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Top 10: Date Movies

2008-04-21T19:27:00.000-07:00

The blissful early days of a relationship are a wondrous time of discovery and pent-up sexual energy that can leave you deliriously happy and flat broke. It doesn’t always have to be $200 meals, since staying in with a movie is one of the cheapest dates around. The success of that date, and how far you get with her afterward, depends largely on your choice of movie. Sorority House Massacre isn’t going to cut it, nor will anything too serious. And if you rent something overtly sexual, be prepared for two hours of extreme awkwardness.

It’s a veritable minefield, but we’re prepared to help you navigate through it. Perfect date movies should have something for both of you, with an attractive cast, romance, action, laughs, and maybe a tame sex scene. You can always cop out and go the safe route with something predictable (and atrocious) like You’ve Got Mail, but you’d be better off with one of these unique options. You’ll get high marks for originality and won’t have to put up with Meg Ryan. So sit back, snuggle up with your new girl and enjoy one of these top 10 unique date movies.

Number 10

Jerry Maguire - 1996

Back before he went completely insane, Tom Cruise was the biggest box-office star in Hollywood and the charisma and screen presence that allowed him to climb to this lofty position is on full display in this hybrid romantic comedy/sports movie. Directed by Cameron Crowe (Almost Famous, Singles), Jerry Maguire tells the tale of a ruthless sports agent who suffers a sudden change of heart and turns his back on the money-crazed industry.

3 reasons she’ll love it: Jerry Maguire has the three pillars of success as far as date movies are concerned: Pre-crazy Tom Cruise, it’s a love story in which the average-looking girl gets the “hot” guy and kid so cute you’ll want to punt him.

3 reasons you’ll love it: There’s great sports action, tons of fantastic cameos (from Glenn Fry to Troy Aikman) and a surprisingly hot sex scene with Kelly Preston (all date movies should be so blessed).

Number 9

The Apartment - 1960

Jack Lemmon, Shirley MacLaine

You can advance your career through hard work, long hours and ample ass-kissing. Or, if you are Bud Baxter (Lemmon) in this classic among 1960s date movies, you just let all the executives use your Manhattan apartment for their illicit trysts. That’s the premise of this long-forgotten comedy from legendary director Billy Wilder (Some Like It Hot). Things go along swimmingly for Bud until he falls for the mistress of his boss -- which understandably makes things awkward.

3 reasons she’ll love it: The hilarious backward attitudes toward women will make her happy for today’s more progressive mindset, she’ll giggle at the style -- handsome men in thin ties, and Shirley MacLaine’s ditzy, whorish character will make her feel morally superior.

3 reasons you’ll love it: Lemmon’s sad-sack, faceless corporate drone will let you look at your predicament and remember that it could always be worse. The Apartment provides a look at the good old days when cigarettes were smoked in your office and women were called “dames.” You’ll also earn major bonus points for introducing her to a hilarious silver-screen classic that helped shape the genre of date movies.

Number 8

Belle Epoque - 1992

Penelope Cruz, Miriam Díaz Aroca

Show off your cultured continental side and rent this 1994 Oscar-winner for Best Foreign Language Film. It tells the story of a Spanish soldier who deserts the army and ends up in a villa with an artist and his four serious hot Spanish daughters. Hmm, risk your life on the front lines or hang out with four farmer’s daughters? It’s sexy without being raunchy and funny without resorting to poop jokes -- just as all date movies should be.

3 reasons she’ll love it: Your date will love the gorgeous Spanish scenery, the sensual sex scenes and the cute guys with even cuter accents.

3 reasons you’ll love it: It’s basically a two-hour cinematic version of the age-old farmer’s daughter fantasy, when your date takes a pee break you can freeze-frame nude scenes of Penelope Cruz, and of course, there’s Penelope Cruz.

Number 7

About a Boy - 2002

Hugh Grant, Rachel Weisz

For many women, dating is really just a job interview for prospective fathers. So, your girl will undoubtedly be watching how you judge Hugh Grant’s character in this pleasant little flick. He starts off as a lazy, womanizing boy-toy, but after becoming an unlikely and unwilling surrogate father to a bastard child in this date movie bloodbath, he turns into a model adult man.

3 reasons she’ll love it: For once she gets to witness a man who can be changed for the better, the female lead isn’t a size zero with porcelain skin, and the cute, awkward lead boy.

3 reasons you’ll love it: You’ll envy Hugh Grant’s bachelor pad, enjoy the soundtrack (performed exclusively by Badly Drawn Boy), and Rachel Weisz.

Number 6

Mr. & Mrs. Smith - 2005

Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie

Make-up sex is just about the best kind of sex you can have. So, imagine how good the sex is between Brad Pitt's and Angelina Jolie’s characters after they spend 20 minutes trying to kill each other. That sexual tension, combined with many more phenomenal action sequences, make this one of the best date movies to come along in a long time. With an A-plus cast comes huge expectations, but even with that burden, director Doug Liman (Swingers, Jumper) delivers.

3 reasons she’ll love it: Your date will love the spectacularly decorated suburban home, the rare and empowering presence of a hit woman and, as usual, Brad Pitt.

3 reasons you’ll love it: You’ll love the coolest weapon arsenal seen on the screen in some time, the amazing car chase (between BMWs and a minivan) and, as usual, Angelina Jolie.

Number 5

Say Anything - 1989

John Cusack, Ione Skye

Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack) did more than just bag the hot popular rich chick while wearing a trench coat; he also gave hope to helpless nerds the world over. And this '80s date-movie classic tells the tale of how he did just that. You can’t help but cheer for Dobler because not only is he the consummate underdog, he’s also a father figure to his little brother and boasts the coolest ghetto blaster in movie history. So, to see him win in the end will melt even the coldest heart.

3 reasons she’ll love it: No woman can resist the young and charming John Cusack. She'll also like the endearing father/daughter relationship and the hilarious ‘80s fashion.

3 reasons you’ll love it: You’ll like the hot chicks wearing hilarious ‘80s fashion, the retro soundtrack and the sport of the future.

Number 4

Intolerable Cruelty - 2003

George Clooney, Catherine Zeta-Jones

Not all date movies have to come slathered in cheesy romance, especially when they star two of the hottest actors this side of 2000. George Clooney plays a hardened divorce lawyer who falls for a client (Catherine Zeta-Jones) and tries like mad to get in her legal briefs. It’s filled with cheating husbands and gold-digging ex-wives, which could make you ask why it belongs on this list. Well, aside from being one of the wittiest romantic comedies out there, it also captures the same flirtatious energy both you and your friend are hopefully feeling on your movie-watching date.

3 reasons she’ll love it: Obviously, she’ll like People magazine’s twice-named Sexiest Man Alive, George Clooney, a female character that can go toe-to-toe with the slimiest lawyers and con artists out there, and all the cheating men who get their comeuppance.

3 reasons you’ll love it: You’ll love it for the rare and dignified beauty of Catherine Zeta-Jones, the Coen Brothers’ eclectic style and an asthmatic contract killer.

Number 3

The Wedding Singer - 1998

Adam Sandler, Drew Barrymore

Usually, lead singers of wedding bands are the kinds of guys you’d like to drag out behind the banquet hall and strangle with a microphone cord, but Adam Sandler’s Robbie is entertaining enough to avoid such a fate. He and a less-annoying-than-usual Drew Barrymore star in this charming romantic comedy and play star-crossed lovers who find themselves engaged to the wrong people. Sandler and Barrymore stick to the moral high ground and wait for the inevitable happy ending to begin their relationship.

3 reasons she’ll love it: She’ll revel in an unrivaled ‘80s soundtrack, be thankful her fingers will never get tangled in a mullet and laugh at the horrific bridesmaid dresses.

3 reasons you’ll love it: Guys will appreciate the realistic portrayal of life as a freshly dumped dude, like the hot girls (if you consider girls with feathered hair and neon sweatshirts hot), and love the fact that the movie ends after 95 minutes.

Number 2

Bull Durham - 1988

Kevin Costner, Susan Sarandon

Sports movies usually make good date movies, thanks in part to their combination of action and romance. This baseball flick, however, adds some spicy sex and above-average dialogue to elevate it into the classic realm. Kevin Costner plays a career minor league catcher called on to mentor a dim yet talented prospect (Tim Robbins). Along the way, the two fight over the affections of Annie Savoy (Susan Sarandon), a townie with a thing for ballplayers.

3 reasons she’ll love it: Your girl will like the liberal female lead who’ll make her feel empowered (which could make things very interesting if things get a bit frisky), the cute baseball players, and Kevin Costner’s list of the important things in life, which range from hanging curveballs to high fiber, and ends with an admiration of “long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days.”

3 reasons you’ll love it: You’ll chuckle at Nuke LaLoosh’s cliche-ridden interviews, but you’ll enjoy how the movie portrays life in the minor leagues, and the old-fashioned, dirt-on-your-uniform, pine-tar-in-your-hair baseball action.

Number 1

Hitch - 2005

Will Smith, Kevin James

There are life coaches, financial consultants, career counselors, and all other sorts of people willing to offer their services, but is there any help out there for a hapless dweeb with no clue about women? There is in this surprising rom-com, and it is in the form of a silky-smooth Will Smith who mentors Kevin James on the subtleties of dating in the new millennium. We mentioned that a good date movie should have laughs, and this film has a black book full of them.

3 reasons she’ll love it: She’ll like Will Smith doing his Will Smith thing, Kevin James’ attempt at dancing and the flick gives an inside look at the inner-workings of a man on the prowl.

3 reasons you’ll love it: You’ll like Eva Mendes, the truly valuable nuggets of dating advice from a master and Eva Mendes (no, that’s not a misprint).

date movie climax

How many first heavy-petting sessions have taken place on the couch with the soft flicker of a TV illuminating the groping couple as the DVD’s menu music plays in a continuous loop in the background? A movie at home is an ideal date -- it’s simple, cheap and easily transferable to second base and beyond. It must be done correctly, however, and trying some of these 10 unique date movies will give you a fighting chance. The rest is up to you, stud.

7 Deadly Sins - Dating Advice for men and women

2008-03-08T04:20:00.000-08:00

There are some classic mistake that women make when dealing with men. Some hurt you, some hurt him, some hurt the relationship. They happen so often, and with such great frequency, that you would think it was a secret. Well I’m here to burst that bubble and help you steer clear of these seven deadly sins. 1. Never sleep with your Ex Sleeping with your ex (boyfriend, husband, lover, etc.) is always a big mistake. Remember, there’s a reason why the two of you broke up in the first place. Engaging in such a raw passionate act with your ex will without a doubt stir up old feelings. The familiar comforts of his powerful arms, musky smell, and warm body will have you feeling like love all over again. But, is it really love? No! Sadly it’s merely lust, and comfort, and convenience. You’ll delude yourself into thinking things will work out this time. Surprisingly, you only remember the good times, and all the failings of the relationship elude your grasp. So avoid this mistake at all costs. It will only end in heart break, anger, and confusion, etc. 2. Faking An Orgasm Women of all ages fake orgasms. One of the most popular reasons given is to spare a man’s feelings. But is this honestly the reason why women are faking orgasm? In my humble opinion I believe this is a selfish and not a selfless act. You know how awkward it will be to turn to your man and tell him he’s not pleasing you sexually. Many men if you talk to them in a positive attitude will want to make sure you are satisfied. It’s really all in how you approach it. Also, it only hurts a man more to discover later that you’ve faked orgasms for a long period of time. Faking an orgasm actually trains the body into thinking it will not achieve orgasm at the end of a sexual encounter. In time this makes it increasingly difficult to reach the Big-O. So do yourself, and your man a favor. Speak up! Approach him with a loving and caring voice, and tell him what you like. Focus on the positive things, instead of telling him what he’s doing wrong. 3. Ditching Your Girlfriends For A New Beau How many of you are guilty of this, or have a friend who is? It’s a very bad habit. It’s not healthy for your relationship with your man and your friends. It’s good to have hobbies, interests, friends and time away from your man. Yes, it may be difficult, especially early in the relationship. But it’s for the best. Your friends miss you, and if you keep ditching them for men, they will soon cut you off. Yes, your friends will be there to support you when things are bad, but if you avoid them during the good times they will easily become angry. No one wants to get always get the short end of the stick. Besides, the time apart from your man is healthy. It lets you focus on other things, gives you a recharge, and gives you something to talk about when you see him again. 4. "Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition!” If Interrogation is your middle name you may have a problem. There’s a time and place for questions. On the first date, the last thing anyone wants is to feel like it’s an interview. You’re supposed to be having fun! If you start talking about long committed relationship and making plans together after one week, it’s too soon. If you start talking about marriage, kids, and where you want to raise your family after only a few months, it’s too soon. There’s so much to learn about your man if you only listen and show interest in what he likes and talks about. So slow down on the questions. Listen, relax, and have fun! 5. “We” instead of “me” Men enjoy their freedom. There’s a reason why men are cautious and careful about jumping into a relationship. He wants a woman who is going to respect his needs and his freedom. It’s healthy and highly recommended to let a man have some space, or a night out with the boys. Using “we” is something that takes time. Sure it’s fun to make plans to spend time together. But have you considered his interest, and his plans? Making plans for you and your new boyfriend to go to a wedding, big mistake. Telling him about your friend’s wedding, and asking if he’d like to be your date, much better. But again, be weary of bringing up weddings too early in the relationship. You have to feel a man out, and listen to who he is. If you rush making plans for each other, he will feel trapped and want to leave. But if you do it gradually and over time, it will show you are interested in him and enjoy being with him. 6. Loosing Your Identity He loves the band “Muse”, the Packers, and muscle cars. So you begin neglecting your own hobbies and interests in order to dive into his. This is a big mistake too many women are guilty of. It’s great that you want to share in your man’s interests, but not at the cost of your own identity. Your interests have help create who you are as a woman. You should never give up who you are for a man. If you truly wish to share in his interests, don’t force it. In time, the longer you are together, the more you will learn. Let things come naturally. 7. Unrealistic Expectations No one can live up to a high list of expectations. Why is it the best advice to give a man is to have no expectations and simple enjoy having a good time with a woman? But, the same advice doesn’t appear to apply to women’s expectations on men. Often you may find yourself missing out on a great opportunity. No one is perfect. If your expectations are too high then you may end up single forever. If they are too low, you’ll find yourself with horrible men who don’t appreciate you. Expectations can be so powerful that some men may not approach you, assuming that you have high expectations for a man you date. Spend some time investigating who you really are as a person and a woman. What do you absolutely need, and what do you want. Remember, we can’t truly know, understand, and appreciate others, until we know ourselves.

Tips on Romancing women - Dating advices for men

2008-02-11T19:26:00.000-08:00

This week's Q&A focuses on how to tease her without being a jerk, and how to keep the romance alive without seeming like a Wussy. David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, has your answers.

How can I use your Cocky & Funny technique without going too far and turning into a real jerk? Sometimes when I tease a woman she calls me an a**hole.
Remember: There's a difference between being called an a**hole by a woman and actually being one.

If you're just being Cocky & Funny, teasing, being a challenge, etc. while being considerate, kind, physically stimulating (a-hem), and other "nice" things, and a woman calls you an "a**hole" then say, "I'm really glad you like it!" Turn it into something Cocky & Funny.

The key is to not actually become a mean, abusive guy.

Women love the challenge, but they don't like the abuse from bad guys.

Give them the positive without the negative, and you’ll be fine.

If a guy goes too far with Cocky & Funny, what’s the best way for him to recover?
This is a great question...

Often, when you're first learning how to use the Cocky & Funny attitude, you'll go overboard and make the mistake of saying something that's purely arrogant... but not funny.

No problem.

You have a few choices:

1- Say something afterwards that's funny that makes the original comment funny.

2- Say, "Oh, I'm just teasing," or give her a sly smile to let her know you were kidding.

3- Laugh at your own comment to signal that it was a joke and not to be taken seriously.

Of course, you don't want to tell a woman that you're just teasing or laugh at your own comments too often, because you'll look like a schmuck if you do.

The key to recovering is not letting the fact that you went overboard throw you off.
If she gets a little upset, just be cool and calm about the situation, and get back on track with more humor.

And don't worry about it; you're learning a skill that will increase your success with women forever, so it's OK to make a few mistakes here and there while you're learning.

