How to impress a guy or girl : - Dating advices and dating tips for men and women.

This is the question we askd our readers on dating advices and dating tips.

Are you highly successful when it comes to making a good impression on the opposite sex?

Does a first date usually lead up to a few more?

Is it the art of conversation that has fuelled your popularity?

Give us the lowdown on your smooth talk!

We invite our readers who have the gift of gab to tell us what kind of lines they use to have the opposite sex eating out of their hands. Ladies, tell us what gets the guys going, and guys, tell us what has the ladies swooning.

Come, share your dating tactics with other Get Ahead readers! Post your advice, experiences and opinions on the message board below.

here r the answers from our readers:

How to impress the opposite sex
by jal shakti on Aug 07, 2007 11:57 AM | Hide replies

It all depends upon the type of person you are going to meet.Keeping all things aside ,I'd say that we should be neat -clean, healthy,well dressed and should not have bad breath,Good,looks physique,charecter,with the ability to converse in good language(sweet words) and a purse full with money and the patience to take her around for shopping & movies / entertainment & parties.Above all should be willing always,for any thing and any time.

How to Impress
by HariOm Chawla on Aug 05, 2007 10:00 PM | Hide replies

Don't make any conscious effort to make good impression. Just be yourself. You are an individual; she is also an idividual, though of the opposite sex. Just have a free, frank talk. If you have common interests, likes and dislikes; it is O.K. Treat her as a person, and give full respect.

100% many womans be pataoed!
by Phaltu Uloo on Aug 01, 2007 06:53 PM | Hide replies

I is thinking for impress womans,problem not: first oil the hairs (better with coconut oil), make straight parting. Put powder on face, istri jean-pant and bush-shirt and putting
blue-strap hawai chappals. Stand on street corner with mobile inside ears and talk the English with amrikan style when womans
coming.Please not to talk the BC & MC language.
100% many womans be pataoed! If not patoed,no tension, problem not; Change coconut hair oils. Use Rai ka tel. 100% chance to Aish karo! PS: after pataoing, please do not forget PU.

How to impress the opposite sex
by on Aug 01, 2007 02:46 PM

Politeness and honesty of thoughts and the conviction with which you talk to a girl can do wonders. Restraint in self praise and excessive praise of your girl friend at times makes your feelings look fake. One must be humble, caring and decent and not be on the look of an oppertunity to display physical gestures like you wanting to hold her hand or putting it round her waist. You may be looked upon as a person who is in a hurry to be physical without understanding the girls nature and attitude. Girls want themselves to be understood, feel comfortable in your company and then once they are satisfied about your nature things would flow gradually and desirously. Dont ever try to push your way or impose things and conditions on issues which are talked about in your conversation. The first round of conversation should be general and not too specific but you must remember that it should not at all be probing. This would reflect that you are a pile on. Ajay

Big Joke!
by vipul parmar on Aug 01, 2007 01:19 PM

I think the creator of the story is frustrated with girls and actually trying to be gay either so he wants people's opinion for his last hope.
You dumbo every hole have different key as every girl or boy have different turn ons and one has to play as and when required.

There are no standard rules available in the world which helps a person to impress opposite sex except you study psychology and use those rules in real life.

dating tips
by Calvin Hobbes on Aug 01, 2007 01:17 PM | Hide replies

1. Do not try to impress her at all. Just be your natural self.
2. Don't be serious.
3. Now if you really want to impress her, take her to a place she never dreamt of. Let me be clear on this.. If you don't have anything which could impress her do not try to impress her. Now suppose you own a mall or a merc or something flashy and expensive, just show it to her without assuming anything,

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10: Ways To Stand Out From Other Men - dating advices and dating tips for men

Did you know that when you meet a woman, the odds are high that she is already dating several OTHER men? Most men never consider this, but should. Not only are attractive women approached all the time… they are often juggling several "suitors" at any one moment.

If you want to stand out from "the pack"... and get her chasing YOU… you must be different. You need to develop yourself -- inside and out -- so you offer her a special experience with a different kind of guy. Here are 10 tips to help you do it.

Number 10

Deserve success

Deep down inside, most men don’t really believe they DESERVE success… especially with attractive women -- and it shows. Women can sense this kind of guy a MILE AWAY. If you don’t feel deserving of women, you'll come up with all sorts of interesting and creative ways to "sabotage" yourself. Instead, you need to look inside yourself and cultivate the belief that a woman would be LUCKY to be with you. Go ahead and write down three reasons why this is true. When you truly believe that you deserve success, you'll stand out "head and shoulders" above other men… and you'll attract women like a magnet.

