Dating Advices and Dating Tips - Recognize “The Key Friend” in the Group

When you’re out at night and meet girls, they’re often in groups. I’m going to stir up some trouble here, - you don’t need the whole group to like you. Just one girl. “The Key Friend” - if you win her over, and suggest your plans to her, then she’ll sell the rest of her friends on the idea.

Here’s how to figure out who the Key Friend is… some of these may seem weird, but after talking with tons of groups, I find these guidelines hold up surprisingly well.

1. If the girls are close to each other in cuteness, the cuter girl is usually the Key Friend.
2. If the girls are far apart from each other in cuteness, the less cute girl is usually the Key Friend.

Other factors that determine it (don’t need to memorize these, just be familiar):

• Birthdays: If it’s her birthday, she’s Key.
• Bad times: If one girl is having a bad night, she’s Key and if you turn it around you’re in great shape.
• Visitors and tourists: If one girl is a tourist and the other is a local, the local is Key.
• Working early: If one woman is working early in the morning, and the other is not, the early worker is Key.

So some of these should ring familiar, right…? They’re just examples. Here’s the social science behind it:

When a girl sees another girl sacrificing to spend time with you, she rationalizes that it’s no big deal for her to spend time with you. In absence of sacrifice, higher status is looked to for the answer.

So -

If the friend is much less pretty, and decides to spend time with you, she’s sacrificing knowing it’s likely that she’ll be alone while you woo her friend. The commitment from the prettier girl seems small in comparison.

If one girl’s got work early in the morning and decides to come along, then it’s not really a big deal at all for the other girl. It’s not like she’s got to get up early, so it’s no sacrifice or anything…

In absence of considerations of sacrifice, status comes into play. So with two pretty girls, the slightly prettier one often makes the call. Locals always make the call over tourists. And so on.

If you understand this concept, you can get right into building VAC with the Key Friend, and the group falls into line. Enjoy.