If you’re in a relationship with a girl, what’s the best way you can romance her without coming across like a Wussy?
OK, as you know I don't like to venture into the "relationship" realm, but I will make a comment here…

If you have been seeing a woman for awhile, and you really want to blow her mind, do several things that she likes all in one day or evening.

Take her to her favorite restaurant, give her a gift of her favorite flowers, wear the clothes that you know she likes, rub her shoulders, and, um... give her some good lovin'.

Romance is wonderful, as long as you don't overdo it and come across as a Wussy.
Focus all of the things that she likes into one small window, and good things will come of it.

Then don't do them again for awhile... at all.

She'll talk about that night forever, and she'll always be wondering when the next one will come...
reader’s question
First the success story: I have recently met a few 8.5-9.5s and have had so much luck with getting numbers and dates with the Cocky & Funny routine. In fact, my buddy who is a model came up for the weekend and he commented on how well I have come into my own and how I remind him of... him. He was usually the master of our group in getting the girls... he just had a way with it, but what I noticed with him is that he'd find a girl he'd like and get all Wuss- like. I tried to learn from him about the initial attraction, but could never really apply it.

Then I got your book and applied that and not only was I impressed with myself, but he was impressed with the way I've changed (I used to be a big, shy Wuss). I have learned that you don’t have to be the best-looking guy in the world to attract the women you want. It’s all in the way you talk (slowly, and confidently), the way you compose yourself and the way you walk.

My question is: I met this girl who is a good 9-9.5. I was almost intimidated the first time we met, but I stuck to my guns and remembered your teachings. I was Cocky & Funny. I bust on her all the time, yet she seems a little standoffish. Although, when I talk to and go out with other girls, she immediately wants to go out (hang out, whatever). She'll comment on "I love how you joke with me" and when I tell her things like "Well thanks for flaking out on me the other night, you owe me anyway." She always says, " I owe you! I know." Then I always joke with her about being a flake and that she must be a blonde and she’s fooling everyone (she’s half black/half white with dark hair).

OK, well on to the question: What is this girl’s deal? I see her maybe two to three times every two weeks or so, and we usually hang out until the wee hours of the morning, and we always have fun. It seems like I see her more when I turn up two factors: The "busting on her" factor, and the "not caring what you’re doing right now… I’m out with this other girl" factor. In my experience, a girl is either into me, or she’s not... point blank. This girl is more flaky, and on and off more than anyone I've ever know.

Ken Oh
my comments
Well, congratulations. I know exactly how you feel... I love it that I can hang out with my guy friends who are "naturals" at meeting women and hold my own.

I'm about to push the boundaries of my normally rather politically correct way of talking about women by venturing a guess...

I'll bet you a hundred bucks that this girl is or has been either...

1- An exotic dancer
2- An escort of some kind
3- A model or actress

I know, I know... attractive women often are. But there's something about these "careers" that, in my personal experience, seems to lead to the exact kinds of flaky, wishy-washy, inconsistent behavior you're talking about.

I mean, she could also just be a dingbat. Let's not rule that out.

The reason you probably like this girl so much is because she isn't predictable.
I mean, you could have asked me anything here, and you chose to ask me about one particular situation with one particular girl.

That tells me that whatever she's doing is working, and it's probably worked all her life.

10: Ways To Be The Man Women Want - Dating advices and dating tips for men

2008-01-29T18:59:00.000-08:00

Number 10

Learn to attract women by just being yourself

Many men feel an invisible barrier to becoming a man… and that barrier is magnified by the inability to attract women by just being yourself. The fact is, many of us have a “dark cloud” that follows us everywhere when we don’t have that special something that makes women want to be with us -- “for no reason at all, just because they enjoy being around you.” If a man is actually a boy on the inside, then he not only can’t see the path to fix the problem, but he also doesn’t even know that the path exists. But there IS a path -- believe me. Keep reading…

Number 9

Get “unstuck” and grow up

I believe that most of the people we refer to as “men” today are only called that because of their age and size; it has nothing to do with the deeper meaning of the word “man.” What happens when a man reaches a certain age, but doesn’t mature past a certain point in life? Or worse, what if some vital part of the maturation process that’s usually present in the external world isn’t there at a critical point in a man’s development… so that he winds up stuck at a certain psychological or emotional point? This is the problem most of us guys face: We were never shown the way to manhood, and now we have to figure it out for ourselves.

Number 8

It’s OK to be a man

When you try to fight your own nature, it will come back to bite you in the ass later, in a million ways. And when it comes back, it won’t be a simple drive to screw a woman’s brains out; it will be a complex web of neurotic thoughts, feelings and patterns that are very difficult to unwire. You must accept yourself, embrace the fact that you’re a man and have a man’s nature, then learn to observe all that happens -- from sexual impulses to killer instincts -- and harness the power from all of it. This is among the most important ways to be the man women want.

Number 7

Never follow the woman

Men often try to follow a woman who doesn’t want to lead, and when she doesn’t lead, the man tries to convince her to lead with questions and body language that seeks approval. She leads, he follows -- in fact, she isn’t even leading, but he tries to follow. This is a huge mistake. Instead, step up, be an man and LEAD. Pick a course and stay on it -- even though she is all over the map. Let her reorient her body, behavior and moods to yours. Don’t backpedal, change, explain yourself, or ever try to get her to lead. She may resist at first, but she’ll love you for it in the end.

Number 6

Take personal responsibility

Take personal responsibility for yourself, your thoughts and your situation. Learn to see how the choices you’ve made have led you to where you are. Refuse to be a victim -- and refuse to give anyone the power to take your joy from you. Women find this type of self-responsible guy very attractive.

Number 5

Stop giving away your power

Most men give away their power to women to get approval. The problem is that this is not one of the ways to be the man women want. That’s why those few men who choose to keep their power are so powerfully attractive to women. What’s the lesson here?Never give away your power to get on a woman’s “good side.” If feels like it should work, but it NEVER does.

Number 4

“Man up” about your insecurities

Instead of hiding the things that you’re insecure about, feature them until you’re over them. How? Practice making cocky jokes about them when you first meet a woman and are flirting. Say something like, “This is never going to work out; you’re not good at arguing and I overcompensate for being short by acting arrogant... so we’d always argue, and I’d always win.”

Number 3

Stop needing a woman to need you

Many men feel “left out” if a woman wants to do something alone or with friends other than him. Get over the automatic-response feeling of jealousy, loss or sadness if she’s looking forward to enjoying doing something without you. Cultivate your ability to want to do things without her and truly enjoy them. These are especially important when it comes to women who are new in your life. It’s mature to allow others to live their lives and enjoy experiences without you and without you feeling that you’re losing something. The other side of this coin is to allow yourself to live your life and enjoy your own experiences -- without needing others to validate your enjoyment. Get a life man! And experience this as one of the best ways to be the man women want.

Number 2

Give up “girly man” behavior

Becoming a “Man’s Man” means giving up a lot of things that most men hold on to. It means giving up throwing emotional tantrums to get attention. It means giving up correcting people because you need to feel important. It means no longer disagreeing with people to show your superiority or being a “know it all” so people will give you approval. It means you must stop saying and doing things to win attention and approval, instead of coming from a place of wanting to add value and genuinely help a situation. Give up these immature patterns that most guys get sucked into, and you’ll be well on your way to becoming the type of man who naturally attracts women.

Number 1

Constantly grow yourself to get an unfair advantage

Becoming the type of masculine, complete man that women are uncontrollably attracted to is a process. As soon as you think you’ve arrived, you see there’s another higher level on the horizon. Sadly, most guys never get started on this journey to true adulthood. They remain little boys trapped inside a man’s body. But if you want to be a man who has a continual stream of women in his life -- or one high-quality woman that you can keep for as long as you like -- then commit, right now, to do whatever it takes to grow yourself into the man you were born to become.

Dating tips and Dating advices: 10 Signs It’s Time To Break Up

2007-11-23T20:21:00.000-08:00

In any relationship, there are good days and there are bad days. For instance, you might want to do something that your partner is completely opposed to, or she might want to go shopping for the apartment when all you want to do is stay at home and relax with the game or a movie. This is part and parcel of being one half of a couple.

Now and again, however, your differences might become more serious and can lead to a breakup. There are signs of looming trouble, and when they are seen with some frequency, it might be time to cut your losses and end the relationship. Knowing what these breakup signs are can help you avoid wasting any more time in a dead-end relationship.
Number 10
Lack of contact
When you first got together with your other half, you couldn't stop contacting each other. Whether it was on the phone, via text messaging or using e-mail and other online messenger systems, speaking to each other almost every hour was the norm. Now, however, you can’t even be bothered to text, let alone call, her. On top of this, you have deliberately started to ignore her attempts to contact you. Caller ID has never been so useful and a breakup has never been more imminent.
Number 9
There’s no talk of the future
One of the most natural and exciting parts of being involved with someone is planning the future together. You’re perfectly content to plan for the holidays, dream about where you want to make your home, and ponder possible names for your kids because it gives you a feeling of safety. These thoughts of the future perpetuate the sentiment that the two of you will always be a loving couple that grows old together.

Raise any of these subjects now, and all you receive is a noncommittal nod or grunt; neither of you are willing to talk about where you want to spend your vacation in the summer or which concerts you want to attend.
Number 8
Lack of effort
Remember how, when you first got together, neither of you could come up with plans quick enough on what to do together. Long walks, picnics on the beach, spontaneous romantic getaways, and so on, were all romantic options for you and your new lover. Now you can’t even be bothered to arrange a date to keep the passion alive. In fact, you’re happiest when you’re listlessly sitting at home watching TV or a DVD -- anything to avoid talking to each other.
Number 7
Fighting dirty
The two of you used to have silly little fights that were only slightly more mature than a school-yard spat. Now you’re engaged in full-on war games in which anything goes. You know what her weak spots are -- her weight, her body image and her mother -- and you use them just to rile her up. You’re not alone, as the rules of engagement clearly state that she can do exactly the same thing back -- she laughs at your sexual prowess and tells her girlfriends how small your dipstick is.
Number 6
Fighting quickly
You used to see her little jibes as humorous and you were able to laugh them off. Now, the slightest word from her gaping hole that you find irritating leads you to throw down the gauntlet and pick a fight without a second’s notice. If this is the case, it suggests a deep-seated resentment for your partner, and is a sign that things could get real ugly if you don’t leave now and break up.
Number 5
Fighting publicly
Fighting with your partner is bad enough, but entering a screaming match in public is a definite sign that you’re in a relationship that’s out of control. If you don’t even care who hears or sees the problems that you have, it’s a sure sign that you’ve lost all respect for your partner. Short of stepping onto a soapbox on the street corner, tell her that you’re breaking up with her.
Number 4
Yearning for independence
It used to be that you wanted to spend every single waking minute with your girl; you’d share the shower first thing in the morning, you’d meet for lunch and you’d pick her up after work (even though it was out of your way) just to have more time together. Now all you want to do is go out with your buddies or even work double overtime just so you don’t have to spend any more time together than is absolutely necessary. Dreaming about your bachelorhood, romanticizing past relationships or fantasizing about becoming a player are all signs that your current relationship is doomed.
Number 3
Keeping secrets
The basis of any successful relationship is trust. This means sharing every intimate detail with no lies, no secrets, and no unexpected skeletons. If that suddenly disappears, what’s the point in continuing? If you can’t trust your partner with something your friend told you, or with something that might affect their own situation (either with a friend, family or work) it’s clear you no longer feel you can confide in them and it’s time to pack up and go.
Number 2
Change in perception
Remember how you used to think her little button nose was cute? Or how her strange little laugh was funny and endearing? Now that same button nose makes her look like a pig, and that laugh is less bearable than Fran Drescher’s. When you look at your love bug all you see are her ugly qualities -- physical or otherwise. You look at her now and see cellulite that causes dry heaves and those freckles on her chest make you think of leprosy. If you can’t see past her normal faults, it’s another sign that your relationship has had its day.
Number 1
No more sex
We all know how animalistic our sexuality becomes when we enter a new relationship. Heck, rabbits look like monks compared to how active we are. Then, like an overdosed rock star, your sexuality fizzles and you’re only getting your noodle wet a few times a month. When your action comes from the sex and advice column in your local newspaper, and there’s no sign of improvement, it’s usually an indication that the spark has gone and it’s time to move on to sexier pastures.
in and out of love
Whether or not you have experienced -- or are experiencing -- any of these signs, you’ll know when it’s time to break up with her. It may be obvious, but just having a gut feeling and sensing something is wrong is a key factor in knowing that your relationship is a bust. You know each other well, or at least you used to, and you know when something is wrong -- it’s this same something that tells you the whole thing has run its course. If that’s the case, get on with the show and get out before you lose your sanity.

Conversation Tips - Dating Tips and Dating Advices

2007-09-27T19:43:00.000-07:00

Women want sex just as much as men, but most men have no clue when it comes to getting the whole process started -- namely, how to handle the very first conversation. If you don’t have a game plan, it’s easy to let one opportunity after another pass you by. Here are 10 tips to help you start conversations with attractive women EVERYWHERE.
Number 10
Start chatting up EVERYONE
Part of the very CORE of successfully starting conversations with women is BASIC social skills. It’s important to practice starting conversations with as many people as possible, then use those skills with women you’re attracted to. Take advantage of every situation you can to start conversations and connect with people -- don’t be picky. If you can talk about irony, make sarcastic jokes that are funny, or make the other person laugh, ALL THE BETTER. If you start five conversations a day for the next 90 days, you’ll have started 450 new conversations with strangers. This ALONE will go a long way to reprogram your instinctive “fear approach response.”
Number 9
Incorporate different places into your weekly routine
Most guys have schedules that don’t put them into close proximity with a ton of women -- and then they complain that it’s so hard to meet them. Alter your lifestyle just a tad to include locations and situations that make it easy to meet women. As part of the natural flow of your life, include a coffee shop near a busy shopping or business district, a restaurant that hires a lot of attractive women and has a lot of turnover, and a trendy shopping mall. When you do, you won’t believe how many opportunities you’ll have to hone your skills for approaching women.
Number 8
Stop worrying about going out alone
Most men feel like fools if they go out to meet women alone. They don’t like going to bars or clubs without a buddy or two because they have the irrational thought that women will think they’re losers because they’re not there with someone and they feel like everyone is watching them and judging them for being alone. But most of the guys I know who are the MOST successful with women actually PREFER to go out alone. Try this: Go out alone one night this weekend -- not to meet women, but simply to watch and notice that no one cares about you at ALL. It’ll be a liberating experience for you… trust me.
Number 7
Get a handle on fear
The fear of approaching a woman; the fear of rejection; the fear attractive women won’t like you; the fear of making a physical advance: These things are all UNIVERSAL -- almost all men experience them in one way or another. You need to realize that this stuff is natural and you CAN overcome it if you want. The first step is to stop putting too much importance on any one situation and start thinking long-term and of the big picture. Focus on learning the SKILL. Girls will come and go, but when you develop the skill of getting ANY girl, it will last a lifetime.