Number 9

Feature your insecurities

One of the best things you can do to stand out from other men is to let go of any "hang ups" you have about your insecurities. The fact is… EVERY guy has them. Most men try to cover them up… but the more they try, the more insecure they appear to women. And women HATE this. It's like when a woman wears way too much makeup -- it's obvious she's covering up something BAD.

Instead of hiding your insecurities, feature them until they no longer bother you. One way to do this is to make cocky jokes about them when you're flirting with a woman. For instance, if you’re insecure about your height…. say something like: "This is never going to work out. You're not good at arguing, and I overcompensate for being short (or bald or broke) by acting arrogant… so we'd always argue, and I'd always WIN." When you shed light on your insecurities -- in a funny way -- a woman can't help but to be captivated by your candor and charm.

Number 8

Give yourself permission

Have you ever had the chance to start a conversation with a woman, but you didn't want to interrupt her or put pressure on her… so you never took the chance? Most people are unconsciously seeking PERMISSION… constantly… to do every little thing. But to improve your success with women, you need to break out of this cycle and learn to give YOURSELF permission.

How? One way is to have role models. Find guys who are good with women and watch them start conversations. By seeing THEM do it, you'll feel more permission for YOU to do the same. And you'll begin to see plenty of areas in your life where you can give yourself permission to act -- where other men hold back. A man with the freedom to take action when and where he wants is rare -- and women find this kind of "bold" guy VERY attractive.

Number 7

Be okay with her independence

Most men feel "left out" if a woman wants to do something alone or with friends other than HIM. Ever have a girl you really liked tell you, "I'm so excited! I'm going out with my friends to this concert on Saturday," or maybe it was camping or some other fun event… and INSTANTLY you felt jealous or sad -- like you just LOST something?

While it's "normal" to have this reaction, you CAN learn how to get over it and move to a higher level. Realize that it's mature to allow others -- especially women -- to live their lives and enjoy their own experiences… without you feeling that you're losing something. And on the flip side, work on building your desire to do things WITHOUT HER… and truly enjoy doing them. When you learn this perspective, she'll see that you have an inner confidence and independence that few other men have… and she'll find herself uncontrollably drawn to you.

Number 6

Clarify your path

Have you ever thought about the course of your life… your values… your vision? Most men haven't… and a woman can tell IMMEDIATELY if she's dealing with a man who hasn't got his life "on track" yet. The more clarity you have about your path -- who you are and where you're headed -- the more women will find you desirable. Women LOVE men who have their life "together" and who know themselves on a deeper level. So be different -- challenge yourself to clarify your own path… and enjoy the bonus of attracting women at a level you've never known before.

Number 5

Develop your mature masculinity

Every woman wants to be with a mature man -- and by mature, I don't mean STUFFY, BORING and OLD… I mean a man who "gets" what it means to be a MATURE ADULT. So how can you raise your own level of maturity? Stop correcting others to make yourself feel important… stop being a "know it all" so people will give you approval… and quit saying and doing things to get attention rather than to add real value to those around you. These are all "boy-man" behaviors, and you have to give these up if you want to be a truly mature man -- that rare kind of guy women swoon over…

Number 4

Live on the edge

Ever known a guy that lived life to it's fullest -- where every day was a new adventure? He probably was the kind of guy who consistently had women fighting for his attention. But did you ever ask yourself where he got his "seize the day" attitude? One powerful way you can develop this attractive, "free-spirited" attitude is by getting over your fear of DEATH, and then using the idea of death to ignite your passion for living every day as if it were your last. Embrace the idea of your own death… use it as a tool to enjoy your life even more -- and create the PASSIONATE lifestyle women want to be a part of.

