QUICKLY. don’t let the conversation stay too normal for too long before switching it up. To switch into this mode, give an overexaggerated compliment that can’t be real but seems way too serious; accuse her of stepping over the line and trying to pick you up in some way; complain about something in an overly serious way. Keep her on her toes and you’ll keep her interested.

Number 8

Bust her balls

Want to REALLY dial up the attraction? Bust a woman’s balls just like you bust on your buddies. Call her names like dork, brat and dude. If she WHINES about anything, mock her whining in an exaggerated and playful way. Interrupt her repeatedly, then be overly silent. Bust her balls just like she’s an old buddy of yours, and she’ll be blown away by your confidence and sense of humour.

Number 7

Use your body

Your gestures, facial expressions and voice tone are all great Cocky Comedy tools. Push her into things as you’re walking. Hand her something but then don’t let go, and don’t grab something she’s handing to you. Steal her food or take the big piece. Swat her playfully with a magazine, napkin or whatever you can find. Thumb wrestle, tickle her… the possibilities here are endless.

Number 6

Never laugh to make her laugh

It sounds incredible, but most laughter ISN’T in response to something funny. We usually laugh when we’re seeking someone’s approval -- even if what the other person said isn’t all that funny. Men try to force a woman to give him this approval by saying something that’s supposed to make her laugh, and then laughing at his own joke in hopes he’ll get her to laugh too (and so give him the approval he’s looking for).

But all this does is communicate to her that he’s desperately seeking her approval… which is one of a woman’s BIGGEST TURNOFFS. Imagine a guy laughing at his own joke, and the woman is looking around for some kind of distraction so she can pretend that the guy she’s with isn’t as much of a DORK as he seems to be. DON’T BE THAT GUY. Never laugh to try to make a woman laugh in return.

Number 5

Hold your laughter to amplify attraction

Women are attracted to higher status males. So how does a woman tell if she’s talking to one? If she catches herself seeking HIS approval, and he never seeks HER approval, then she unconsciously knows that she’s dealing with a higher-status man.

And she’ll reward that man with mating opportunities. That’s where Cocky Comedy comes in. When you make a woman laugh (which is her seeking your approval), but not laugh yourself (which communicates that YOU don’t need HER approval), you’ll create and AMPLIFY her attraction to you. It’s an unconscious communication she can’t help but respond to.

Number 4

Learn the Cocky Comedy character

Most guys who naturally use Cocky Comedy aren’t TRYING to be funny, and they’re definitely not seeking approval -- they’re being the CHARACTER. The character is where 90% of the humor flows from.

So what is the character? If you catch yourself thinking, “She’s just trying to get me into bed" and “What’s in it for me?" or if you're sarcastically encouraging her bad behavior or imitating her silly quirks, then you’ve got the character. When you do, you’ll find that Cocky Comedy will happen almost automatically, and so will a woman's attraction for you.

Number 3

When something works… turn it up

As you start to use Cocky Comedy, you’ll notice women react to you in new and different ways. When they do, it’s time to TURN IT UP A NOTCH. So if a woman is acting fake mad, say, “You love me and you know it.” If a woman playfully hits your shoulder, say “Hey, you just hit me… just like a little girl on the playground hitting a boy she likes… you love me, and it’s OBVIOUS.”

Number 2

Avoid these common mistakes

Too much funny and she’ll see you as goofy or dorky. Too much cocky and she’ll see you as an A-hole, a jerk or an insecure guy. Don’t mistake an outright putdown for being cocky. And never do Cocky Comedy to impress woman or show off; you’ll make yourself look like a dumb-ass.

Number 1

Fill your toolbox with OTHER tools too

Although Cocky Comedy is one of the most POWERFUL strategies I’ve come across for creating attraction in a woman. it’s a mistake to think that it’s everything or, for that matter, to think that ANYTHING is everything when it comes to attracting a woman. Cocky Comedy is a lethal tool, don’t get me wrong, but don’t rely on Cocky Comedy to create attraction all by itself. You must overcome your insecurities, polish up your personality quirks and learn to control your body language -- and many other things -- if you want to really take advantage of the power that this technique and way of thinking has to offer.


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Competing For Women - Dating advice for men and dating advice for teens

What should a guy do when another guy is competing for the same woman?

One of the ULTIMATE ways to handle situations like these is very simple: HAVE FUN.

The thing that really screws things up for most guys when this happens is letting it take them off balance... and screwing up their composure.

By laughing it off, or even making fun of the guys who are trying to make their move, you wind up coming off even MORE powerful.