Number 6
Stay out of the “loop”
What do guys do when they see a woman they’d like to approach? They get stuck in “inaction loops.” In other words, they FREEZE. Why? Because they try to come up with something “original and charming” to say; they try to think of the perfect compliment; they imagine she’s not single and that she’ll react negatively; or they start thinking there’s no way in hell she’d be interested in a guy like them. Do whatever it takes to stay OUT of these deadly loops. A simple solution is to just walk over and use a standard conversation opener. Keep it simple -- don’t over-think yourself right out of the game.
Number 5
Remember keys to starting conversations with women
When you see a cute girl, it’s important to remind yourself of some simple rules about approaching: Always approach a girl within three seconds -- don’t procrastinate. Saying anything is better than saying nothing at all. You can only learn at worst, and lessons are priceless. If this one doesn’t work, there will be 100 more in the future. It’s all upside, and no downside. Remember these key points for approaching women and it’ll make chatting up hotties a walk in the park.
Number 4
Get through the first few minutes
Most men don't realize this, but 99% of the first few minutes of your conversation with any woman aren’t about HER, they are about her PERSONA. A woman will play all sorts of games to block your progress so she can slow things down and maintain control. The last thing she wants to happen is for things to get hot and heavy too quickly, which may cause you to lose respect for her -- at least, this is what she believes. Even if a woman really likes you, she’ll probably be resistant at first, play hard to get, and even act uninterested. Some women get nervous around men, especially when they’re attracted to him. Don’t take any of this stuff personally, just be patient and persist.
Number 3
Appeal to her “weird” side
Every woman has a weird, dorky, off-beat side, but most men don’t get to see or interact with this side for very long. The key is for you to know that this side of her is in there, and then to talk to it and draw it out by teasing, latching on when you see it, etc. This is part of the key to giving her the experience of “I feel so comfortable with you,” and giving her the feeling that she’s known you for a long time. One way to do this is to call her a dork or a spaz or even a brat until you feel her shift. When she suddenly realizes you’re talking to that dorky side of her that few other men can bring out of her she'll begin to feel much more at ease with you. When you reach that point and get past a woman’s persona, that’s when MAGIC happens.
Number 2
Get success minded
We humans often learn TOO quickly. If we have just one unsuccessful experience, we “learn” that what we did doesn’t work. If we have several of these negative experiences, we become CONVINCED whatever it is we've been doing doesn’t work. This type of reasoning can spill over into our self-images and we begin to think, “It must be ME that’s the problem… something is wrong with ME.” Many men try to start a conversation or two with women, but when things don’t go as planned they decide something is wrong with them and that they have “failed.” But the way to turn any failure into a success is to LEARN from it. Success-minded individuals don’t see failure when they don’t have success right away -- instead, they think, “This is the time when success is right around the corner.” Try this mentality on for yourself -- you’ll be blown away by the results.
Number 1
Rehearse your approach
It’s important to mentally rehearse first conversations with women -- especially when you’re first starting out. Plan what you’re going to say, how she’s likely to respond and what you’re going to do in each possible situation. Take the time to mentally rehearse all of the steps of the approach in detail; the words you’ll use and the voice tone and body language, too. Also plan for how you’re going to physically and emotionally respond to a woman who isn’t interested in talking to you, and practice how you’ll handle the worst possible situation that may come up. When you do, you’ll realize there’s nothing more for you to fear. So get out there and put your plan into action.

Things To Never Ask Your Girlfriend - dating advices and dating tips

2007-09-23T11:39:00.000-07:00

In school, we were taught that there is no such thing as a stupid question. That might hold true

when figuring out the intricacies of algebra or history, but in a relationship, there are many, many stupid questions that can make your life miserable if asked. They may seem like innocuous, innocent queries to you, but in the complex mind of a female, these questions get twisted and analyzed until they are interpreted as mean-spirited missives slathered in deeper meaning and innuendo.

You could fill your relationship with awkward silence and avoid asking any questions at all, but this invites a whole slew of other problems. Instead, we’ve assembled a list of the 10 most notoriously unacceptable questions to ask your significant other. Consider it a guide through a potentially deadly minefield, where the peril isn’t to life or limb, but to your happiness and sex life. Tread lightly.
Number 10
What's for dinner?
This question was acceptable at one point in time -- a time when it was also “acceptable” to grab your secretary’s tush and call her “toots.” These days, it’s become a presumptuous, politically incorrect query that paints you as a backward, misogynistic jerk.

Of course, you’re going to have to ask this question from time to time. But throwing on an apron and having dinner waiting for her when she gets home from work once in a while gives you the political capital to ask without fear of reprisal.
Number 9
Can I borrow some money?
The very foundation of every male/female relationship is based on the man providing for the woman and making her feel secure. It once consisted of us bringing mammoth steaks back to the cave, but now it means providing a measure of financial security.

Asking her to lend you money completely shatters her faith in you to provide this basic function. She will question your money sense, your fiscal responsibility, heck, even your manhood. Ask a buddy, take out a loan, get another job -- do anything but hit your girl up for cash.
Number 8
How many guys have you slept with?
We all fantasize that our girls are pristine virgins untouched by other slimy male dogs. But we also know this probably isn’t the case. It’s natural to wonder just how many guys have had the pleasure of defiling your beautiful delicate flower, but unless you want to open a Costco-sized can of worms, you are going to have to just keep wondering.

What's wrong with asking this question? First of all, it is none of your business; and secondly, you might not be happy with what you hear. Her answer could have far-reaching implications, tainting her in your eyes and really throwing a wrench into your future. As they say, curiosity killed the libido.
Number 7
Are you wearing that?
Girls agonize over their outfits, taking great care in choosing every layer and accessory. So if she comes out of the bedroom for a night out and you pop off with this gem of a question, you are just inviting the mother of all battles.

Odds are that she would probably love to just throw on a pair of jeans and her least wrinkled shirt, but females are held to a higher fashion standard than we are. On top of that, most guys are certainly not in a position to give fashion advice to anyone. If her clothes are really heinous, you can suggest switching plans to stay home for a quiet night in. Otherwise, bite your tongue, tell her she looks beautiful and plan secretly to ruin the offending outfit the next time you do laundry.
Number 6
Don't you ever just want to start over somewhere new?
Occasionally, everyone gets caught in a Groundhog Day-esque rut and fantasizes about pulling up their roots and leaving it all behind. But vocalizing these dreams can leave her feeling hurt and very replaceable. It’s a perfectly understandable reaction to the question; she probably feels quite happy where she is and wouldn’t dream of leaving you.

You are best to keep these escapist fantasies to yourself and focus on making your reality more tolerable. Take up a new hobby or book a vacation with your little honey bunny -- do whatever it takes. Because bringing up this taboo subject is going to do nothing to make your situation better. In fact, it will likely make it a whole lot worse.

Number 5
Do you want to have a threesome?
Unless your girlfriend is a nymphomaniac or porn star (and few guys are that lucky), directly asking her to partake in this long-standing male fantasy is very, very dangerous. Her immediate reaction is most probably going to be negative, with the sting of jealousy bringing out a defensive and emotional response. She’ll self-consciously wonder why she alone isn’t enough to satisfy you, and her tolerance to your innocently wandering eye will all but disappear.

We’ve already looked at ways to approach this risky but potentially very rewarding scenario, but, suffice it to say, straight out asking her for a threesome isn’t your best course of action.
Number 4
Why don't you join the gym?
Whether they are size-zero waifs or triple-chinned monsters, all girls complain about their bodies. Popular culture and the fashion industry have brainwashed them to believe that they are too fat and riddled with cellulite. But when your girl is complaining about how out of shape she is or how her clothes don’t fit, tell her how wrong she is and offer only words of encouragement. Anything outside of this is a prospective time bomb waiting to explode, especially this seemingly practical suggestion. Remember, though: Practicality has very little providence when it comes to matters like this.
Number 3
Did you c*m?
It’s pretty obvious when guys “finish up” during sex. Not so for most females. And with the popular consensus suggesting most girls end up faking their orgasms, there is a lot of uncertainty surrounding the feminine climax.

This does not give you permission to ask her if she had one after you are finished. It puts her on the spot and brings into question her sincerity. It also puts a lot of pressure on her and can make what is supposed to be the most relaxed, enjoyable thing you do together an unpleasant event dependent wholly on her ability to climax, or your ability to make her do it.

This is an important part of your relationship, so keep your lines of communication open. But be tactful and don’t come right out and ask.
Number 2
Are you PMS-ing?
It’s natural to try to rationalize your gal’s irrational behavior. But asking if this mythical monthly syndrome is causing it will succeed only in making her mood exponentially worse (even if it’s true).

If you’re right, she is at the mercy of her hormones and can’t be held responsible for her reaction to your question (which will invariably be bad). If something else is to blame, discrediting whatever it is that is making her upset by lumping it under PMS will only prove two things: You know your acronyms, and you‘re a heartless bastard. Look for the real reason for her mood, and if you fail to find it, just keep your mouth shut and weather the storm.
Number 1
Why do you have to be such a bitch?
It is amazing what can come out of your mouth in the heat of a fight. There are only a few things you can say to get you in real trouble, and asking her this rather pointed question is one of them. The answer you are expecting (that it is hardwired into her gender’s biology) isn’t coming. What will come instead is an all-new level of anger from your girl and an indeterminate extension of your fight.

When you are fighting, keep a level head and watch what you say. Emotions can run high, but you still must be responsible for your actions. Choose your words wisely and defuse the situation.
bite your tongue
There is something to be said for the strong, silent type. Some think his brooding demeanor makes him mysterious and sensual, but in reality, he is just keeping his mouth shut to avoid some of the potholes we’ve covered here. Avoiding a lot of these queries is really just an exercise in common sense, but that isn’t the strongest quality in a lot of us. Use your judgment, keep your wits about you and watch out for these questions.

Dating advice and dating tips Ways To Approach A Babe

2007-09-20T18:39:00.000-07:00

We’ve all seen her -- that one woman who is just SO hot that every guy is too intimidated to approach her. But what if some one was willing to do it, and what if that someone was you? The simple truth is that the more attractive a woman is the more likely it is that every other guy is too scared to talk to her. So, here are 10 tips to put yourself ahead of the “pack” by learning how to talk to super-attractive women.
Number 10
Recognize when she’s receptive and when she’s NOT
It’s important that you cultivate the ability to recognize when a woman is “open and receptive” to you, and when she’s not. When she looks at you, does she look away? Does she look down or to the SIDE when she looks away? As you become better and better at seeing receptive “states” in women, you’ll find that your success will improve SUBSTANTIALLY.
Number 9
Know how she’ll react ahead of time
One of the reasons we don’t start conversations with hot women -- in fact, why we don’t even TRY to -- is because we don’t have any idea what to expect. Most of us have never done it, and rarely have we even seen OTHER GUYS do it. So what happens, on average, with a guy who has learned to start conversations with hot women without being overly nervous and who has learned to project a calm, confident, open personality? In most situations, a guy like this will get at least an OPENING… it’s RARE that a woman will treat him “rudely.” And if, occasionally, a woman DOES respond rudely, you know it has more to with HER than it does with YOU.
Number 8
“Reprogram” your fear response
Most guys have a knee-jerk “fear response” when it comes to approaching a particularly attractive woman. If you want to “reprogram” this response fast, then go big and put yourself in a situation where you approach many women in rapid succession. If you approach 10, 20 or even 50 women in a single day, you’ll make TREMENDOUS progress toward rewiring your instinctive fear reaction. Grab a buddy and commit to one another that you’re both going to approach a certain number of women on a particular night. Give each other a mental high five for each approach, and before you know it, you’ll have reached your goal for the evening… And approaching attractive women won’t be NEARLY as big of a deal as it may have been for you in the past.
Number 7
Avoid “negative feedback loops”
What do guys do when they see a woman they’d like to talk to? They get stuck in what I call “inaction loops.” They try to come up with something original and charming to say. Or they try to think of the perfect compliment. Or they starting imagining that she’s not single, that she’s too busy to talk or -- worst of all -- that she wouldn’t be interested in someone like you. All of these thoughts lead to a powerful emotional and physical FEAR response that’s real -- you can feel it in your body. Stay out of this loop by NOT HESITATING when you see a woman you want to approach, and have some sort of opener ready to go. This will get you talking quickly… Instead of going inside your head and letting your imagination work against you.

Number 6
Keep your cool
There are “trip wires” or triggers that can instantly put you in a BAD place with an attractive woman. Most of these big mistakes revolve around giving her your power, acting uncomfortably or unnaturally or letting the situation unnerve you and losing your composure. Avoid behaviors like trying to impress her, giving her more than one compliment, looking for her approval, doing things for her, kissing up to her, etc. At first, you’ll need to consciously avoid these pitfalls. With practice, you’ll get to the point where you NATURALLY avoid them.
Number 5
Never seek her approval
Seeking a woman’s approval is the most common and most deadly mistake men make when talking to women. Think of it as a continuum from bad to good: You need her approval, you want her approval, you’d like her approval, but you’re OK without it. Or, you only care a little bit about what she thinks of you and you could give a rat’s ass if she approves of you or not. Figure out where you’re at this continuum right now, and make it a point to progress with every interaction until you reach the point in which you no longer seek any woman’s approval. Every bit of growth you make in this area has a POWERFUL effect on your ability to chat up and attract those super-babes you’re after…
Number 4
Try different attitudes for your approaches
I’ve seen many different attitudes and roles work well for approaching women: enthusiastic, serious, casual, interested, etc. Develop an approach that fits your personality, but also be willing to try out some styles. It’s perfectly OK to test things out, experiment, and find what works to get the results you want. Think of three different attitudes you could try right now and make it a point to use each of them with at least three different women as soon as possible. This simple exercise can work miracles and put you in touch with a style of game that works for you personally.
Number 3
Ask her opinion
About four or five years ago, I was out at a club and I stumbled upon an interesting way to start conversations with women. I decided it was time to start treating these women as if they were just people who happened to be where I was, and I wanted to chat with them. So I started approaching women and starting conversations with them by asking their opinions on things (especially on topics women find interesting, like the latest celebrity gossip, etc.). I left that night with five phone numbers from some of the hottest women I’d ever met. Asking a woman’s opinion offers the lowest risk, and is one of the simplest ways to start a conversation.
Number 2
Remember that approaching gives YOU a critical advantage
The good news is that it IS possible to rewire yourself and learn how to approach incredibly attractive women, and enjoy both incredible success and advantages as a result. Remember: Most men will NEVER seek this path of overcoming the fear of approaching gorgeous women, so when YOU do, you give yourself an almost unfair advantage over most of the men who are now living or for that matter, who have EVER lived. Pretty deep, huh? When you need a little motivation to nudge you to start talking to a woman, remember the incredible advantage approaching her will give you -- then let it happen.
Number 1
Commit yourself to mastery
Approaching attractive women is one of the “core” skills in your arsenal to improve your success with women. It’ll open all sorts of doors for you and give you ample opportunities to practice your game, not to mention lead to a lot of “fun” with different women. But it’s not something that’ll change overnight. If you really want to get this part of your life handled, make a commitment to become a MASTER at approaching women. Get all the best ideas and techniques you can, practice them out in the field, and never stop learning. That’s the path to true mastery.

Flirting with a Woman - dating advices and dating tips for men

2007-09-17T19:49:00.000-07:00

Men will always view the woman as a mystery; a code that needs to be cracked. That is why flirting with a woman can be a little tricky, as they tend to have moods that we may never understand.

The art of flirting and seduction, as with any other skill, does not always come naturally and can be developed. With some effort, in time you would become a magnet for other people.

Smile – This is probably the easiest form of flirting. It brings out your positivity and you are indicating that you are interested to the person you are talking with. But unlike a “regular” smile, a “flirty” smile should be wider than you are used to. Smile often, such as when shaking her hand, introducing yourself, complementing her, among other things. Remember that a smile breaks the ice, and can lead to a conversation. Practice your smile in the mirror and check how to smile without looking too scary.

Get caught looking at her – It may seem to be something shy guys tend to do, but looking away can be flirty. If you want to know to let her know you are interested, just look at her face. When she catches you looking, smile, hold eye contact for a moment, then look away.

Wave a little – Another way of flirting if you get caught looking at a hot girl is to give a little wave. Move your hand a little and smile. It's saying “hello” in a non-intrusive yet very flirty manner.

Wink – Giving a quick and sweet wink can be done with someone from across the room, or at someone during a conversation. However, it is best not to wink excessively. If she says or does something she might view as embarrassing, you can give out a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you.

Be creative in introducing yourself – It is important to seduce her mind first. Using the right words would get in her head and have her thinking about you. Also, make her feel comfortable as you talk to her. Women like to talk so establishing a rapport with her is not as hard as it might seem. Just remember to think of the right words before saying it and be sincere in your conversations.

Eye contact – Looking (not staring) at her longer than normal would provide the right message that you are interested to her. Remember to keep your look on her face, glancing on other body parts for a few minutes every once in a while.

Complement her – Open conversations with her by complementing. However, be careful on what you're complementing. On your first meeting, it is best to focus your praises on her face and not on her body (even if she looks hot).

Check her body language – Most men fail to realize the importance of body language. Women tend to make certain body movements—and they are usually unaware of this—indicating whether or not they like the man whom they are talking to. For instance, combing her hair around the ear using her fingertips is a good sign that she likes you. Other notable movements include eye contact, trying to heighten or lower her voice just to match yours, and if she is leaning closer. However, do not consider one movement as the overall impression. If she crosses her arms, it could either mean she is being defensive at meeting new people or being uncomfortable towards you.