Number 3

Build a happy single life

Did you know that most men in relationships did not have HAPPY single lives? It's true. Most men start off unhappy alone... then they find a woman to cling to… they hold on too tightly and give away their power to win approval… which, in turn, destroys all attraction she had. Don't repeat this mistake. Instead, build a happy single life FIRST. Get to the point where your single life is so damn good that you PREFER being single… fill your life with so many things you enjoy that you literally have to think about how to fit a woman in… then CHOOSE a relationship because it makes your already incredible life better. The more you love your single life, the more desirable you become. Don't be surprised when attractive women want to hop on your "party train" and go for a ride…

Number 2

Cultivate your "cool"

Ask any woman and she'll tell you "real men" are hard to come by… they are the rare diamond that all women secretly seek. So how does a woman know when she's in the presence of one? Here are a couple of clues: First, a real man has learned how to be comfortable around beautiful women… they don't affect him any differently than anyone else. In addition, he's relaxed around powerful, high-status people, like his boss or a celebrity… you’ll see no ass-kissing or subservient behavior from him. On top of that, a “real man” keeps his composure when facing competition from other men instead of “freaking out.” In other words, he’s learned how to keep his cool in EVERY situation… so it's no surprise that -- just like the ultra-cool Fonz from Happy Days -- there's no shortage of women in his life.

Number 1

Take the time to do your "homework"

Most men have a particular woman in mind that they'd like to meet… and they think the FIRST STEP in winning her over is to understand what makes her "tick." But this is putting the cart before the horse. Before you can understand what she wants you first need to understand MEN. Then, you need to apply what you learn about men in general to YOURSELF in particular. Next, you need to study female psychology -- how women think and what they want. And only THEN can you figure out what the PARTICULAR woman in front of you wants, and how to communicate with her in a way that dials up the attraction and makes her crave to be with you… and ONLY you. 99% of men get this sequence BACKWARD… but when you take the time to understand how to put these "pieces of the puzzle" together, you won't believe the effect it will have on your dating life.

How to get women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome man - dating advice and dating tips for men

You can experience a state of brainpower where being with a woman, or doing a particular thing, feels magically smooth and easy. To enhance the romantic mood, make sure you share at least some common ideas and interests with each other.

Which woman will appreciate your masculine qualities?

Women like it when you show that you respect them and agree with their ideas. However, believe in yourselves. If you don't learn how to do it, you'll probably find that others won't believe in you either. So, how do you enhance romantic mood with women?

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:

1. Win women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome
2. Show strong personality mature and desirable attitude
3. Develop promising relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction

So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!

Win women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome

Women don't ask guys out generally. They don't even indicate romantic interest initially. However, fact that women aren't responding to your signals doesn't inevitably mean you're a total loser.

Women tend to be picky and play games too, as some men do. Pretending to be uninterested to a guy unless he's amazingly charming and handsome, they expect men to make the first move.

Strong personality makes a men appear mature and desirable

Women like it when you show that you respect them and agree with their ideas. However, don't compromise your own belief system just to please him. Having a strong personality and unshakable attitude makes a men appear mature and desirable to women.

As a guy matures in his feelings about women, he should tend to go from sex-oriented view of women to emotional intimacy of women.

How to show off your strong personality

Men don't drop hints, like the way women do when they're interested in a guy.

Women find men who are pro-active extremely attractive, that's the quality, which men should go for. It involves confidence, charisma, and the ability to have fun. Showing off your strong personality, requires knowing yourself and your surroundings.

Promising relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction

The truth is that some relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction lose interest and wind up as just-friends.

On the other hand, the ones who start off, as close friends may become lovers someday if the conditions are right. So how do you progress from an acquaintance to a true relationship with a woman you’re attracted to? For more tips about developing strong personality and unshakable attitude attractive to women, refer to the e books below:

Relationships On Mutual Interests - Dating tips and dating advice for men and teens

Do you feel that initial lust and passion in relationship wit your former girlfriend waned over the time? Once promising relationship gradually turned down to boredom and mutual avoidance, why if you still like her?

Friends as lovers remembering their previous relationship usually make mistakes that turn lust ad attraction off. They try to get used to partner’s pleasance and neglect their relationship.

Attracting women

Have you been stuck minding the ideas for activities on date? Should you propose walking out, coffee, dinner, watching sports, or something completely different? How do you actually know what she is interested in at all? You can always start with activities you personally enjoy, and hope she’ll share your interests.

Ask, and you’re never on the wrong side. However if she’s shy or a bit introvert, she could reject your date proposal even if she’d like to make you company. The only idea you need for a date is something you enjoy or have wanted to try.

10: Ways To Meet A New Woman Tonight - Dating advices and dating tips.