Why does a woman often call a man out of the blue after not hearing from him for several weeks?

There's something about walking away from a woman, not calling her etc., that triggers some sort of mechanism that causes her to call at the most unlikely times.

My experience is that there's some kind of two- to four-week timer in a woman's head that goes off if she doesn't hear from you.

Again, I have no explanation for this particular bizarre pattern, but it has happened to me so many times that I can't believe it.

Women who have guys calling them day and night will be walking through their house one evening and all of a sudden think, "Where is that one guy? I have to call him... Why isn't he calling me?"

Of course, as this begins to happen, you can take this as a strong signal that you're beginning to REALLY get the ideas I talk about.

If I'm talking to two women, and I don't know which one I like, what should I do? I don't want to screw it up and offend one of them. And if it doesn't work out with one of them, would it be cool to be able to switch to the other? Which one should I get the e-mail and number from?"

BOTH, DUH.

The ultimate way to handle two or three or more women that are all beautiful and interesting is to say, "You know, you guys are EQUALLY DORKY, so instead of just rejecting all of you, I'll let you all give me your numbers, and maybe we can hang out sometime... and I can teach you how to be cool like me..."

When you just relax, have fun and approach the situation casually, you can walk away with ALL of the women's numbers.

And guess what?
Attractive women know OTHER attractive women. If it doesn't work out with one, she'll know 10 more.

Think big, act big and you'll reap big rewards.

Essential Top Dating Tips and dating advice - dating advice for men

I thought I would bring you the key dating tips I have gathered along the way in the hope of assisting and enlightening those who need assistance. If you are new to the dating scene, a regular or just simply someone trying to meet someone new there should always be time for top dating tips, advice, information and things to consider. None of us are dating experts otherwise we would have a magic formula to present to others. And no, looks are not the magic formula otherwise all supermodels would be blissfully happy - which they are not my friend. Good looking people the world over struggle when it comes to affairs of the heart. Think of all the major figures in history who have fallen in matters of romance.

The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in stone and different things will always work differently for different people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating them here.

My Top Dating Tips

• Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either.

• Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.

• Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.

• Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.

• Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.

• Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances.

• Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors.

• Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.

• Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.

• Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.

• Do Join a quality Internet dating agency for free and do post a photo profile if possible. Take your time and check your mail occasionally. Even if you never date online at least it will boost your confidence and spirits and allow you to Practise your opening lines and chat up skills. Internet dating is fun and secure and introduces you to the world of dating safely and gently.

Please watch for more top dating tips over the coming months as more articles are added to our dating advice database.

Attract Her Silently - Dating advice for men

There’s more than one way to communicate, and experts will tell you the majority of human communication is expressed through our actions and expressions. If this is the case, wouldn’t it be reasonable to assume we could spark interest and attraction without the benefit of words? A picture is worth a thousand words, and so is a meaningful look or a significant gesture. While you will, of course, have to speak eventually, it isn’t essential that the launching pad consist of verbal interaction. Women are generally considered the more sensitive sex -- for better or for worse -- and therefore they’re more likely to notice the little things, things typical men might consider trivial or superfluous. Take advantage of this by making the silent approach a projection of your personality and desire with the absence of words. Your goal, of course, is to land an actual verbal flirting encounter.

The well-rounded Player should be capable of such a task, especially when the human psyche often generates a first impression before the first words are uttered. You should know how crucial a first impression is, and you’re virtually ensuring a great one if you can nail the silent approach. She’ll remember the way you looked at her and the way you looked when she first saw you. If done smoothly, it should work wonders.

Here are several tips to get you started, but remember: If this fails, a close, flirtatious encounter may be entirely out of the question.

Show similar interests through your actions

This will take some early observation coupled with a timely movement or gesture on your part. It’s easiest to explain through examples, so here’s one: Perhaps you’re in the supermarket and you’re both browsing through the produce. She’s selecting a cantaloupe and you “just happen” to reach for the same one at the same time (it’s not anywhere near as difficult as it sounds). Another example may take place at your home away from home: the bar or dance club. You’ve been keeping your eye on this hot little number three tables over and you notice she only orders one particular drink, giving you the perfect opportunity to purchase one and send it over. In turn, the door is opened to a “Hey, that’s your favorite drink, too?” sort of meeting. Birds of a feather!

This could happen anywhere, at any time. Whether you’re out in the park jogging and you match her pace for a little while or you simply stop beside her to examine a store window on the sidewalk, relating to her without words can be a surprisingly straightforward process.