Humor her – Having a good laugh provides a healthy conversation between you and her. She creates a positive impression of you, which is vital if you want to establish a relationship with her. However, remember that sense of humor can be relative. What can be funny to you can be horrible for her. Try to tell her a joke that got you laughing and see if she reacts positively.

Keep the positive – Maintain the positive topics that you use in the conversation. Remember that talking to her should be fun and leave the intelligent exchange to the philosophers. Avoid topics that usually lead to dispute such as religion, politics, past relationships, rants, and other negative discussions.

Talk a little more, but not about yourself – One objective to flirting a woman is to know more about her. However, keep yourself a mystery as much as possible. Not talking too much about yourself would make women longing to know about you more.

Touch lightly – You can touch your prospect without harassing the girl. This can be as simple as placing your hand lightly on her hand for a moment, or touching her back for a moment as you walk to a table to sit down. Touching is actually a good indicator to know if the girl is interested to you: if she pulls away, then she could either be not interested or just not wanting to go on a deeper level yet.

Make decisions quickly – Taking your time choosing the perfect coffee blend or looking at the restaurant menu does not give a good signal to the woman. By making decisions quickly and firmly, you are proving to her that you know what you want.

Be patient – Take things slowly. If she doesn't want to be touched on your first date, then don't force it. If she is the aggressive type, try resisting her. Either way, she would be intrigued more about you.

Do the “goodbye compliment” – If you are really shy to approach a girl, you could simply go near her before you leave and say something like, “Hi, I have to go now, but before I did, I really wanted to let you know that you have a really great smile, and I noticed that. I wish I had more time to spend with you, but I have to go.” After doing your “goodbye compliment,” leave as soon as possible even if the girl wants you to stay some more. This allows you to build your confidence in approaching women without having to take the risk of rejection. If the girl seems interested to you, ask for her phone number.

Know when to stop – Remember to stop flirting while it is still fun. Flirting too often during a conversation may make you appear as cheesy. If you stop flirting on a high point, your new friend may feel good when thinking of you, and want to see you again.

Dating tips and dating advices for men - Avoiding Rejection When “Getting Physical”

2007-09-16T19:21:00.000-07:00

Most men don’t know the first thing about how to take things to a “physical” level with a woman. Here’s why:

Let’s say you’ve been out on a date with a woman, and you’re now back at your place, having an enjoyable conversation. You look over at her. She looks back at you. You want to kiss her. She knows that you want to kiss her. You know that she is the one with all the power. If you try to kiss her, and she pulls away, she might reject you forever. If you don’t try to kiss her, maybe it will happen later, or maybe she’ll even kiss you…

The risk of being rejected forever is so powerful and creates such fear that you decide to just “walk away” from the situation and hope something happens later.

Or, let’s say that you’ve been out with a woman a few times, and you have just kissed her for the first time. You know that she’s enjoying it. She knows that you want her. You’d really like to do more, but you’re afraid that if you try, you’ll be seen as “moving too fast”, or even worse… a “pushy pervert”.

You hate the idea of being rejected after you’ve invested all that time and come so far… So you decide to stop and hope that maybe things will “heat back up” later.
We’ve All Been There

If you really stop and think about it, the reason why you run into problems in situations like these is that:

1. You don’t understand exactly what turns women on.
2. You are afraid of rejection.
3. You don’t know what SHE’S thinking, so you hesitate.

I honestly believe that most men cause their own problems and resistance when it comes to “getting physical” with a woman. Yes, you read that right… Men are the ones who cause the problems.

It’s not the woman!

It’s the fact that you don’t understand the situation, what’s really going on, and how to proceed.
What Women Want… But Will Never Tell You

Here’s a little secret that most women will never share with you… She knows what’s on your mind. Women can tell what you’re thinking! If you want to kiss her, but you’re nervous about it, she knows. If you’re kissing her and want to do more… she knows. And here’s the kicker: If you’re afraid of her rejecting you, she knows. Really.

Women are approximately ten times as good at men when it comes to reading and interpreting subtle body language, and they know what we’re thinking. Let me correct myself… slightly. They know what most men are thinking.

Now, let’s talk a little bit about the topics of resistance and rejection.

Here’s an interesting thought:

In their book “Sexual Interactions: Basic Understandings“, Albert and Elizabeth Allgeier mention that in one study almost 40% of women reported refusing sexual intercourse when they actually wanted it. They call this “The token no”.

So, what’s going on here?

Hold on… one more thing before I discuss this, I want to point out that this doesn’t mean that a woman wants a man to force himself on her. Never force a woman to do anything!

Here’s what’s going on… Women enjoy anticipation. Anticipation leads to sexual arousal. Write that down… on your forehead. You need to remember that women like the idea of wanting and expecting what’s going to happen.

The reason why a lot of women say that they don’t want to sleep with men even when they do is because the man doesn’t get it. Men act like they would enjoy it if a woman just took off her clothes and said, “Let’s do it.”

Women act like they want a man to chase them around all night… and then maybe do it. Maybe. So if you want her to feel more turned on, and to get less “resistance”, then use anticipation.

I have a technique that I teach that’s called “Two steps forward, one step back”. This is a way to increase a woman’s sexual arousal and amplify the attraction that’s already present in the situation.

Here’s how it works:

Let’s say that you’re talking to a woman at your place, and you start holding her hand. After a few minutes, take your hand back and stop. Lean back. Keep talking.

A few minutes later, reach over and take her hand again… and keep talking. Then, lean over and kiss her (use “The Kiss Test” as described at my website and in my “Double Your Dating” ebook). After you’ve kissed her, stop. Lean back again. Keep talking.

A few minutes later, reach over and kiss her again. This time, kiss her for a little longer. Kiss her a little deeper. Then stop. Lean back. Smile.

When you use this technique, you will be absolutely stunned at the results.

First of all, it completely changes the situation. Instead of a woman resisting you, she’ll be much more likely to try to get you to do more. She’ll very likely be confused. She’ll be thinking to herself, “What’s going on here? Most guys try to push themselves on me, or they don’t do anything at all. This guy seems like he’s so in control of himself. And I keep getting more turned on. Maybe I should tell him that we’re not going to sleep together tonight. But this is so great…”

And the best part of this technique is that it’s what women want you to do!

Of course, they’d never tell you this. And even if a woman could explain it, she wouldn’t want to tell you. Women want men who already get it.

I want to mention a couple of more important things.

First, if you want to even get to the point where it’s time to hold a woman’s hand, kiss her, and get even more physical, then you must understand how attraction works, and how to make women feel that powerful emotion.

If you don’t, then knowing all the fancy techniques in the world won’t help you. It’s also very useful to understand what to do after you’ve kissed a woman… the details of how to do other, more intimate things.

Dating tips and dating advices - Seductive Pheromones

2007-09-14T19:27:00.000-07:00

Pheromones have been around since the beginning of time. However, it is only recently that the pheromon and it’s benefits have truly come to shine. Men and women have been searching for ways to attract each other for years. Wearing revealing clothing, buying fancy cars and spending hours working on personal appearance might in fact prove futile with the innovation of the pheromone cologne.

Let’s face it, everyone wants the edge in the mating game, right? Being smarter than your opposition for your chosen mate is all part of evolution in action. And nothing is more natural than the mating game. But how can you get the winning edge over others who want the same mate you do?

Words can be awkward. You just can’t walk up to someone and say, “Let’s go to bed!” But you can communicate this message in a more subtle, natural way with the help of a pheromone. Smelling nice always helps. But smelling nice and getting laid like a Rock Star is a totally different ball game!

Natural pheromone is found in perspiration. We all know that perspiration is an unpleasant smell, but scientists have been able to take the pheromone and segregate them from the other particles. The end result is a liquid that is unscented and invisible.

Many people think that human pheromones are only used by men to attract women. In fact, that could not be further from the truth. Although men seem to use this sex pheromone more than women, there are many women worldwide who are benefiting from this powerful natural agent and are seeing in some cases better results.

Although it is used by all different kinds of people, it is especially popular among those who are socially awkward. In the dating scene, making the first move is usually the most intimidating part. With pheromone perfume, you will never have to make the first move again. No matter where you are, you will have people approaching you and starting up conversations. If you are concerned about your physical appearance, then a pheromone spray could be the perfect option.

The benefits of using pheromones don’t stop once you have the date of your dreams. Pheromone products are also quite helpful in the bedroom as well. Scientific tests have proven that women will have more frequent and powerful orgasms when sex pheromones are used. So not only will pheromone products make you more appealing to the opposite sex, they will also spark a new flame between the sheets.

There are a variety of ways that you can go about acquiring pheromone concentrate. Many stores that offer cologne and perfume will also offer pheromones. However, the best place to buy pheromones is the Internet.

There are many pioneers that have found the benefits of pheromones themselves and have since created online businesses. By simply taking a few minutes to browse around our pheromone reviews, you will get all of the answers to any possible androstenone pheromone questions you may have. On top of that, you can order pheromone products here by a simple click of the mouse. There are many companies that say that they have experience marketing the best pheromone but our company has one of the most reputable histories.

Although it may seem to be too good to be true, you will learn the benefits of pure pheromones after using them only once. Heads will turn, your little black book or your mobile (if you have finally stepped into the 21st century!) will fill up and your life will instantly become more exciting. You have the chance to change your entire life and develop a whole new personality, so take that chance today with some of the best pheromone products.

Dating Advice and dating tips - Signs She’s Going To Dump You

2007-09-05T13:22:00.000-07:00

Women in relationships aren't often recognized for their outstanding poker faces, especially when things aren't going well. The good news for you is that by just paying a bit of attention, it usually isn't hard to get a handle on what is going on inside her head as it concerns the state of your relationship or its future.

If she's thinking that the end is near for the two of you, her actions will no doubt be affected. Remember: She isn't sending out these signals purposely, so the odds are good that she'll reveal her true feelings before she is able to say anything out loud. You might be able to spot the signs that the end is near and avoid having to sit down and have a heart-to-heart conversation or an awkward breakup.

Here are signs she might be sending that should have your breakup alarm going off. If you start seeing these tip-offs, you'd better decide if you want to jump ship before you get thrown overboard or if you want to try to make it work.
She doesn't make future plans
Planning ahead is the hallmark of what makes a relationship serious rather than casual. Women in love are usually eager to secure your time well in advance of important events to make sure you'll be able to make it, so that she won't miss out on the opportunity to show you off. If you find that your lady isn't dropping hints about events or plans more than a month or two away, there's a good chance she isn't sure you'll be around. For this reason, she's reluctant to secure future complications (such as tickets to events, travel arrangements, or RSVP situations).
She avoids your family & friends
A girlfriend looking to secure a place in your life will have to make nice with both your family and your friends, but she wouldn't put in the time if she didn't think there was any future in your relationship. There are two reasons why she might not want to spend the quality time: Either she doesn't like them or she doesn't want to become too ingrained in your social circle, which would make it harder for her to walk away. And if she genuinely dislikes them, a relationship-minded girlfriend is likely to throw you a bone every once in a while if she knows she’s going to be a part of your life.

She never leaves anything at your place
There's a pretty common joke about women “accidentally on purpose” leaving things at a man's house to ensure or indicate a repeat visit -- and there's a reason why the story is so believable. Women in strong relationships are apt to make themselves comfortable in their boyfriend's place and leave a few things laying around. It can be practical items like a brush and a pair of pyjamas or something personal like a book; in either case they signal her intent to visit again. If your girlfriend always packs a complete overnight bag and is reluctant to leave anything behind, it might signal that she isn't sure that you are going to remain on her to-do list and she is wary of losing those items for good.
She doesn't confide in you
When something bad happens at work or she has a fight with a friend, women have different people they go to with the ins and outs of the events and her feelings about them. Some have a go-to girlfriend, others a family member, but eventually a boyfriend is going to be exposed to whatever the most recent crisis was. How she involves you will speak volumes: If you find yourself getting the short story devoid of her emotional reactions, she might be figuring that it isn't worth explaining to you. If she divulges the back story, describes everyone involved and solicits your opinion, you've got a woman on your hands who is trying to invite you into her personal world. This signals your importance to her and her openness to sharing herself with you -- both of which indicate that she's in it for the long haul.
She doesn't argue with you
It's rare to find yourself in a perfect relationship with absolutely no conflict -- there are always going to be issues that need to be resolved, apologies that have to be made, and arguments that need to be had. A woman with no emotional investment in you and your relationship won't bother; few people will argue if they have no desire for resolution. That's what makes make-up sex so damn good -- arguments and disagreements are almost always emotionally charged and are a great indicator of passion in a relationship. If your woman calls you on your mistakes and defends herself vigorously, she probably cares enough to sort things out with you before they become relationship deal-breakers.
sensing the end
Not everyone can mind-read in relationships, but just about anyone can stay tuned to the subconscious actions of romantic partners who are wavering in a relationship. If you stay on your toes you might be able to head off your next breakup with a preemptive strike of your own, or a battle plan to turn things around -- the choice is yours.

Dating advice and dating tips - How To Talk To Any Woman In Any Situation

2007-09-02T06:23:00.000-07:00

This week I would like to turn the tables around and try something a little bit different. Something that just might make you take a new perspective and think about things in a way you’ve never thought about before… something that just might stir you up enough to get you to take some action…

First, I’d like you to think about the last time you saw a really attractive woman… you wanted to go over and talk to her, but for whatever reason you just didn’t do it. I’m talking about a really hot woman.

Take your time if you need it. I’m not going anywhere. Good.

Now, let me ask you something:

Did you ever stop a day or two after one of these situations happened to think about where that particular woman might be, and what she might be doing? Did you ever stop to think about what the rest of her day was like after she walked by you? About the ten or twenty other men that saw her that day who didn’t have the nerve to talk to her… and the two or three that did…? About the, most likely, boring job that she went to, the same-old-same-old “Wow, you’re beautiful” lines that she heard from the guys who got up the nerve to talk to her?

Did you ever consider that it might be useful to take a little time out and consider what it might be like to be an attractive woman, walking through life having almost every man you see light up with the “Whoa” look?

Hmmm…

What do you think we might be able to figure out if we just took a few minutes to explore what that attractive woman’s private life is like? Here are a few things that I’ve come up with:

1. Most attractive women are bored out of their minds by most men. One of the reasons for this is that guys have no idea what to do when they run into an attractive woman, so they do the same default thing: dumb look, compliment.
2. As I’ve said before, and I’m sure I’ll say many, many, many times in the future: You can’t bore a woman into feeling attracted to you. If she’s most likely got a boring life like everyone else, and you do something that every one of the other 499 guys she’s going to walk by this month did, then you’re probably not going to attract any special attention.
3. If you just start with the idea of not doing what other guys do you will be waaaaaayyy ahead of the game.

Wow, this is fun, isn’t it? Bet you never thought you’d be thinking like a woman, did ya? So, what are a few things you might do to? Maybe not be like the other 499 boring, predictable, “nice” loser guys she encountered? And maybe be interesting, attractive, attention-getting in a way that makes her feel like you might actually be someone to provide her with a pinch of spice in her life?

I thought you’d never ask…

And, as you may have already predicted, I have a few more ideas of my own (but don’t let that stop you from thinking about this on your own as often as you get a chance).

To start with, you’d probably want to get rid of the “Wow, you’re a beautiful woman, and I’m just an average guy admiring you” vibe. That’s not helping. Next, you could take a moment and think about how a guy that she would feel attracted to might act… then choose that style. My experience is that if you take an attitude of “I guess fate has good taste putting us in the same place, now let’s see if you have a personality to match your looks”, then stir in a generous portion of Cocky & Funny, you’re likely to do well.

Here’s a variation of something I’ve used myself once or twice:

* YOU: “Hey, can I ask you a quick question?” (leaning back and playing it cool, talking cool and slow)
* HER: “Sure”
* (pause.. pause.. pause for suspense)
* YOU: “Are you single?” (stone cold straight face)
* HER: “Well, um…”
* YOU: “I’ll take that as a yes…” (nodding, sly smile)
* HER: (Laughter)
* YOU: “Well, I just happen to know someone that I think might really like you… if you’re more than just a pretty face, that is… He’s funny, has great taste, and I think you’d like him… I’d love to sit down and get your life story, but I’m on my way somewhere… do you have email?” (very cool, calm tone of voice)
* HER: “Yes.”
* YOU: Great… (takes out pen)… write it down for me, and I’ll have, uh (clears throat) HIM send you an email.”
* (Get email and wish the lady a good day.)