Meeting a new woman can be a daunting task. Most guys have NO CLUE how to do it, so they crash and burn, again and again. If you want to meet a new woman without running the risk of getting shot down you need a solid game plan. Use these 10 tips to start talking to women and getting numbers and dates in no time.

Number 10

Find a target-rich environment

It’s important that you find those special places that are PACKED with attractive women, places where it's natural to start talking to them and where there's less COMPETITION and distraction from other guys. Try the yoga class at your local gym… the Starbucks across from the tanning salon… the weekend art show, etc. If you’re willing to do a little research, you’ll discover that there are literally TONS of great places to meet women in your area that most men have NO IDEA even exist…

Number 9

Play it cool

When you see a woman you want to meet, pay attention to the situation and approach her when she's not likely to feel "rudely interrupted." It’s also a MUST that you eliminate nervous ticks, stilted body language, fast movements, stuttering, and any other signs that show you're uncomfortable. And, of course, look her straight in the eyes. When you do, you'll come across as the type of cool and confident guy she'd LOVE to give her number to.

Number 8

Practice your approach

It's important to mentally rehearse your first conversations with women. Plan what you're going to say, think about how she will probably respond and what you're going to do in the most common situations. Also, plan how you're going to physically and emotionally respond to a woman who ISN'T interested in talking to you. When you know you can handle the worst-case scenario, your confidence will sky-rocket and women will take notice.

Number 7

Use great “opener” on her

Here’s a great opening line you can go out and use RIGHT NOW to get you started. This one works especially well in bars and nightclubs, and it’s one of my personal favorites. Simply go up to a woman and say, "I'm sure that every drunk dumb-ass and his nine friends have been bothering you tonight, but I just wanted to say that I think you are fantastically beautiful… and I wanted to find out what you were like."

Here’s another great line you can use just about anywhere: "Hi, can I ask you a question… are you single?" [Her: "Why?"] "Well, I know someone that I think would really like you... and if you're single, I think you should consider having a cup of coffee with him…" (Your sly smile hints that the certain someone is YOU).

Number 6

Get her number on the road

Believe it or not, you can get a womans number at 65mph. If you see an attractive woman driving in a car next to you, smile and wave. Then hold up your cell phone and mouth the words "What's your number?" slowly. I love this one…

Number 5

Get her talking

A woman loves sharing her opinions, so why not use this to your advantage? Start the conversation by asking her opinion on something, such as saying, "Hey, my friends and I were talking, and I just want to get a female perspective from you… Do you think that men understand what women want and need?" WARNING: Once you get her talking, you might not be able to stop her!

Number 4

Get her e-mail and number

Most guys make this step way more complicated than it really is. After talking for a minute or two, just say, "Well, it was nice meeting you, I'm going to get back to shopping/my friends/work/whatever." Turn away and take a few steps… then look back at her and say, "Hey, do you have an email? Great, give it to me," then take out your pen and hand it to her. As she's writing her e-mail address, say, "And put your number down there too."

Number 3

Get a female-centric hobby

Another way to meet woman is easily is to take dance lessons… or start teaching something you're an expert on. And if you're with a friend, you can always fall back on the age-old standby where you have your friend approach her for you and build you up to be the man of her dreams.

Number 2

Handle objections

If she says "No, I don’t have e-mail," you say, "Well, do you have ELECTRICITY? OK, you can give me your number then, but it's so hard to reach people these days." And if she objects to giving you her number, no worries… just tease her with "You're going to be OK, just write it down. It's only an e-mail address (or phone number), silly."

Number 1

Get her to start conversations with YOU

There's nothing better than getting a woman to be the one to initiate contact FIRST… and fortunately there are a lot of ways you can get this done. One of my favorite ways is to walk by and say something to a friend within earshot of her, something so provocative that she can't RESIST responding to it… for example you could say "I think that secretly ALL women do it…" Few women will be able to resist coming over asking what you’re talking about.

go get her

The possibilities are endless. Use your imagination, and you can figure out all sorts of ways to bring new, attractive women into your life -- any time, anywhere.

What Women Look For - Dating advice for men and women, Dating advices for men and teens

good guys

Many women believe that all the good guys are taken, but you know that’s simply not true. iVillage.com is telling women exactly how to spot a great guy, so you best read on to see what qualities she’s looking for in her dream man.

finding mr. right

We all want to find a great guy. But let's face it: How many of your exes seemed fantastic at first, only for you to find out that they were Mr. Wrongs? Well, no more bad boys, mama's boys or anything of the sort! Dr. Bethany Marshall shares her shopping list for a healthy man in this excerpt from her book, Deal Breakers.

