10: Ways To Turn Digits Into Dates - dating advices for men: dating tips

Have you ever gotten a woman’s phone number, but when you called, things got "weird" and you never ended up seeing her again? Make no mistake -- turning a phone number into a date isn’t always easy. When to call, what to say, how to handle voicemail… obviously there are tons of "landmines" you need to navigate through in order to actually get together. Use these 10 tips to help you do it right.

Number 10

Conquer your fear

You would never guess it, but one of the biggest mistakes most guys make on the phone is this: THEY NEVER CALL. When you get a number, it's easy to tell yourself you'll wait a couple of days before calling, but then the days turn into weeks, and then you can't find the number or -- worse yet -- you call and find out that while you were procrastinating she met a new guy she's crazy about. Ouch.

Listen, fear happens to the best of us… just don't let it get the best of you. She gave you the number because she WANTS you to call her. Don’t let her down. Call her a couple of days after you meet. And relax -- she WANTS to hear from you.

Number 9

Keep it short

Most guys have the misconception that you need to have a long conversation on the phone in order to get a woman to go out with you. Well, actually, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, if you talk too long you send the message that you don't have a very busy life… or worse, you risk BORING her. Instead, keep it short and sweet and leave her wanting MORE.

Number 8

End it first

Want to know a simple secret that 99% of men don't know? When you're dealing with a woman, always be the one who ends the interaction. When you do, you send a subtle -- yet clear -- message that you have other important things in your life BESIDES her, and that you're the one in charge. Women love to be with men who are leaders and this is a simple way to show her that you're EXACTLY the kind of guy she wants.

Number 7

Don't reassure her

When you end the conversation, resist the temptation to say "I'll give you a call" or "We'll talk again." And don't set up a meeting or a date on the first call either. When you leave the future open and uncertain, you help her see you as a CHALLENGE and a MYSTERY -- “Is he going to call me again? Why didn't he ask me out? Does he like me?” -- Getting a woman intrigued and curious about you is ALWAYS a good thing, and this is a great way to do it.

Number 6

Show her that you have a busy life

There are few things you can do that dial up a woman's attraction for you more than being a guy with a busy life. We all want what we can't have, and when something is hard to get, we value it more. So after your first call, wait a couple of days -- she'll be wondering what you've been so busy with -- and then call her again. And again, keep the conversation short and to the point. Tell her that you are really busy but you have a couple of nights free this week, then ask her what her schedule is like.

Number 5

Limit the time frame

When you agree on a date, be SPECIFIC about what you are going to do and how long you'll be together. You can say something like, “Let's meet at Tom's on Thursday at 8:00 p.m. for 20 minutes or so and have a quick drink. That way if you turn out to be scary I can say I have to shampoo my dog or something and run away.”

When you set up a short time frame for the meeting, you avoid expectations. You won’t be forced to spend time with someone you aren’t into, and should you decide she isn’t for you -- or should she end up looking like a wildebeest when you finally meet her -- you have an easy “out.”

Most importantly, telling her upfront about why you only want to meet for 20 minutes challenges her to show you that she isn’t weird or crazy, and it DRAMATICALLY increases the chances of her showing up. Nice.

Number 4

Disarm her objections

Many women will test you on the phone and resist your idea to get together. What's happening unconsciously is she wants to see if you have a backbone. So DON'T CAVE IN. The best way to respond to a test is to DIAL IT UP A NOTCH. Say something like, "Don't be silly! It's just 20 minutes for tea, you dork." Turn the tables on her like this and she'll see that you're a "cut above" the other guys.

Number 3

Dealing with voicemail

These days, it seems like many men are AFRAID to leave a message for a woman. Well guess what, fellas? Women are onto all of the “tricks” these days. I’m talking about blocking your number and calling a hundred times until she answers, or calling from different numbers so she doesn’t know it’s you.

The good news for you is that since 90% of men make these “mistakes,” leaving a message for a woman is going to set YOU apart. This shows extreme confidence to a woman because she knows that you are putting yourself out there and that you are confident that she is going to get back to you… unlike the other wussies she’s met who had to hide behind blocked numbers.

Keep the message short and sweet. Remind her who you are, but don’t get into great detail. For example, you could say, “Hey Jennifer… Kevin here from the Square Friday night… it’s 4:45… give me a buzz when you get this at XXX-XXX-XXXX.” Simple and to the point is always best.

If she doesn’t call you back, give it three days and try again. If you don’t get a call back this time, MOVE ON. You have better things to do than stalk a woman -- and that’s how women see it when you call again after leaving two messages, ESPECIALLY if you call from a different number the next time.

Number 2

Get her right number -- every time

Here’s another trick that will save you a TON of time and hassle: Instead of asking for her number right away, say, “Take my number down.” After she puts it in her phone say, “Call me right now so I have yours.” BAM -- you’ll get the correct phone number every time. And just as important, she now has your name in her phone, so she will know who it is when you call. Women are 10 times more likely to answer a call from someone they know, so this will DRAMATICALLY decrease your chances of running into her voicemail.

Number 1

Be spontaneous

If the phone continues to trip you up, try avoiding it altogether. When you meet a woman, instead of getting her number, suggest grabbing a coffee or tea RIGHT NOW. Even a 15 to 20 minute "mini-date" can give you a sense of what kind of woman she is and help you decide if you want to see her again.

If the phone continues to be a BIG obstacle for you, it’s probably because you aren’t creating enough ATTRACTION in a woman when you first meet her to get her to want to see you again. Luckily, this is a fairly easy fix as well.