Now, let’s talk about what just happened here.

First off, did I give her any compliments? Did I act like the other 499 guys? Did I instantly communicate that “I’m not worthy”? Hell no.

I said, “Hey, can I ask you a quick question?” in a very laid back, almost too relaxed and mysterious tone of voice (your body language is a very important component of this approach…). Anyone will respond to that with a “yes”.

Next, I did something kind of fun: I asked her directly if she was single. LOL… I really love this one. It’s so fun. Most guys will say, “Uh, I’ll bet you have a

boyfriend, huh?” or “So, do you have a man?” or some other lame thing. The question, “Are you single?”, takes women off guard. It’s great. And then being assumptive when she hesitated with an answer… in a cocky & funny way… magic.

Next, I followed up with a cocky, funny, semi-confusing little bit about “knowing someone” that might find her interesting. Now, she might think that it’s really me, but she won’t know for sure until she gets the email. And even then you might play with her a bit… “So, what did you think of my friend? I think he might like you…” etc.

The point is, I can pretty much guarantee you that this particular sequence hasn’t happened to her lately. She’s still trying to overcome her sheer awe
about how many guys in a row can ask “Don’t I know you from somewhere?”. This kind of fun approach will be a welcome breath of fresh air.

Now, I want you to do something. Go back and read it again… very carefully. Imagine it happening exactly like it’s written. Try to imagine it in a few different settings. Work on it until you can clearly see it happening in your mind’s eye. (The reason I can see it clearly is because I’ve done it so many times in real life!)

OK, so now you know how to approach women. Fantastic.

I can remember when I first learned how to start approaching women… I thought that if I could just start conversations easily, the rest of it would be a snap. Well, after meeting a lot of women, but not getting so many dates… and having the few dates I did get not go anywhere… I realized that there was a lot more to it.

Dating Advice and dating tips : An Exercise For Eliminating Fear Of Rejection By The guy/ gal

2007-08-30T12:35:00.000-07:00

There’s a lot of talk about “approach anxiety” when is comes to approaching and meeting someone attractive. My personal belief is that we all too often have actually “rejected” ourselves before the potential meeting ever actually happens. This is tragic, because there is a simple yet effective way to make real progress from this kind of self-limitation.

As the title has already telegraphed, what we’re talking about here is training yourself how to see yourself as others see you… and then how to see others as they see themselves.

So what does that mean?

You as a human being are in a remarkable position. Have you ever considered how wild it truly is that out of six billion plus human beings just like you on this planet, you will only ever see light through the eyes of one of them? You are confined to your own physical being, at least as far as the laws of physics apply in this life. The metaphysics of all this are, of course, a subject better suited to some other article that is not about dating and relationships. Fair enough.

But since we are focused like a laser on your total, utter and massive success in the dating world-up to and including complete control over your dating life - you’d best believe that there is tremendous value in exploring this concept more deeply from a certain perspective.

So many of us artificially limit ourselves from believing that we can possibly deserve the kind of partner we want. Going way beyond “approach anxiety“…going way beyond “getting beat by a girl” and indeed way beyond anything you’ve ever heard from me until now, it can be safely assumed that much of the problem is directly attributable to how you see yourself vs. how you see others.

Here’s what I mean.

Since you know every intimate detail of your own thoughts, fears and weaknesses-as well as your strengths, of course-you know all of your own darkest secrets. Every imperfection, every prurient thought, every doubt and indeed-every single blasted thing that would cause you humiliating embarrassment if others knew.

Armed with this knowledge, what do you do? You go out and become completely disarmed by a “beautiful” and apparently “perfect” creature of the opposite gender. In your mind, he or she is flawless.

Then comes the vortex of self-doubt. “Oh man…I could never be in her league. She’s a veritable vision of perfection…and I can’t even get into an elevator without feeling claustrophobic, come from a foreign country, need a haircut, have a big nose, have spring allergies, say stupid things when nervous, chew my toenails in private and once cheated on a math test.”

So once again you talk yourself out of being successful.

Erstwhile, your “vision of perfection” is inside her own state of being thinking, “Girl…get yourself together! Your panty lines are showing, you have stupid looking ears, are habitually late for work, snort when you laugh, have two crooked teeth and wear contact lenses. No wonder you’ve been dateless for a month now!”

Crazy stuff, isn’t it? If only we could see inside each other’s heads. Better yet, if only we could read the thoughts of others regarding us.

Well, you can’t do that, but here are two simple exercises you can do:
Eliminate private knowledge as a “limiting factor” and take notes regarding how others respond to you

First and foremost, realize that your private thoughts are not public. Nobody else can evaluate you by them, so stop using them against yourself. They do not exist in the minds of others because they cannot. Next, consider the comments you receive from people. Where you hear patterns repeated time and again it’s time to believe what you are hearing. If pointing to ways you can better yourself, do so and deserve what you want. If you hear recurring positive comments and/or see recurring positive reactions to your presence and/or interactions, begin to recognize the truly positive manner in which others perceive you. This sounds so simplistic, yet how many of us go home and obsess over self-perceived “negatives” that we are repeatedly told are positives? If you think I must be kidding, actively begin to look for clues in your social life where you have previously been oblivious. Note the patterns that you detect, and trust them.
Pretend you are walking in the shoes of someone you find attractive

Okay, here’s the “power ball”. Ready? My guess is that when you encounter someone who really motors your sexual attraction levels, that person is actually more “perfectly imperfect” than “perfect”. The next time you are practically paralyzed by attraction towards someone, I want you pretend for a moment that you were that person instead of yourself. In your darkest, most self-critical thoughts, what would you be most self-conscious about? Go ahead and in your blind attraction make an effort to approach that concept with sober judgment. You will likely identify an entire litany of faults and potential attitudes that would make him or her very insecure, at least theoretically. Ironically, you may find yourself recognizing traits and/or features that some people may be self-critical about but which are at the same time exactly what is making you so hot for this person. It’s strange for sure. But it is an eye opener.

Dating tips and dating advices - Secrets of Talking With Women

2007-08-29T09:08:00.000-07:00

Most of us have endured some silences in our relations with women we wish hadn’t happened. Well, first, you don’t have to be scared of silences, because they can be helpful. And second, there are ways to get a sparkling conversation going from next to ZERO material.
Let’s Take a Moment to Look Left

Brief related tangent time: one question I get asked a lot is “What should I talk about?”. Sure, now you know how you’re supposed to talk, but so many guys get stuck on what to talk about. After all, those dead silences are murder for attraction, right?

First off, not so fast bad-mouthing silence. More on that later. Second, it really doesn’t matter what you talk about, so long as you make it interesting. I’ve said this again and again, but let me stress it now: you can talk about anything and it’ll be ok. You can tell a date her butt looks huge in that dress. Say it right and she won’t walk out or slap you, she’ll laugh. You can wonder aloud whether postal workers get high on stamp glue. You can go on for half an hour about the off-color corner of that rare Elvis stamp you have framed on your wall… well, ok, maybe not that one. If you talk at length about certified punchline hobbies, you might be in trouble. Unless you’re making fun of them, of course.
Can stupid stuff work? You betcha

But seriously, this isn’t rocket science. This isn’t even high school science, despite how often the word “chemistry” gets bandied about.

When I was still studying these skills, some of my “natural” friends would tell me lines they’d used with great success. I didn’t believe it. The things they related to me sounded so… dumb, I couldn’t fathom an attractive intelligent woman would go for them.

Then I saw these guys in action. Sure, I could hear the stupidity of some of the lines – the corniness, the transparency, the if-this-were-in-a-Bond-movie-I’d-groan-now quality to them. Still, they worked. I had new respect for groaners in Bond movies. The key was all in the nonverbal delivery, as we’ve talked about at length.

Ok, so now that I’ve hopefully reminded you not to worry too much about the actual content, let me add sometimes you don’t need content at all.
The Golden Silence is as good as the Golden Tongue

Strange, eh? I have one friend who isn’t a gabber, who doesn’t like to partake in anything close to small talk. And when he’s out with women, there are numerous silences. And it works. Why? Because he’s comfortable with it.

Listen, reality is all about perception. If you’re scared of awkward silences, they become awkward. If you aren’t, the silences become natural. And that kind of thing stinks of relaxed confidence.

When you’re relaxed and comfortable enough to let a silence come and it doesn’t bug you, it communicates all sorts of positive things. Relaxed Confidence. Real (no games). Uh, we need a new word here, not gravity, but the opposite of frivolity. But while staying playful. We’ll call it gravolity.

To be clear, don’t overdo this. If you never say anything, well, you’re just boring. But don’t be scared of the occasional silence, or letting the lady start a topic and playing with it. (My silent friend does this all the time – and pretty soon, the women are starting all sorts of conversations and he’s viewed as fascinating because they’re talking about things they like to talk about. Who started the conversation never really enters into their head.)

Hey, by the way, did you know that psychological studies say that the person who is least comfortable with silence in a group – and hence breaks it – is almost always the most insecure? Still want to fill every last second of air time?
Silence is nice, but… let’s talk

Still, sometimes you will find yourself in need of something to talk about. And your mind will be blank. You know the time for conversation is here – but you’re clueless how to start it.

Well, this is one of the reasons I recommend avoiding dinners and traditional dates, and prefer shared activities. Especially in fun cool areas. Who needs to worry about conversation when there’s a man on a leash walking in front of you on the sidewalk, or a shop window with a dismembered mannequin head smeared with lipstick wearing a Ronald McDonald wig and a sign saying “Love me?”

If you can’t think of anything to say in stimulating areas, then you’re just not trying. Or you’re freaking – in which case you need to use one of your relaxation triggers to get yourself calm and able to think.

Come on, some of our granddaddies kept their heads with the enemy shooting at them. You can do it with an attractive lady. But you can’t always be in a Greenwich Village knockoff. Sometimes you need to come up with topics all by your lonesome, right? Wrong. See, the definition of conversation is you have to have at least two people. And that dynamic helps a lot.
Having the conversation she wants, every time

Lets borrow a trick from sales, where the seller needs to establish a friendly connection quickly. How do they do it? They listen for key words in statements they hear. And you can do the same. One simple sentence from your favorite lady can lead to a night’s worth of dialogue.

Example:

- “Hi.”
- “No, I’m not. Or were you offering? I barely know you, and already you bring psychotropic drugs into our relationship? Wow, you are one crazy chick.” (She should be laughing, if you delivered it right and she isn’t a nun.)
- “No, I don’t do drugs on a first date!” (key word: take your pick, drugs or date)
- “Oh, but on the second you jump right in? You’ve said two things, and they both relate to illicit substances. Get your mind out of the gutter and learn to enjoy life clean too.” (Then order her a beer).

See what’s going on? Just pick a key word from her conversation, and riff off it. The above doesn’t apply because it’s too early in your duologue, but even within a few minutes of talking to anyone you’ll hear them use keywords that are important to them for whatever reason. Hook onto those and she’ll think you’re the greatest conversationalist ever – because all you talk about is what interests her.

Example:

- “That dog smells like a Thai sewer.” (key word: Thai)
- “And how would you know? When were you in Thailand?”
- “Last month, actually. It’s insane!” (key word: insane)
- “And that’s what attracted you about it? You wanted to find others as crazy as you are?”
- “No! I went to get my scuba diving certification.” (key word(s): scuba diving, and you have a topic for the next 15 minutes that you know she wants to talk about).

“Homework”

Pretty easy, eh? In fact, it’s so easy, I’m going to make your homework nice and simple. Go out and have five conversations where you cue the other person off their keywords. Have five more where you never start a topic, and see how the silence feels, bearing in mind that you are seeking it. Finally, pick five interesting eclectic spots near you, and go for a walk in them. Just comment in your head on what you see.

That’s it. Enjoy your new expression of personal wit and get out there and impress some ladies with it. You’re ready.

Dating Advices and Dating Tips - Recognize “The Key Friend” in the Group

2007-08-23T10:45:00.000-07:00

When you’re out at night and meet girls, they’re often in groups. I’m going to stir up some trouble here, - you don’t need the whole group to like you. Just one girl. “The Key Friend” - if you win her over, and suggest your plans to her, then she’ll sell the rest of her friends on the idea.

Here’s how to figure out who the Key Friend is… some of these may seem weird, but after talking with tons of groups, I find these guidelines hold up surprisingly well.

If the girls are close to each other in cuteness, the cuter girl is usually the Key Friend.
If the girls are far apart from each other in cuteness, the less cute girl is usually the Key Friend.

Other factors that determine it (don’t need to memorize these, just be familiar):

Birthdays: If it’s her birthday, she’s Key.
Bad times: If one girl is having a bad night, she’s Key and if you turn it around you’re in great shape.
Visitors and tourists: If one girl is a tourist and the other is a local, the local is Key.
Working early: If one woman is working early in the morning, and the other is not, the early worker is Key.

So some of these should ring familiar, right…? They’re just examples. Here’s the social science behind it:

When a girl sees another girl sacrificing to spend time with you, she rationalizes that it’s no big deal for her to spend time with you. In absence of sacrifice, higher status is looked to for the answer.

So -

If the friend is much less pretty, and decides to spend time with you, she’s sacrificing knowing it’s likely that she’ll be alone while you woo her friend. The commitment from the prettier girl seems small in comparison.

If one girl’s got work early in the morning and decides to come along, then it’s not really a big deal at all for the other girl. It’s not like she’s got to get up early, so it’s no sacrifice or anything…

In absence of considerations of sacrifice, status comes into play. So with two pretty girls, the slightly prettier one often makes the call. Locals always make the call over tourists. And so on.

If you understand this concept, you can get right into building VAC with the Key Friend, and the group falls into line. Enjoy.

Proposing To Her - Dating advices and dating tips

2007-08-20T10:55:00.000-07:00

A handful of rituals, repeated time and again, have helped define the marriage proposal, but they amount to neither sacrament nor formula -- at best, they present a framework. The details are up to you, and once you’ve decided to pop the question, you’ll learn that posterity is peeking down on you, curious to see what makes your marriage proposal, if not timeless, at least memorable.

To that end, there are lots of ways to do this right and have the proposal remembered fondly, but there are many more ways to do it wrong. If you do it wrong, the proposal could become an extended family joke that you can never escape if she says “yes” -- or it might serve as a sad, cautionary tale to others if she says “no.” As with most things in life, there’s a big gray area between right and wrong. In this case, it’s the boneyard of forgettable marriage proposals, where the bland and uninspired methods go to die.

Your marriage proposal is one of those requisite stories that she’ll have to tell her friends and family. If you infuse the following protocol with your own imaginative details, you can give her a proposal story that she won’t mind telling for years to come because she’ll be proud of it. Plus, she’ll have a dynamite proposal story to make her friends jealous and her enemies disgusted.
proposal rules and etiquette
Inform her parents beforehand
The key word here is inform, not ask -- and you should be cautious that your language reflects as much. You can ask for their permission, but you’re not beholden to it if they don’t approve. In the end, if you give her father the opportunity to say no, you deny her the basic ability to make her own choices.

On the other hand, it’s good manners to involve your potential in-laws in the process, since for them it may suggest at least a token involvement in their daughter’s life. While this may seem old-fashioned, give tradition the benefit of the doubt.

Naturally, there may be some exceptional circumstances that would dictate a different proposal course. If she’s estranged from her parents (she hasn't spoken to them in a number of years or they are not a part of her life), informing them is not necessary. On that note, I would advise against any plans or schemes you might be harboring of using the proposal to bring them all together.
Choose the ring yourself
Involving your potential fiancée in the purchase of the engagement ring would be catastrophic to at least two of the key elements of a great proposal: surprise and romance.

If you have discussed marriage at some point prior to your proposal, then you should have ascertained what she wants in an engagement ring. If you haven’t, you’re left to your memory and your wits, which aren’t the most reliable things in the world. Whether marriage has been discussed or not, you should consider enlisting the aid of someone you trust -- one of her siblings, another relative or a close friend.
Carefully consider your stage
This is basic: Gear the venue around her tastes and her personality. If you know she would savor an audience, make sure there is one -- the bigger the better. If that’s not her style, practice some discretion and remember that the bigger the stage, the higher the stakes. While uncertainty on your part shouldn’t overly influence your marriage-proposal venue choice, you’re more likely to get a pressured and later retracted “yes” when you use the JumboTron at a crowded stadium as a proposal gimmick.