When you first meet a man, whether it's online, at the grocery store, at a bar, at school or at your job, you should feel that he wants you.

It may be conveyed by a look, a touch, a compliment, curiosity or attention to detail. And it must, within a short amount of time, be conveyed in person -- not online, through a text message or on the phone. And definitely, it should be backed up by his willingness to make a plan and move the relationship forward. If he's not interested enough to call in advance and make a plan, he's not interested enough to invest his emotions in a relationship. Conversely, constant calling, e-mailing and text-messaging is not true contact. He cannot touch you, see you, adore you or get to know you through words on a screen or over the phone.

Soon after meeting him, you should discover that he has appropriately achieved in at least one area of his life.

For instance, if he went to college he now has a good job. Or a decent car. If he inherited his parents' business, he has learned how to successfully manage it. Or if he is a member of a baseball team, he has learned to become a team player. His efforts continue to generate new opportunities, new skills, new challenges, or new possessions. Thus, he is progressing and not degenerating.

If he's a healthy man, he will never make plans for the future that he does not intend to back up.

And he will certainly not say, “I'm not sure where this relationship is going,” and then continue to call you and have sex with you. He will not send messages that are confusing and difficult to decipher. A healthy man says what he means and means what he says. And the words that he speaks are backed up by action that coincides. Even if he cannot give a guarantee, the relationship is always moving forward. Thus, you will never find yourself drunk-dialing at two in the morning because you fear that he is out with another girl. Or find yourself in a situation where he claims to want to get married , but you are the only one who is planning the wedding and paying for the caterer.

If you are in the right relationship, it will feel reciprocal and mutual.

When you offer emotional support, is he appreciative? Does he give back by surprising you with a special little something? Or remembering your favorite drink? Do you feel that what he gives is as valuable and meaningful as what you offer? For instance, if you set aside a Saturday night, will he make an entertainment plan that is enjoyable for both of you? If your car breaks down, will he come and get you? If you have a problem, will he help you? Is he as devoted to you as you are to him? Healthy relationships are based upon mutual give-and-take. And what is given and received should feel of equal value. If the only thing that you are getting out of this relationship is text messages or e-mails, occasional plans or the assurance that you won't be alone on a Saturday night, you are not getting what you need.

If he's the right guy for you, he will have good friends and you will like who he is when he's with them.

Whether he's at the bar, at a tailgate party or running for political office, you are confident that he is the man you know and love, both with you or apart from you. When he's out of sight, he does not turn into somebody else. For instance, a player. Or a jerk. Conversely, when you include him with your friends, you know who he will be: charming and engaging, enhancing instead of detracting.

If he's a healthy man, he will like you for who you are.

Even if you have a bad day or say something that he does not like, his adoration will remain steady and his view of you will remain the same. Beware of the guy whose perception changes whenever you deviate from his expectations. For instance, you dress a certain way and he refuses to hold you or compliment you. Or you gain weight and he stops having sex with you. Does he take pleasure in you, whether you look sexy in your low-rider jeans or have just gotten out of bed? Does he spend time with your family because he knows that you are a part of them? Is he interested in your spirituality? Or do you feel that you must suppress your personality in order to hold on to his approval? Even when it comes to your sexual preferences, you should feel free to reveal yourself without fear of losing his affection.

A healthy man will never view you as unconditionally bad or make you feel terrible about yourself.

Even in the midst of an argument, he will be able to see both the good and the bad in you. For instance, he will not stay mad at you once the argument is over. And he will move on instead of clinging to bad feelings or suspicions. He loves you and sees you as a good person, no matter what. And he would never refuse to call, refuse to be nice, or walk out the door without quickly returning simply because you shared your concerns with him.

A healthy man has a learning curve.

For instance, if you tell him that you need more time together or need him to stop doing something that is obnoxious, he will shift his behavior because he loves you and does not want to lose you. He is willing to learn from his mistakes and modify his actions. For instance, if he begins a friendship with a flirtatious girl and you let him know that this is creating a problem, he will be concerned about your feelings and come up with a solution. When you discuss relationship obstacles, he works on them. He would never admit to a substance abuse problem and then refuse to address it. Or agree to appropriately separate from his mother (who dislikes you), but then go running back to the nest.