Prompt verbal contact with your eyes/actions

This goes well beyond a simple look; you’re seeking to grab her attention with a specific action. For instance, say you’re in a department store looking through a rack of shirts. You notice a particularly appealing target within the same vicinity so you get a bit closer, select a shirt and hold it up. Catch her eye and shoot her an inquisitive look as if to say, “How’s this?” Or perhaps you find yourself in an elevator, stuck behind one particularly rude individual who believes the entire world wants to hear his personal cell phone conversation. A shared rolling of the eyes is often enough to spark light banter before you depart the elevator, and provided you’ve properly honed your speed-flirting skills, you’re golden.

By the way, this tip comes fully equipped with an added perk, one you’ve probably already surmised: You can easily gauge her interest by her reaction. The situation is almost irrelevant; if you attempt to share common ground with only a look, the results in her eyes and facial reaction should be clear.

Opposites attract from a distance

Here you will present yourself as a polar opposite from afar. Now, it may sound bizarre and maybe even counterproductive, but when done properly, this technique works far better than you might expect. If your eyes have already crossed paths, you’ve probably sketched a rudimentary portrait of her personality based on her reaction (remember the previous hint?). Therefore, if she’s clearly the shy type and averts her eyes with a small smile, you come on strong from across the room with a big smile and direct eye contact. If she likes to play the role of the aggressor, you become the hard-to-get target and play it soft. Get it? The key to “talking with your eyes” centers on a person’s ability to blend facial expressions with eye movement. In other words, if she looks away with downcast eyes and a small grin, she’s playing shy and coy. If you keep a steady gaze and a larger smile, it’s obviously a more straightforwad approach (just don’t stare like a nut).

You could also implement an idea from the previous tip, which includes buying her a drink in a bar with the accompanying -- and appropriate -- look. In other situations, you might even be able to pick up her movie tickets for her while standing in line at the theatre -- a surprising and flattering move.

Offer to help in an appropriate situation

It’s the silent, yet gallant, approach that will open so many doors; in fact, you might start with that one: Simply open a door for a lovely lady. There are multiple opportunities to take advantage of the straightforward gentleman theory, and that includes helping a woman when she’s clearly loaded down with packages or bags, helping her pick up the purse she dropped (and the contents that spilled from it), etc. Don’t say a word; simply move to assist and you’ll immediately be in her good graces.

Remember, though, we’re not advising you to create these opportunities. In the preceding example, for instance, don’t knock into her on purpose just for an excuse to help her retrieve the fallen items. Not only is it too transparent and even predictable, it’s also a little underhanded. For this tip, you simply need to be in the right place at the right time; don’t force the issue.

Dress to fit the occasion

When you know where you’re going and you know what type of woman you’re seeking, you can gain the upper hand by dressing appropriately… and alluringly. Women pay very close attention to the way a man dresses -- any successful Player knows this -- and you can get a foot in the door by selecting the best possible attire. If you’re looking for a higher class of female at a particularly elegant club, you’re going to have to dress it up beyond what is required.

Women dress to attract males, and contrary to popular belief, the door does swing both ways. Besides, it’s yet another opening for conversation and a chance for you to comment on her outfit, which very rarely fails to impress if done correctly.

Lure her with an outside “cuteness factor”

If you’ve ever been to the park in search of a delectable target, you’ll know it’s best to go with a partner in crime… one who’s a great deal smaller. You may not have a baby or a dog close at hand, so if you don’t just borrow one for the day. Babysitting or pet-sitting -- it doesn’t matter because provided you head to the right locations, you’ll be in a prime position to hear a lot of “aww” and “isn’t he cute?!” comments.

In one way, those compliments are indirectly aimed at you, as women instantly believe a man with either a child or pet is both sensitive and mature, capable of making (and upholding) important life decisions. Besides, without a woman holding your hand, they’ll also assume you’re a single parent -- or single pet owner -- and best of all, they will initiate contact. You just gotta play it up a bit by getting all mushy with your companion for the day. Sure, you may be risking some of those masculinity trophies you’ve acquired over the years, but it’s worth taking the chance.

actions speak louder

Ever wonder why there are so many jokes about bad pickup lines? It’s obviously because there are so many bad pickup lines. Despite the fact that much of human communication is done in a non-verbal capacity, saying the right thing to a woman remains pretty crucial. But you can remove some of the pressure simply by establishing an extraordinary positive rapport without even opening your mouth. The previous tips may sometimes rely on things you can’t control such as timing, the type of women in the vicinity and unique situational demands, but the foundation for each is solid. It’s not chivalrous to say you’re preying on a woman’s sensitivity, but it’s very honorable to say you’re simply speaking her language… without ever saying a single word.