Additionally, you want a venue that’s conducive to the moment. You don’t want to catch her at a stressful time of the day or at a time when she can’t enjoy it.

Give the proposal a formal tone
In other words, don’t be casual. This is a formal marriage proposal and it requires a degree of formality on your part, beginning with how you ask. You’ll be nervous, but that won’t excuse throw offs like “wanna get married?” or “I ain’t getting on one knee.” Stick to “Will you marry me?”

Formality applies to the traditional gesture of the bended knee as well, although there’s a bit of flexibility here. If the occasion suits it -- meaning you’re in a place that physically allows for it -- bend down onto your left knee and say your piece. The gesture is old-fashioned (some might even call it cheesy), but it has a romantic flair and at the very least you should give it proper consideration. She’ll appreciate it and might even be expecting it.
Be prepared for any answer
Meaning both “yes,” “no” and “I need to think about it.”

This may not seem fair, but this process has afforded you plenty of time to make the decision to propose. Consequently, she deserves equal time if she needs it. Every man wants a resounding “yes,” but not every man will get it -- no matter how well-prepared the proposal is.
Be present for her reaction
Some of the more extreme or elaborate proposal ideas floating around the internet will ultimately result in your lady being asked by billboards, computers and blimps. No matter what the plan is, when the question is popped you need to be with her. Period.
Take a unique approach
Finally, tailor your approach to her and to your relationship. Give it a context. In other words, throwing on 100 pounds of armor and riding in on a white horse is only romantic if there’s some greater relevance to it. Don’t be unimaginative and stereotypical. Spending hundreds of dollars on an elaborate proposal with “the works” makes little sense if a well-written poem would better contextualize your relationship.
decent proposal
A proposal of marriage is a serious matter, but the proposal itself doesn’t need to be so serious -- it can be fun, romantic, wild, or all three. Even if your proposal features little beyond a ring and a question, you can still give her a story to tell and earn a ”yes.” And you needn't fear simplicity. In fact, the more elaborate the proposal, the more things can go wrong, which may lead to a detour from your fundamental goal: asking the woman you love for her hand in marriage and to spend the rest of her life with you.

Dating Advice : Phone Call Rules : Dating tips and dating advices for men

2007-08-19T08:04:00.000-07:00

Dating tips and Dating advices for the day:
Women love the phone. To some, curling up with a glass of wine and the phone is the equivalent of us men hitting the pool hall. To guys, the phone is an alien world -- one that we visit as rarely and briefly as possible. And when we do make a call, we often feel like a fish out of water, which is perhaps why calling women is sometimes daunting.

But, the harsh reality is that making the phone call is needed if you want to succeed with women. In order to help you navigate your way through one of the most danger-fraught areas of dating, I’ve developed a guide of some basic phone call rules.
Wait two days to call
The first phone call rule to consider is when to call. Call too soon and you’ll reek of desperation; call too late and she may have lost all interest in you. Although some guys claim that the timing has to be precise -- almost to the hour -- you do have some margin for error.

If you've just acquired her number, wait at least two days before calling. Don't make the mistake of calling her the very next day just to let her know that you're interested -- she'll think you have no real life to get on with. But don't wait too long -- make that call within four days, before she gets angry or, worse, forgets who you are. Nothing is more humiliating than trying to jog her memory with the happenings of the night that you met: "I met you the other day; the funny guy with the cornflower blue tie..."

Once you enter the dating phase of the relationship, this phone call rule becomes more relaxed. After a date, always call within two days. You don’t have to arrange another date with this call; it can be made simply to thank her for a good time. It's also a good chance to gauge her interest level.
Have a reason for your call
This phone call rule states that you should always have a reason to call her. Women love to sit on the phone and chat the hours away, but they should do this with friends, not you, Romeo. Call her up with a purpose in mind; it can be as simple as to check or confirm something. For example, if she’s a fashionista, you can call her for some style pointers. Throughout the conversation take charge of it and steer it. Don't let her spin it and go off on a tangent; what starts as a simple mention of a seafood restaurant can turn into her recounting all the fishing trips that her dad dragged her on.

After three or so months, the phone call rules deem it acceptable to be more spontaneous in making a call. You still must have a reason for it, but the reason needn’t be as rigid as it was in the earlier stages. You can call her to tell her about a movie you just saw or how the business trip is going, but it's still forbidden to let her know that you’re calling just to hear her voice. If you must do this, have a fake reason to call, no matter how transparent it is -- besides, she’ll likely find it endearing.

While you are steering the talk, don't treat it like a call to your buddy: "Beer. Eight o'clock. See ya." Women need some substance in a call -- a little bit of padding, if you will.
Keep it brief
So, aside from the real reason for the call, what do you talk about? Ideally, you are calling to get to a point, keep it sweet and get out of there. Keep in mind that this is the warm-up for the date, not a date through technology, so do most of the talking in person. In the real world, however, she will want to talk for a while. Indulge her desire, but adhere to this phone call rule: Keep it short, with her wanting more.

Although you're taking charge of the call, don't dominate the conversation. Humor is always good, but don't overdo it or you’ll come across as a clown. Do not moan about your job, the football game or that really bad beat at poker -- these topics are for friends and bars. Don't open up about your fears or your hopes and sit alone in your favorite armchair, chatting until the sun comes up. The best thing to talk about is her.

You got her number, so you must know a little something about her -- talk about these things to personalize the call. Ask open-ended questions about her work, her friends or how her day has been; the beautiful part about such questions is that you can usually reply with just ”Yes” or ”Mmm” while still concentrating on the Xbox. Don't be afraid to move things along if she lingers on one topic too long.
End the call first
Just like the tired showbiz cliche, leave her wanting more. The key here is for you to be the one who terminates the call. The worst thing you can do is let the girl talk herself out and be the one to end the conversation. Don't be too brusque, but end the call when you want to.

At the start of the conversation you can tell her that the call will be quick. You can also have an excuse ready, such as an appointment to go to, pretending that someone is at the door or that you just got back from the gym and need to take a shower. Whenever you’re ready, just pull your excuse and hang up. You could even set a timer to give her five minutes then, bang! You're out of there.

The phone call rule to keep calls short and to the point is a very important one to adhere to: Women love to chat with their friends on the phone and if your phone time starts to outweigh time spent on a date, there's a danger of drifting into the friend zone.

By the way, never get into the ”You hang up,” “No, you hang up" thing. Just say OK and hang up if she tries to play that game.
Leave a message
If you get her answering service, don’t leave a message on your first attempt, despite the fact that she has caller ID. Wait a day to avoid looking desperate or aggressive before calling a second time, but this time leave a message. Keep your message short and safe -- meaning that you shouldn’t try to be too funny because it doesn't translate well in a message.

Don't overthink what to say, just speak normally. Always assume that her friends are with her and will hear it -- or at worst, her parents. Always ask her to return your call; this puts the ball in her court and if she doesn't call back, don't chase it -- she might be avoiding you.
Keep text messages to the point
As a society, we are increasingly communicating through non-verbal means. There's nothing strange about asking for a girl’s e-mail and contacting her through that. But the rules slightly shift here due to the lack of tone, timing and variable response times, all of which make these forms or communication a virtual minefield.

As with a verbal message, keep your text short, to the point, clear, and ask for a response. Don't try to initiate too much conversation through these means and try to get her on the phone as soon as possible. The immediate contact makes it seem more real. SMS should really only be used for practical functions, such as setting times and places.

Bear in mind these messages can be bounced around the globe in a matter of seconds, so don’t send anything embarrassing. Emoticons are the electronic equivalent of facial gestures, so use them to show that you are joking or being sarcastic. If you have no problem coming across as a player, flirting should be fine. But if you have any doubts about your ability, save it for the date -- the potential for failure is exponential with text.
got a hang up?
Not every phone call will go perfectly and some will never get returned. Remember that the hard part is getting the number; once you've managed that, she will be expecting your call. So, set your timer, remember these phone call rules and dial that number.

Dating tips - The One Thing Single Women Hate - Don’t Do It - : Dating advice and dating tips for men

2007-08-14T12:01:00.000-07:00

“You can’t bore a woman into feeling attracted to you…”

I realize that this may sound like an obvious statement, but judging by the emails that I get week in and week out, maybe it’s not as obvious as it might seem to some guys. In fact, when I think back on my own experiences with women, I am definitely guilty of trying to bore women into feeling attracted to me… So, what do I mean by this silly sounding statement?

Well, let’s start with some ideas that I hear in one form or another all the time:

“I was a perfect gentleman on our date, but she didn’t call me back, and I can’t reach her…”
“I don’t want to use any ‘techniques’ with women because I feel like that would be ‘manipulating’ her…”
“I want a girl who will like me for who I am…”
“I give her everything she wants, take her out, buy her things, and I don’t understand why she doesn’t feel the same way towards me that I feel towards her…”
“She tells me that she only likes me as a friend, then she goes out with these guys who treat her like crap instead of going out with a guy like me that would treat her wonderfully and give her everything she wants…”

And the list goes on and on…

Now, I realize that these statements are actually different from each other, and deal with different issues. But the common denominator in each of them is: you’re not behaving in a way that is pushing her attraction buttons. In most of these cases, you’re guilty of trying to bore her into feeling.

I got one letter recently where a guy was telling me that he had taken a girl out on a date, but that there wasn’t any “spark”… but he still felt attracted to the girl. He seemed to think that just because nothing obvious was bad about the date, that this girl should also feel attracted to him. (Maybe he thought that a few
more uninteresting, boring dates would cause her to open her eyes and see the light).

Here are a few common problems that lead to “boring date-itis“:

Playing it “safe”. Following her lead, not saying anything that you think will upset her and making sure that you’re “proper”.
Talking about boring things. Like jobs, family, weather, etc., because it’s “what people talk about to get to know each other.”
Being boring.

Playing it Safe

I can remember when I thought that the proper way to act on a date was to talk about socially acceptable topics, act sterile and quiet, and generally try to make sure that she got whatever she wanted. Oh, was this a huge mistake.

Generally speaking, women are bored to death by this kind of behavior. When you meet a girl for a cup of tea or go out to dinner, it’s time to have fun, not to be her personal ass kisser! Playing it safe and kissing up to her is a sure way to get either an expensive relationship or a woman who won’t call you back.

Talking About Boring Things

Don’t talk about your job and your family Boring!

Guys who are trying to convince women that they’re “nice”, talk about their families (If you really want to be a loser, carry pictures around with you and show them off). Talking about families is “courtship” behavior, and it will put her into the old “this guy is boring” frame of mind. Unless you’re related to John F. Kennedy or someone even more interesting, keep the family history to yourself!

As a quick note, I want to mention that you have to know not only how to not be boring, but you must also know how to communicate using the “language of attraction”… which is another topic completely

Being Boring

So, what does a “boring” guy act like? Well, for starters he acts like he’s not comfortable in the situation… Nervous smiles. Apologizing. Agreeing with her opinions all the time. Asking her what she’d like to do. Holding your body in an unsure, insecure way. That’s a good start.

Mix in a few uncomfortable silences and you’ve got the makings for her running as fast as she can and changing her phone number to save herself from
another one of your boring calls!

So, what’s the answer? What’s the secret to
making her feel attracted to you and not bored out of her skull? I thought you’d never ask. Here are a few ideas for starters:

1. Take her somewhere that has a lot going on… somewhere that has interesting conversation built in. I like funky areas that have lots of eclectic, artsy, trendy shops. You can’t walk through one of these areas without having an interesting conversation. There are all kinds of interesting things from tattoo artists to funky hat shops to ultra-trendy clothing stores. Most cities have an area like this, and I’d suggest you go check it out.

2. Talk about something that isn’t boring. One of my favorite things to do is to get her to talk about her life, then find things to make fun of. This is a great opportunity for cocky and funny…

You: “So, tell me something interesting.”
Her: “Like what?”
You: “What, you can’t think of even one interesting thing about yourself or your life? I think I need to go before this gets any worse…”

You get the idea…

3. If there is a silence, never let it be uncomfortable. I think that it’s great to stop talking when you’re first getting to know a woman. But don’t do it in a way that sends chills up her spine.

If the conversation goes cold for a few moments, just pay attention to something else for a minute. Think about something funny to say and laugh to yourself. She’ll say “What? What are you laughing about?”… which is a great lead in for about 1,000 different cocky/funny answers.

If the conversation stops, be cool. Just act like you’re with a friend, act totally casual, and pick it back up later. Just don’t act nervous and uncomfortable!

4. Don’t be predictable. There is an area of the human brain called “Broca’s Region” that is constantly anticipating what is about to happen, then discounting the predictable. In other words, the more predicable you are, the faster you will be considered boring.

Learn to say random things. Disagree with her… (without sounding like a whiny little girl). Tell her that you think Britney Spears looks like a dog…

If you’re boring, read a couple of books on how to tell stories. Or get a book on comedy to learn how to be funny and tell jokes. Just do whatever you have to do to avoid being predictable! And do whatever you have to do to learn how to make a woman feel attraction.

OK, I think you’re getting the idea. Women don’t want boring. A woman would rather be with an interesting, fun guy than with a rich, handsome, predictable, boring one (and the women who want the rich boring guy are often boring themselves…).

Once a woman starts to feel that magical, emotional and physical response called attraction, the entire situation changes, and you start having the kinds of success with women that most men only dream about. And most women go through life wishing, hoping, and dreaming that they will someday find a man that can make them feel this amazing feeling…

How to impress a guy or girl : - Dating advices and dating tips for men and women.

2007-08-11T05:03:00.000-07:00

This is the question we askd our readers on dating advices and dating tips.

Are you highly successful when it comes to making a good impression on the opposite sex?

Does a first date usually lead up to a few more?

Is it the art of conversation that has fuelled your popularity?

Give us the lowdown on your smooth talk!

We invite our readers who have the gift of gab to tell us what kind of lines they use to have the opposite sex eating out of their hands. Ladies, tell us what gets the guys going, and guys, tell us what has the ladies swooning.

Come, share your dating tactics with other Get Ahead readers! Post your advice, experiences and opinions on the message board below.

here r the answers from our readers:

How to impress the opposite sex
by jal shakti on Aug 07, 2007 11:57 AM

It all depends upon the type of person you are going to meet.Keeping all things aside ,I'd say that we should be neat -clean, healthy,well dressed and should not have bad breath,Good,looks physique,charecter,with the ability to converse in good language(sweet words) and a purse full with money and the patience to take her around for shopping & movies / entertainment & parties.Above all should be willing always,for any thing and any time.

How to Impress
by HariOm Chawla on Aug 05, 2007 10:00 PM

Don't make any conscious effort to make good impression. Just be yourself. You are an individual; she is also an idividual, though of the opposite sex. Just have a free, frank talk. If you have common interests, likes and dislikes; it is O.K. Treat her as a person, and give full respect.

100% many womans be pataoed!
by Phaltu Uloo on Aug 01, 2007 06:53 PM

I is thinking for impress womans,problem not: first oil the hairs (better with coconut oil), make straight parting. Put powder on face, istri jean-pant and bush-shirt and putting
blue-strap hawai chappals. Stand on street corner with mobile inside ears and talk the English with amrikan style when womans
coming.Please not to talk the BC & MC language.
100% many womans be pataoed! If not patoed,no tension, problem not; Change coconut hair oils. Use Rai ka tel. 100% chance to Aish karo! PS: after pataoing, please do not forget PU.

How to impress the opposite sex
by on Aug 01, 2007 02:46 PM

Politeness and honesty of thoughts and the conviction with which you talk to a girl can do wonders. Restraint in self praise and excessive praise of your girl friend at times makes your feelings look fake. One must be humble, caring and decent and not be on the look of an oppertunity to display physical gestures like you wanting to hold her hand or putting it round her waist. You may be looked upon as a person who is in a hurry to be physical without understanding the girls nature and attitude. Girls want themselves to be understood, feel comfortable in your company and then once they are satisfied about your nature things would flow gradually and desirously. Dont ever try to push your way or impose things and conditions on issues which are talked about in your conversation. The first round of conversation should be general and not too specific but you must remember that it should not at all be probing. This would reflect that you are a pile on. Ajay

Big Joke!
by vipul parmar on Aug 01, 2007 01:19 PM

I think the creator of the story is frustrated with girls and actually trying to be gay either so he wants people's opinion for his last hope.
You dumbo every hole have different key as every girl or boy have different turn ons and one has to play as and when required.