If he is healthy, he will seek his own solutions.

For instance, if he has a problem, he will reach out to others for help, find resources, have a conversation, go to therapy, attend a 12-step program -- anything that will move him closer to making the changes that he needs to make. (You could do worse than give him this book. No, wait -- make him buy his own damn copy!) Petty pride, laziness or stubbornness will not keep him from taking the steps that he needs to take to have a full relationship with you.

A healthy man will not try to have power over you.

He won't leave you wondering where he is and what he is doing. Or leave you hanging just to prove a point. Or make you feel that you have to disappear for a few days to recover the power you once had. Even if he has more money, status and power, he will not make you feel that you would be nothing without him. A healthy man is willing to take you into account instead of pushing you away. He is willing to listen, meet your needs, and include you in mutual decision-making. Because you matter, he does not want to have undue influence or control over you. And he can trust that he is loved, even when he is not in charge. When it comes to who takes care of whom, and who makes the decisions, and who gets the last say, he is willing to negotiate (because, really, all of life is a little like Let's Make a Deal).

Essential Top Dating Tips and dating advice - dating advice for men

I thought I would bring you the key dating tips I have gathered along the way in the hope of assisting and enlightening those who need assistance. If you are new to the dating scene, a regular or just simply someone trying to meet someone new there should always be time for top dating tips, advice, information and things to consider. None of us are dating experts otherwise we would have a magic formula to present to others. And no, looks are not the magic formula otherwise all supermodels would be blissfully happy - which they are not my friend. Good looking people the world over struggle when it comes to affairs of the heart. Think of all the major figures in history who have fallen in matters of romance.

The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in stone and different things will always work differently for different people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating them here.

My Top Dating Tips

• Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either.

• Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.

• Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.

• Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.

• Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.

• Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances.

• Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors.

• Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.

• Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.

• Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.

• Do Join a quality Internet dating agency for free and do post a photo profile if possible. Take your time and check your mail occasionally. Even if you never date online at least it will boost your confidence and spirits and allow you to Practise your opening lines and chat up skills. Internet dating is fun and secure and introduces you to the world of dating safely and gently.

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Attract Her Silently - Dating advice for men

There’s more than one way to communicate, and experts will tell you the majority of human communication is expressed through our actions and expressions. If this is the case, wouldn’t it be reasonable to assume we could spark interest and attraction without the benefit of words? A picture is worth a thousand words, and so is a meaningful look or a significant gesture. While you will, of course, have to speak eventually, it isn’t essential that the launching pad consist of verbal interaction. Women are generally considered the more sensitive sex -- for better or for worse -- and therefore they’re more likely to notice the little things, things typical men might consider trivial or superfluous. Take advantage of this by making the silent approach a projection of your personality and desire with the absence of words. Your goal, of course, is to land an actual verbal flirting encounter.

The well-rounded Player should be capable of such a task, especially when the human psyche often generates a first impression before the first words are uttered. You should know how crucial a first impression is, and you’re virtually ensuring a great one if you can nail the silent approach. She’ll remember the way you looked at her and the way you looked when she first saw you. If done smoothly, it should work wonders.

Here are several tips to get you started, but remember: If this fails, a close, flirtatious encounter may be entirely out of the question.

Show similar interests through your actions

This will take some early observation coupled with a timely movement or gesture on your part. It’s easiest to explain through examples, so here’s one: Perhaps you’re in the supermarket and you’re both browsing through the produce. She’s selecting a cantaloupe and you “just happen” to reach for the same one at the same time (it’s not anywhere near as difficult as it sounds). Another example may take place at your home away from home: the bar or dance club. You’ve been keeping your eye on this hot little number three tables over and you notice she only orders one particular drink, giving you the perfect opportunity to purchase one and send it over. In turn, the door is opened to a “Hey, that’s your favorite drink, too?” sort of meeting. Birds of a feather!

This could happen anywhere, at any time. Whether you’re out in the park jogging and you match her pace for a little while or you simply stop beside her to examine a store window on the sidewalk, relating to her without words can be a surprisingly straightforward process.

Prompt verbal contact with your eyes/actions

This goes well beyond a simple look; you’re seeking to grab her attention with a specific action. For instance, say you’re in a department store looking through a rack of shirts. You notice a particularly appealing target within the same vicinity so you get a bit closer, select a shirt and hold it up. Catch her eye and shoot her an inquisitive look as if to say, “How’s this?” Or perhaps you find yourself in an elevator, stuck behind one particularly rude individual who believes the entire world wants to hear his personal cell phone conversation. A shared rolling of the eyes is often enough to spark light banter before you depart the elevator, and provided you’ve properly honed your speed-flirting skills, you’re golden.

