Dating tips and dating advices for men - Avoiding Rejection When “Getting Physical”

Most men don’t know the first thing about how to take things to a “physical” level with a woman. Here’s why:

Let’s say you’ve been out on a date with a woman, and you’re now back at your place, having an enjoyable conversation. You look over at her. She looks back at you. You want to kiss her. She knows that you want to kiss her. You know that she is the one with all the power. If you try to kiss her, and she pulls away, she might reject you forever. If you don’t try to kiss her, maybe it will happen later, or maybe she’ll even kiss you…

The risk of being rejected forever is so powerful and creates such fear that you decide to just “walk away” from the situation and hope something happens later.

Or, let’s say that you’ve been out with a woman a few times, and you have just kissed her for the first time. You know that she’s enjoying it. She knows that you want her. You’d really like to do more, but you’re afraid that if you try, you’ll be seen as “moving too fast”, or even worse… a “pushy pervert”.

You hate the idea of being rejected after you’ve invested all that time and come so far… So you decide to stop and hope that maybe things will “heat back up” later.
We’ve All Been There

If you really stop and think about it, the reason why you run into problems in situations like these is that:

1. You don’t understand exactly what turns women on.
2. You are afraid of rejection.
3. You don’t know what SHE’S thinking, so you hesitate.

I honestly believe that most men cause their own problems and resistance when it comes to “getting physical” with a woman. Yes, you read that right… Men are the ones who cause the problems.

It’s not the woman!

It’s the fact that you don’t understand the situation, what’s really going on, and how to proceed.
What Women Want… But Will Never Tell You

Here’s a little secret that most women will never share with you… She knows what’s on your mind. Women can tell what you’re thinking! If you want to kiss her, but you’re nervous about it, she knows. If you’re kissing her and want to do more… she knows. And here’s the kicker: If you’re afraid of her rejecting you, she knows. Really.

Women are approximately ten times as good at men when it comes to reading and interpreting subtle body language, and they know what we’re thinking. Let me correct myself… slightly. They know what most men are thinking.

Now, let’s talk a little bit about the topics of resistance and rejection.

Here’s an interesting thought:

In their book “Sexual Interactions: Basic Understandings“, Albert and Elizabeth Allgeier mention that in one study almost 40% of women reported refusing sexual intercourse when they actually wanted it. They call this “The token no”.

So, what’s going on here?

Hold on… one more thing before I discuss this, I want to point out that this doesn’t mean that a woman wants a man to force himself on her. Never force a woman to do anything!

Here’s what’s going on… Women enjoy anticipation. Anticipation leads to sexual arousal. Write that down… on your forehead. You need to remember that women like the idea of wanting and expecting what’s going to happen.

The reason why a lot of women say that they don’t want to sleep with men even when they do is because the man doesn’t get it. Men act like they would enjoy it if a woman just took off her clothes and said, “Let’s do it.”

Women act like they want a man to chase them around all night… and then maybe do it. Maybe. So if you want her to feel more turned on, and to get less “resistance”, then use anticipation.

I have a technique that I teach that’s called “Two steps forward, one step back”. This is a way to increase a woman’s sexual arousal and amplify the attraction that’s already present in the situation.

Here’s how it works:

Let’s say that you’re talking to a woman at your place, and you start holding her hand. After a few minutes, take your hand back and stop. Lean back. Keep talking.

A few minutes later, reach over and take her hand again… and keep talking. Then, lean over and kiss her (use “The Kiss Test” as described at my website and in my “Double Your Dating” ebook). After you’ve kissed her, stop. Lean back again. Keep talking.

A few minutes later, reach over and kiss her again. This time, kiss her for a little longer. Kiss her a little deeper. Then stop. Lean back. Smile.

When you use this technique, you will be absolutely stunned at the results.

First of all, it completely changes the situation. Instead of a woman resisting you, she’ll be much more likely to try to get you to do more. She’ll very likely be confused. She’ll be thinking to herself, “What’s going on here? Most guys try to push themselves on me, or they don’t do anything at all. This guy seems like he’s so in control of himself. And I keep getting more turned on. Maybe I should tell him that we’re not going to sleep together tonight. But this is so great…”

And the best part of this technique is that it’s what women want you to do!

Of course, they’d never tell you this. And even if a woman could explain it, she wouldn’t want to tell you. Women want men who already get it.

I want to mention a couple of more important things.

First, if you want to even get to the point where it’s time to hold a woman’s hand, kiss her, and get even more physical, then you must understand how attraction works, and how to make women feel that powerful emotion.

If you don’t, then knowing all the fancy techniques in the world won’t help you. It’s also very useful to understand what to do after you’ve kissed a woman… the details of how to do other, more intimate things.