There are no standard rules available in the world which helps a person to impress opposite sex except you study psychology and use those rules in real life.

dating tips
by Calvin Hobbes on Aug 01, 2007 01:17 PM

1. Do not try to impress her at all. Just be your natural self.
2. Don't be serious.
3. Now if you really want to impress her, take her to a place she never dreamt of. Let me be clear on this.. If you don't have anything which could impress her do not try to impress her. Now suppose you own a mall or a merc or something flashy and expensive, just show it to her without assuming anything,

Now put your comments in the comments list. We will publish the selected ones.

Make women flattered by the interest commitment and attention - dating tips and dating advices

2007-08-08T00:05:00.000-07:00

Men often view approaching unknown women and initiating conversation a difficult step, that one doesn’t enter into lightly. Actually that’s mostly true if you’re inexperienced with women’s manners in courting situations.

Essential steps to introducing yet unknown women

However It's also useful to note that the if a man that just sits back and waits for a woman to hit on him, he actually never get to choose who he wants to date.

To be picked and approached seems like some kind of compliment to women. So they would rather wait for a man to make first step and approach her then she would risk approaching men and get turned down. What are essential steps to introducing yet unknown women?

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:

Know to maneuver yourself into women’s space to show her signs of interest

Understand why shy or introvert women would rather wait for a man to initiate contact

Make women flattered by the interest and attention you give them

So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!

How to maneuver yourself into women’s space to show her signs of interest

Although men believe they have the opportunity to make the first move towards introducing women, actually women do pick and approach.

Women are welcome in a social situation to see a man they find attractive and then maneuver herself into his space to make herself available for his attention.

Shy or introvert women would rather wait a man to initiate contact

However there are always shy or introvert women who’d rather wait a man to initiate contact. So if you're in, a crowded bar or at a party, find a reason to walk near or stand in relatively close proximity to the woman.

You’ve given her the opportunity that eye contact can be established; you’re giving her the opportunity to make a move and show if she’s interested. Sometimes it ends up merely being eye contact across the room. Even the split second connection and small smile, could lighten love spark.

Make women flattered by the interest and attention you give them

Women are flattered by the interest and attention a man gives them, even when they're not interested in a relationship. Being the object of the opposite sex attentions boost females self esteem and praise her female attributes.

These are signals that say, it's okay to approach me. You can want women to be more aggressive all you want, but unfortunately all kinds of long-established social conditioning is in effect.

Women would let a man make first move toward intimacy

Bottom line: Most women are more comfortable letting a man make the first move. As a man you need to recognize hidden and subliminal messages from women and initiate contact if appropriate.

In a woman’s eyes, that doesn't mean she isn't picking and choosing, In her own way she might be sending easily readable signals so the man can make the connection. For more tips about attracting women’s attention, and picking signals that say, it's okay to approach me, refer to the e books below:

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Understand why shy or introvert women would rather wait for a man to initiate contact

Make women flattered by the interest and attention you give them

10: Things We Love About Women - dating advices and dating tips for men

2007-08-04T08:53:00.000-07:00

Most men really, really like women. That may seem a bit like telling you that water is wet, but it's true. If there is a God, men should bow down and thank him for blessing us with such beautiful creatures in the opposite sex.

Of course, we usually aren't shy about showing our gratitude -- we tend to turn into slobbering piles of putty when a woman does just about anything. It's not always the scandalously mini mini-skirt or the cleavage-baring V-neck that does it (and this is by no means a call to outlaw these wonderful things). Instead, it's often the little, innocuous actions and displays that have the biggest effect on men.

Read on for the top 10 little things a woman does that drives us crazy.

Number 10

She goes for the heart through the stomach
All that fluffy talk about the sensuality of food contains morsels of truth, especially when the sweaty, apron-clad woman making it is doing so purely for your benefit. And it won't just be the kitchen that'll heat up if you start feeding each other with your hands. So eat up and enjoy. If you thank her the right way, you might even get out of doing the dishes.

Number 9

Her nipples stand up, and she lets them show
Jennifer Aniston's permanently erect nipples were one of the only things that made watching Friends tolerable for dutiful boyfriends across North America. Breasts are like ice cream sundaes to men, and the mind-blowing hint of hard nipples isn't just the cherry: It's more like the whip cream, the chocolate sauce, the chopped nuts, the caramel sprinkles, and the cherry on top. They're a sneak preview of what lies beneath, and they fill our heads with delicious imagery. So take off the damn sweater, please.

Number 8

She gives us the look
Most guys give just about every girl they come across the cursory once-over, but when that gaze is returned with a sultry, suggestive look, let's just say it immediately causes a tingling sensation "down there." With one such subtle glance, all the built-up stress and tension of the hunt is released. It confirms everything that was hoped for and gives the green light to swoop in for the kill. And nothing is hotter than that.

Number 7

She puts on lip gloss
Women think men love the soft, shiny lips that result from wearing lip gloss. In reality, we just love watching them put it on. In fact, why hasn't someone made a three-hour DVD devoted to girls applying lip balm, lipstick or anything else of that ilk? The head slyly tilted back, the mouth just slightly agape, the eyes closed -- what isn't sexy about that image?

Number 6

She dresses down
Give any girl a platinum card and six hours in front of a mirror, and she'll end up looking fantastic. But the real test (along with the real turn-on) is how a woman looks without designer jeans or makeup. If a girl can look downright hot in her laidback duds, it speaks to her natural beauty and shows that she has the capacity to be low maintenance. You can keep your Calvin Klein and MAC-aided diva; I'll take the casual cutie with her hair tucked into a bun, bra-lessly wearing a worn-out shirt.

Number 5

She talks blue out of the blue
No one likes a potty mouth. In fact, it's kind of a turnoff when a girl drops nonstop F-bombs. But when a normally prim and proper young lass loses herself in the moment and let's something downright nasty slip from her mouth, it can crank the heat up to dizzying levels.

Number 4

She hits the gym
Maybe it's the skimpy shorts and sports bras. Or it could be the grunts and labored, sweaty breathing. It may even be the litany of compromising exercises that get women bent into a breathtaking array of flexibility-testing positions. Whatever the reason, women somehow manage to turn a trip to the gym into a hot and heavy foreplay session. At least they did until some prude came up with "Women Only" gyms, and robbed men of the only reason they had to go in the first place.

Number 3

She gets close to a friend on the dance floor
Two girls grinding on the dance floor is a lot like wrestling: Even though you know it's all fake, you still can't help but like it. It doesn't take a study by Kinsey to figure out why men are blown away by this sight. Sweaty, drunk girls groping each other, the air charged with sexual energy -- and it's not even happening on DVD! Inevitably, some doughhead will ruin it for everyone by trying to sneak into the middle, but can you really blame him?

Number 2

She gives a sneak peek at the goods
Men are very easily visually aroused -- that's why porn is a multi-billion-dollar industry. So catching an unintended glimpse of a girl's "unmentionables" immediately gets the hormones flowing. Catching a peek at a lacy thong or watching the seductive trip of a dress strap as it fortuitously slips off a shoulder can do more for the libido than the raunchiest full frontal ever could.

Number 1

She suggests watching something dirty
Most men aren't particularly proud of their porn obsession (pornographers are just so good at marketing it to us!). So it goes without saying that having a girl suggest a "blue movie" is as big a relief as it is a turn-on. Who doesn't get charged up watching beautiful professionals pleasuring each other while doing some pleasuring of their own? Dirty flicks also provide lots of great ideas and suggestions (along with a bit of penis envy) and can keep things super-steamy for hours. Bonus: You can watch her searching for the right movie at the store for a glimpse into those closet ideas she isn't quite ready to reveal yet.

what men secretly enjoy

When a hot chick in a tight shirt or jeans walks down the street, it's no surprise to see the head of every man she passes swivel with varying degrees of subtleness. But what most women don't realize is that far less than curve-hugging clothes is required to light our fires. There are a myriad of seemingly innocuous things females do that are infinitely more arousing than a blatant flaunting of the goods.

10: Ways To Stand Out From Other Men - dating advices and dating tips for men

2007-08-01T19:39:00.000-07:00

Did you know that when you meet a woman, the odds are high that she is already dating several OTHER men? Most men never consider this, but should. Not only are attractive women approached all the time… they are often juggling several "suitors" at any one moment.

If you want to stand out from "the pack"... and get her chasing YOU… you must be different. You need to develop yourself -- inside and out -- so you offer her a special experience with a different kind of guy. Here are 10 tips to help you do it.

Number 10

Deserve success

Deep down inside, most men don’t really believe they DESERVE success… especially with attractive women -- and it shows. Women can sense this kind of guy a MILE AWAY. If you don’t feel deserving of women, you'll come up with all sorts of interesting and creative ways to "sabotage" yourself. Instead, you need to look inside yourself and cultivate the belief that a woman would be LUCKY to be with you. Go ahead and write down three reasons why this is true. When you truly believe that you deserve success, you'll stand out "head and shoulders" above other men… and you'll attract women like a magnet.

Number 9

Feature your insecurities

One of the best things you can do to stand out from other men is to let go of any "hang ups" you have about your insecurities. The fact is… EVERY guy has them. Most men try to cover them up… but the more they try, the more insecure they appear to women. And women HATE this. It's like when a woman wears way too much makeup -- it's obvious she's covering up something BAD.

Instead of hiding your insecurities, feature them until they no longer bother you. One way to do this is to make cocky jokes about them when you're flirting with a woman. For instance, if you’re insecure about your height…. say something like: "This is never going to work out. You're not good at arguing, and I overcompensate for being short (or bald or broke) by acting arrogant… so we'd always argue, and I'd always WIN." When you shed light on your insecurities -- in a funny way -- a woman can't help but to be captivated by your candor and charm.

Number 8

Give yourself permission

Have you ever had the chance to start a conversation with a woman, but you didn't want to interrupt her or put pressure on her… so you never took the chance? Most people are unconsciously seeking PERMISSION… constantly… to do every little thing. But to improve your success with women, you need to break out of this cycle and learn to give YOURSELF permission.

How? One way is to have role models. Find guys who are good with women and watch them start conversations. By seeing THEM do it, you'll feel more permission for YOU to do the same. And you'll begin to see plenty of areas in your life where you can give yourself permission to act -- where other men hold back. A man with the freedom to take action when and where he wants is rare -- and women find this kind of "bold" guy VERY attractive.

Number 7

Be okay with her independence

Most men feel "left out" if a woman wants to do something alone or with friends other than HIM. Ever have a girl you really liked tell you, "I'm so excited! I'm going out with my friends to this concert on Saturday," or maybe it was camping or some other fun event… and INSTANTLY you felt jealous or sad -- like you just LOST something?

While it's "normal" to have this reaction, you CAN learn how to get over it and move to a higher level. Realize that it's mature to allow others -- especially women -- to live their lives and enjoy their own experiences… without you feeling that you're losing something. And on the flip side, work on building your desire to do things WITHOUT HER… and truly enjoy doing them. When you learn this perspective, she'll see that you have an inner confidence and independence that few other men have… and she'll find herself uncontrollably drawn to you.

Number 6

Clarify your path

Have you ever thought about the course of your life… your values… your vision? Most men haven't… and a woman can tell IMMEDIATELY if she's dealing with a man who hasn't got his life "on track" yet. The more clarity you have about your path -- who you are and where you're headed -- the more women will find you desirable. Women LOVE men who have their life "together" and who know themselves on a deeper level. So be different -- challenge yourself to clarify your own path… and enjoy the bonus of attracting women at a level you've never known before.

Number 5

Develop your mature masculinity

Every woman wants to be with a mature man -- and by mature, I don't mean STUFFY, BORING and OLD… I mean a man who "gets" what it means to be a MATURE ADULT. So how can you raise your own level of maturity? Stop correcting others to make yourself feel important… stop being a "know it all" so people will give you approval… and quit saying and doing things to get attention rather than to add real value to those around you. These are all "boy-man" behaviors, and you have to give these up if you want to be a truly mature man -- that rare kind of guy women swoon over…

Number 4

Live on the edge

Ever known a guy that lived life to it's fullest -- where every day was a new adventure? He probably was the kind of guy who consistently had women fighting for his attention. But did you ever ask yourself where he got his "seize the day" attitude? One powerful way you can develop this attractive, "free-spirited" attitude is by getting over your fear of DEATH, and then using the idea of death to ignite your passion for living every day as if it were your last. Embrace the idea of your own death… use it as a tool to enjoy your life even more -- and create the PASSIONATE lifestyle women want to be a part of.

Number 3

Build a happy single life

Did you know that most men in relationships did not have HAPPY single lives? It's true. Most men start off unhappy alone... then they find a woman to cling to… they hold on too tightly and give away their power to win approval… which, in turn, destroys all attraction she had. Don't repeat this mistake. Instead, build a happy single life FIRST. Get to the point where your single life is so damn good that you PREFER being single… fill your life with so many things you enjoy that you literally have to think about how to fit a woman in… then CHOOSE a relationship because it makes your already incredible life better. The more you love your single life, the more desirable you become. Don't be surprised when attractive women want to hop on your "party train" and go for a ride…

Number 2

Cultivate your "cool"

Ask any woman and she'll tell you "real men" are hard to come by… they are the rare diamond that all women secretly seek. So how does a woman know when she's in the presence of one? Here are a couple of clues: First, a real man has learned how to be comfortable around beautiful women… they don't affect him any differently than anyone else. In addition, he's relaxed around powerful, high-status people, like his boss or a celebrity… you’ll see no ass-kissing or subservient behavior from him. On top of that, a “real man” keeps his composure when facing competition from other men instead of “freaking out.” In other words, he’s learned how to keep his cool in EVERY situation… so it's no surprise that -- just like the ultra-cool Fonz from Happy Days -- there's no shortage of women in his life.

Number 1

Take the time to do your "homework"

Most men have a particular woman in mind that they'd like to meet… and they think the FIRST STEP in winning her over is to understand what makes her "tick." But this is putting the cart before the horse. Before you can understand what she wants you first need to understand MEN. Then, you need to apply what you learn about men in general to YOURSELF in particular. Next, you need to study female psychology -- how women think and what they want. And only THEN can you figure out what the PARTICULAR woman in front of you wants, and how to communicate with her in a way that dials up the attraction and makes her crave to be with you… and ONLY you. 99% of men get this sequence BACKWARD… but when you take the time to understand how to put these "pieces of the puzzle" together, you won't believe the effect it will have on your dating life.

Do Pick-up Lines Really Work? - dating advices and dating tips

2007-07-31T11:29:00.000-07:00

We have probably heard almost every pick-up line invented on earth, from the usual “What's your sign” to the cheesiest of “I must be in heaven because I'm seeing an angel.” Men usually use this as a way to break the ice, but do they really work?

Truth is, it can be helpful, and some of the lines does magic with the ladies. Pick-up lines are best useful among guys who wanted to try the dating circuit for the first time. So what should you do to make it really work? Here are our pick-up line tips that we hope would be helpful.

Pick-up lines work at the start of the date – Pick-up lines are meant to jump-start a conversation with your date or to give her a favorable impression of you. Blurting out a new pick-up line every time you talk to your date is not a good idea.

Make your line sincere – You won't achieve a lot of success in your dates if you speak out your lines as if you're memorizing a math formula. Pick-up lines only work if you say it from inside of you.

Use a line that would make her smile – The best pick-up lines are the ones that would make your date smile at you or laugh with you (not AT you). For starters, you can complement about her beauty and compare it to something exotic or beautiful as well. You could also try creating a joke as you comment about the event both of you are in, like when both of you are in a art exhibit or in a dance night.

Learn from your mistakes – Do not be afraid that the line would not work. If you experienced failure on your first date, at least you learned not to use it again. As you gain more and more positive (as well as negative) replies from your dates, you also gather more and more information on what to do and what not to do in pick-up lines.

Incorporate your line to your personality – Internalize your strong points, such as your positive attitude and beliefs, into your pick-up lines. The result is that the lines are not the only starting point in your dating, but also the personality that you display to her.