By the way, this tip comes fully equipped with an added perk, one you’ve probably already surmised: You can easily gauge her interest by her reaction. The situation is almost irrelevant; if you attempt to share common ground with only a look, the results in her eyes and facial reaction should be clear.

Opposites attract from a distance

Here you will present yourself as a polar opposite from afar. Now, it may sound bizarre and maybe even counterproductive, but when done properly, this technique works far better than you might expect. If your eyes have already crossed paths, you’ve probably sketched a rudimentary portrait of her personality based on her reaction (remember the previous hint?). Therefore, if she’s clearly the shy type and averts her eyes with a small smile, you come on strong from across the room with a big smile and direct eye contact. If she likes to play the role of the aggressor, you become the hard-to-get target and play it soft. Get it? The key to “talking with your eyes” centers on a person’s ability to blend facial expressions with eye movement. In other words, if she looks away with downcast eyes and a small grin, she’s playing shy and coy. If you keep a steady gaze and a larger smile, it’s obviously a more straightforwad approach (just don’t stare like a nut).

You could also implement an idea from the previous tip, which includes buying her a drink in a bar with the accompanying -- and appropriate -- look. In other situations, you might even be able to pick up her movie tickets for her while standing in line at the theatre -- a surprising and flattering move.

Offer to help in an appropriate situation

It’s the silent, yet gallant, approach that will open so many doors; in fact, you might start with that one: Simply open a door for a lovely lady. There are multiple opportunities to take advantage of the straightforward gentleman theory, and that includes helping a woman when she’s clearly loaded down with packages or bags, helping her pick up the purse she dropped (and the contents that spilled from it), etc. Don’t say a word; simply move to assist and you’ll immediately be in her good graces.

Remember, though, we’re not advising you to create these opportunities. In the preceding example, for instance, don’t knock into her on purpose just for an excuse to help her retrieve the fallen items. Not only is it too transparent and even predictable, it’s also a little underhanded. For this tip, you simply need to be in the right place at the right time; don’t force the issue.

Dress to fit the occasion

When you know where you’re going and you know what type of woman you’re seeking, you can gain the upper hand by dressing appropriately… and alluringly. Women pay very close attention to the way a man dresses -- any successful Player knows this -- and you can get a foot in the door by selecting the best possible attire. If you’re looking for a higher class of female at a particularly elegant club, you’re going to have to dress it up beyond what is required.

Women dress to attract males, and contrary to popular belief, the door does swing both ways. Besides, it’s yet another opening for conversation and a chance for you to comment on her outfit, which very rarely fails to impress if done correctly.

Lure her with an outside “cuteness factor”

If you’ve ever been to the park in search of a delectable target, you’ll know it’s best to go with a partner in crime… one who’s a great deal smaller. You may not have a baby or a dog close at hand, so if you don’t just borrow one for the day. Babysitting or pet-sitting -- it doesn’t matter because provided you head to the right locations, you’ll be in a prime position to hear a lot of “aww” and “isn’t he cute?!” comments.

In one way, those compliments are indirectly aimed at you, as women instantly believe a man with either a child or pet is both sensitive and mature, capable of making (and upholding) important life decisions. Besides, without a woman holding your hand, they’ll also assume you’re a single parent -- or single pet owner -- and best of all, they will initiate contact. You just gotta play it up a bit by getting all mushy with your companion for the day. Sure, you may be risking some of those masculinity trophies you’ve acquired over the years, but it’s worth taking the chance.

actions speak louder

Ever wonder why there are so many jokes about bad pickup lines? It’s obviously because there are so many bad pickup lines. Despite the fact that much of human communication is done in a non-verbal capacity, saying the right thing to a woman remains pretty crucial. But you can remove some of the pressure simply by establishing an extraordinary positive rapport without even opening your mouth. The previous tips may sometimes rely on things you can’t control such as timing, the type of women in the vicinity and unique situational demands, but the foundation for each is solid. It’s not chivalrous to say you’re preying on a woman’s sensitivity, but it’s very honorable to say you’re simply speaking her language… without ever saying a single word.

Unleash Her Wild Side - Dating advice for men, woman. Dating advice for teens and boys

There are a lot of reasons why it is in your best interest to unleash the passionate and erotic wild side of your mate. The first and foremost is obviously that you both get hotter sex. You might have seen this side of her before and it faded, or perhaps you have no idea what she is capable of. Either way, here you’ll find some ways to help get her groove on.

Buy her a costume

The bottom line with this trick is that if you buy her a costume, she is obliged to put it on at least once and saunter around like a goddess. If you choose well, you may get more mileage out of it on special occasions. Do some discreet research and then go shopping. Beware of scrimping; those $30 outfits on the internet may look hot on the perfectly proportioned lingerie model, but "one size fits all" actually means "this will probably look stupid on your girlfriend." Check her lingerie tags for top and bottom sizes, and if she chops them off, ask someone reliable what they think. If it is more of a small, medium or large issue, it’s a bit easier -- check her clothing tags.

Some popular outfits include the good old risqué clichés: nurses, maids, corsets, and dominatrix styles. Choose something that is stylish, sexy, well-crafted, and is going to fit her properly, not accentuating areas she would rather hide. Stockings, suspenders and corsets all have good coverage and still have great sex appeal.

Challenge her with erotic dares

Is she a sucker for a challenge? Get her competitive streak working for you by suggesting erotic dares, such as stripping, dancing or being a shameless exhibitionist.

The thrill of breaking her own boundaries will excite her and leave you both breathless. It’s moments like these that stick in your mind and provide great fantasy fodder for later, plus a few good laughs at your audacity. Sexual antics in a public place or games at home can be excellent fun and really spice up your sex life.

Tease her over a prolonged period

The problem with men and women is that men generally want far more sex than women, so a woman can safely assume that whenever she wants it, he will be keen. This means that it is often the men who initiate sex simply because women don’t get a chance to or because they know that they don’t have to because you will. To reverse this on her, withhold sex for a bit and tease her mercilessly. Get her sexual mind active again, and she’ll be all over you like a rash in no time.

There’s nothing like a bit of carefully plotted reverse psychology to get her all hot and bothered. Tease her with touches (but stop there), sexy love letters or e-mails, erotic gifts, and of course, sensual words in her ear telling her what you would like to do to her. You will need to exercise some self-control here, but it will be worth it. Try a period of a week, and be crafty in your seduction.

Take command

Be bold, not demanding. Taking the initiative a step further, you can almost dare her to match you, say, in a public place -- tit for tat, so to speak. Takingdirty commands is a turn-on simply because it can come out of the blue and be spontaneous. She might find she quite likes it and command you back.

One thing leads to another and before you know it, she’s commanding you all over the place. And you love it because she’s doing the deed and telling you what she wants.

Bring a camera

Cameras are always risky business but can be a great deal of fun (not to mention the future supply of fantasy materials they provide). Trust is essential. It has to be clear that nothing will happen to the photographs or videos -- they’re strictly for personal use only (unless otherwise agreed, of course).

Watching the action through a digital screen while you’re doing it is fun because you get vantage points you didn’t have before, especially of her. She can’t see what you can; in fact, at any given moment she can’t see much unless she folds over. Giving her a real taste of what she looks like from behind, or even while she is on top, can be very erotic and dare I say, interesting.

get her to let loose

Women can be very shy about behaving in a lascivious manner. She might feel like a fraud or feel silly. Luckily, these things can be overcome reasonably easily. Being a sex goddess doesn’t come naturally to many women, for whatever reason. The key to charging her with electric sexuality is to make her feel very comfortable, desired and safe. Don’t ever laugh at her attempts because you can guarantee it will be her last if you do. Genuinely compliment her on what she does well, and even if it means overexaggerating at first, don’t let there be a gap where she can think “Am I doing this right?” because you can bet that if she has the time of think that, she’ll be thinking it.

Getting women to shed her inhibitions and get right into the filth can be hard, but it can also be incredibly easy; with the right situation anything is possible. On some occasions, make her feel comfortable so she can open up, and at others, surprise her with something raunchy and you may be pleasantly shocked at the results, as may she. Be very aware of boundaries -- hers and your own -- at all times, and if things become uncomfortable for either of you, stop. Make chatting about what you both like and want out of your sex life a regular thing and magic shall unfold. Just remember that if things aren’t going your way, couples who communicate well have more and better sex.


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