Do not rely on your lines too often – Use your lines every once in a while, especially if the the girl you want to pursue is difficult to please. Sometimes, a simple “Hi,” “How are you doing,” and introducing your name with a smile is enough to meet the woman you like.

Try making up your own lines – Like I said before, girls have probably heard a lot of pick-up lines that they might say out loud the continuation of your lines. If you can, create unique pick-up lines that are positive and void of double-entendres (to create a favorable impression).

Tips For Teen For Creative Dating - dating tips and dating advices

2007-07-31T11:25:00.000-07:00

Make a picnic - Pack a basket of your favorite foods, pick a great spot and have a picnic.

Go see a movie - Inviting someone to a movie is always interesting. One good way to make it a little interesting is to let your date choose the film, or put a bunch of movie names in a hat and pick one at random when you get together.

Plan a sporty activity - Take advantage of the time of year and enjoy a seasonal activity together. For example, rollerblade on a summer afternoon or ice skating on a winter night can make for a great date!

Drive to the beach - Take a drive down to the beach for the day. No matter what the time of year, a walk in the sand is always a refreshing change.

Be volunteer in a community service – If it is a project that you are both interested you could do together. Lending a helping hand to a good cause is always a satisfying way to spend an afternoon or evening.

Head to the city for a day - From seeing a matinee to shopping or viewing a great art exhibit, you should select what you are interested.

Make a great plan – You could get tickets to a game and cheer for your favorite team or go to an amusement park for the day.

10: Pickup Methods - Dating advices and dating tips

2007-07-29T19:26:00.000-07:00

Number 10

Smile when you walk into a room

See the group with the target and follow the three-second rule. Do not hesitate -- approach instantly.

Number 9

The opener should open the group, not just the target

When talking, ignore the target for the most part. If there are men in the group, focus your attention on the men.

Number 8

Neg the target

Neg the target with one of the slew of negs we’ve come up with. Tell her, “It’s so cute. Your nose wiggles when you laugh.” Then get her friends to notice and laugh about it.

Number 7

Convey personality to the entire group

Do this by using stories, magic, anecdotes, and humor. Pay particular attention to the men and less attractive women. During this time, the target will notice that you are the center of attention. You may perform various memorized pieces like the photo routine, but only for the obstacles.

[The photo routine involves carrying an envelope of photos in a jacket pocket, as if they’ve just been developed. Each photo, however, is preselected to convey a different aspect of the PUA (Pickup Artist)’s personality, such as images of the PUA with beautiful women, with children, with pets, with celebrities, goofing off with friends, and doing something active like roller-blading or skydiving. The PUA should also have a short, witty story to accompany each photo.]

Number 6

Ask the group, “So, how does everyone know each other?”

If the target is with one of the guys, find out how long they’ve been together. If it’s a serious relationship, eject politely by saying, “Pleasure meeting you.”

Number 5

Ask permission to take her away from the group

If she is not spoken for, say to the group, “I’ve sort of been alienating your friend. Is it alright if I speak to her for a couple of minutes?” They always say, “Uh, sure. If it’s okay with her.” If you’ve executed the preceding steps correctly, she will agree.

Number 4

Hold her hand

Isolate her from the group by telling her you want to show her something cool. Take her to sit with you nearby. As you lead her through the crowd, do a kino test by holding her hand. If she squeezes back, it’s on. Start looking for other IOIs.

Number 3

Ask her about her qualities

Tell her, “Beauty is common but what’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me want to know you as more than a mere face in the crowd?” If she begins to list qualities, this is a positive IOI.

Number 2

Stop talking

Does she reinitiate the chat with a question that begins with the word “So?” If she does, you’ve now seen three IOIs and can…

Number 1

Kiss close

Say, out of the blue, “Would you like to kiss me?” If the setting or circumstances aren’t conducive to physical intimacy, then give yourself a time constraint by saying, “I have to go, but we should continue this.” Then get her number and leave.

glossary

FMAC -- noun [find, meet, attract, close]: a rudimentary sequential model of pickup.

IOI -- noun [indicator of interest]: a sign a woman gives a man that indirectly reveals she is attracted to or interested in him. These clues, generally unintentional and subtle, include leaning toward a man when he speaks, asking mundane questions to keep a conversation going or squeezing his hand when he takes her hand in his.

Kino -- verb: to touch or be touched, generally with suggestive intent or the purpose of arousal, such as hair-stroking, hand-holding or hip-grabbing; precedes actual sexual contact.

Kiss close -- 1. verb: to kiss or make out, with passion. 2. noun: a passionate kiss or makeout.

Neg -- 1. noun: an ambiguous statement or seemingly accidental insult delivered to a beautiful woman a pickup artist has just met, with the intent of actively demonstrating to her (or her friends) a lack of interest in her. For example: “Those are nice nails; are they real?” 2. verb: to actively demonstrate a lack of interest in a beautiful woman by making an ambiguous statement, insulting her in a way that appears accidental, or offering constructive criticism.

Chick Flicks We Can Stomach - Dating advice for men : dating tips

2007-07-29T09:18:00.000-07:00

Snuggling up on the couch with your honey bunny to watch a movie is one of life’s greatest simple pleasures. But often, what should be one of the easiest ways to spend an evening can take a harsh, unexpected detour to Scrapsville, and it usually all starts at the video store. Finding a movie you both want to see can be tougher than brokering Middle East peace deals. And then, before you can say “Pretty Woman,” you’ve insulted one too many of her choices and she’s not talking to you for the next hour. Sound familiar?

This doesn’t have to happen to you. We’ve compiled a safe list of 10 guy-friendly chick flicks that you can offer up as an olive branch without objecting yourself to too much pain -- another service from the kind souls at AskMen.com.

Number 10

Meet Joe Black (1998)

Brad Pitt, Claire Forlani, Anthony Hopkins

Pretty boy Brad Pitt scared a lot of guys away from this film, but those who got past his coiffed good looks were treated to a strange, moving study of life, death and love. Pitt plays Death, who decides to try his hand at life and see what he’s been missing all these years. He enlists a media baron played by Anthony Hopkins to act as a guide and promptly falls in love with the man’s daughter. Is it a compliment if the Grim Reaper thinks you are attractive? I guess so, if he looks like Brad Pitt.

Why she’ll like it: Deep down, just about every girl is a daddy’s girl. So watch for the waterworks to come out when Hopkins stands up to Death and tells him his love isn’t good enough for his daughter (played by the always underrated Claire Forlani). His speech is moving, eloquent and directed at a man who could kill him with one touch. That takes a lot of balls.

Why you’ll like it: Brad Pitt’s sudden, unexpected and downright brutal death scene early in the movie is almost reason enough to sit through this long melodrama. The fact that it is also a totally unique, well-acted movie is another.

Number 9

Desperately Seeking Susan (1985)

Madonna, Rosanna Arquette, Aidan Quinn

A lot of guys have grown up watching Madonna go from vixenish voguing dancer to cougar yummy mummy. But back in her younger days, she was something else! And you get to see her in her prime in this better-than-you’d-expect little ‘80s comedy. The material girl stars as a funky sort of transient who comes into the life of a bored urbanite wife (Rosanna Arquette). Their meeting quickly ends the housewife's boredom, as all sorts of mob antics and mistaken identity hilarity ensues.

Why she’ll like it: It’s not so much just one scene she’ll enjoy; it’s the whole movie. And she’ll enjoy it on an entirely different level than you, taking great pleasure in mocking the classic ‘80s haircuts, clothes and lingo. Just nod and laugh.

Why you’ll like it: It’s not so much the movie you’ll enjoy; it’s more like watching a lithe, young Madonna prancing around in slutty outfits for 104 minutes -- what guy wouldn’t like a film like that?

Number 8

Thelma & Louise (1991)

Susan Sarandon, Geena Davis, Harvey Keitel

There are a lot of reasons to hate this movie, from Brad Pitt’s extended (and shirtless) acting debut to its male-bashing undertones. But Ridley Scott’s (Alien, Blade Runner) quick-paced direction and Academy Award-worthy performances from its two stars (Sarandon and Davis) make this more than just a passable “chick flick;” they make it a downright phenomenal movie-watching experience.

It tells the story of two women on a cross-country road trip who get caught up with the law after they kill a would-be rapist. It’s a tale of justice and honor, and how it can end up making you drive off a cliff.

Why she’ll like it: Take your pick: She’ll either love the instant justice Sarandon and Davis impart on the attempted rapist or she’ll draw much inspiration from their suicidal choice to avoid further persecution from mean, old men. It might not sound too interesting, but she’ll feel so empowered from this stuff you just might see a new, interesting side to her if things get frisky.

Why you’ll like it: It’s sort of a road trip movie, so that means cars! And what a car they drive: It’s a 1966 Thunderbird convertible and it is one hot, little rod. Not only that, but this film is also head and shoulders above most of the other fluffy chick flicks. Pick your poison: car chases and sex scenes or You’ve Got Mail. Enough said.

Number 7

An Officer and a Gentleman (1982)

Richard Gere, Debra Winger, David Keith

It would seem that director Taylor Hackford (Ray, Proof of Life) and his screenwriters set out to make a film that bridges the gender gap and makes for a peaceful night of movie watching for a guy and a girl. He takes a realistic love story for the ladies and mixes in lots of hardcore boot camp action to keep the guys happy. The results are good enough that you shouldn’t resist if she suggests it. You’ll see Richard Gere play an ambitious recruit fast-tracking up the ladder, and Debra Winger as a bored textile worker trying to ride his coattails out of her dead-end town (no offence to Port Townsend, Washington, where the movie was filmed).

Why she’ll like it: It has a long, drawn out, exceedingly realistic love story that plays on the age-old themes of true love, chivalry and spastic facial muscles. In other words, she is going to cry -- a lot. For most girls, that is a good thing.

Why you’ll like it: It’s like Top Gun, only with more drama and less overt homoeroticism.

Number 6

When Harry Met Sally (1989)

This has basically come to epitomize the “chick flick,” meaning most guys would rather shave their mother’s legs than waste a Friday night watching this presumed puff piece. But the fact is it’s a good movie packed with hilarious dialogue. Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan play longtime friends who find themselves delving into that age-old “friends with benefits” category. Under the skillful direction of Rob Reiner (Spinal Tap, A Few Good Men), the awkwardness that ensues is priceless comedy. So get over yourself and just watch it. You’ll be glad you did.

Why she’ll like it: When Harry Met Sally is like shoe shopping: Only females truly appreciate its existence. She is basically hardwired to like this movie with its sappy charm, so just sit back and enjoy the humor.

Why you’ll like it: The movie is filled with some really good jokes. This is Billy Crystal at his best and Meg Ryan at her cutest.

Number 5

Serendipity (2001)

Watching any chick flick involves putting up with a fair amount of cheese. This offering boasts the always reliable John Cusack and the easy-on-the-eyes Kate Beckinsale. OK, it also oozes buckets of cheddar, but it’s a small sacrifice for making the girl happy for two hours. It’s good enough that you’ll admit privately to liking it, but will disavow any knowledge in public.

Two lovers meet by chance and declare to go their separate ways to see if fate will reunite them. Perhaps motivated by raising women’s expectations on irrational, romantic behavior, fate does indeed see to it that they meet years later (at the same spot), and they end up falling in love. That’s a bit of a spoiler, but it won’t ruin the movie.

Why she’ll like it: It is kind of like math: One lovable loser + One quirky, misunderstood young girl divided by Time = One weepy girl beside you on the couch who needs to be held.

Why you’ll like it: Get past the cliché schmaltz, accept the cute dialogue and enjoy the steady Cusack performance. Then look at the box and realize it is only 90 minutes long.

Number 4

The Craft (1996)

A lot of girls toyed with the Goth stage in their youth, so this little chick flick appeals to that dark past. In it, hot, teenaged witches duke it out for more and more power with their spells. A new girl in town gets involved with the bad crowd (bad being the aforementioned witches), and from there, it is a supernatural catfight of good versus evil, which makes for a pretty entertaining horror-inspired movie.

Why she’ll like it : No doubt she liked the bitchy teens in Mean Girls. Now it’s time to give the girls with creepy, evil powers a chance.

Why you’ll like it: Did I mention that the girls go to a private school? Can you say uniforms? Yes, it is a horror movie that makes something besides the hair on the back of your neck stand up.

Number 3

Blue Crush (2002)

This chick flick is about bikini-clad surfer girls, so she might be a bit suspicious if you suggest it, but in the end, your hormone-driven choice will be justified, as the movie is pretty darn entertaining. Miss "Booty Shorts" and Miss "Bare Midriff" star as surfers who take on riptides, professional quarterbacks, bitchy girls, and all the other usual pitfalls associated with being a surfer. Gorgeous Hawaiian scenery and amazing surf footage make this an entirely entertaining and underrated movie.

Why she’ll like it: Besides the obvious cushy love story stuff, there is a very empowering, girls-rule feel to Blue Crush. If that’s not enough, there are six-pack sporting hunks all over the place. So, there’s a bunch of eye candy for everyone.

Why you’ll like it: Seriously? You have to ask?

Number 2

Mean Girls (2004)

Anyone who has been in high school knows how catty girls can be to each other. So imagine how funny a movie about them would be (especially when it’s written by Saturday Night Live cutie Tina Fey). Throw in a little Lohan for window dressing and it’s the ultimate renter. Our favorite freckled Hollywood starlet leads as a newcomer planted in a socially tense high school. At first she wins the praise of the popular girls (self-named “The Plastics” -- although I would have much preferred “The Silicones”). But, one major social faux pas later, she becomes the target of their extremely mean-spirited spite. This is a bad place to be, unless you are a scheming, precocious teen like Lohan is in this film.

Why she’ll like it: With all the hair pulling, name calling and backstabbing, Mean Girls will remind her of those halcyon days of high school.

Why you’ll like it: It is a smart “teen” movie that is miles better than the rest.

Number 1

Bridget Jones’s Diary (2001)

One of the things that makes any chick flick somewhat watchable is how easy on the eyes the female lead usually is. So how does an uber-chick flick that stars a frumpy, disheveled Renee Zellweger make it on this list? By doing everything right, from little things like editing to the big things like casting. Bridget Jones is a perpetually single, 30-something girl living in London who makes a pledge to improve her life and get a man. She records this in excruciating detail in her diary, hence the film’s title.

Every guy will have to admit that Zellweger oozes irresistible charm as the spunky lead character, and Hugh Grant’s smarmy turn as her misogynistic boss is hilarious.

Why she’ll like it: It’s like a perfect storm of chick flick obsessions: shoes, diaries, torrid affairs, celebrity gossip, and so on. In fact, I believe girls are legally obligated to like this movie.

Why you’ll like it: You might not want to like it, but it will suck you in and make you like it.

wise guys comprise

Anyone can tell you how much compromise it takes to maintain a peaceful relationship. And there is no place this holds truer than the video store. It can’t always be Cops, Guns & Boobs or Dead Soldiers In The End Zone. Eventually, you’ll have sit through something she wants to watch. Now you’ve got 10 suggestions that can make her happy and will keep you from trying to swallow your own tongue out of boredom. Happy viewing.

10: Ways To Turn Digits Into Dates - dating advices for men: dating tips

2007-07-26T19:22:00.000-07:00

Have you ever gotten a woman’s phone number, but when you called, things got "weird" and you never ended up seeing her again? Make no mistake -- turning a phone number into a date isn’t always easy. When to call, what to say, how to handle voicemail… obviously there are tons of "landmines" you need to navigate through in order to actually get together. Use these 10 tips to help you do it right.

Number 10

Conquer your fear

You would never guess it, but one of the biggest mistakes most guys make on the phone is this: THEY NEVER CALL. When you get a number, it's easy to tell yourself you'll wait a couple of days before calling, but then the days turn into weeks, and then you can't find the number or -- worse yet -- you call and find out that while you were procrastinating she met a new guy she's crazy about. Ouch.

Listen, fear happens to the best of us… just don't let it get the best of you. She gave you the number because she WANTS you to call her. Don’t let her down. Call her a couple of days after you meet. And relax -- she WANTS to hear from you.

Number 9

Keep it short

Most guys have the misconception that you need to have a long conversation on the phone in order to get a woman to go out with you. Well, actually, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, if you talk too long you send the message that you don't have a very busy life… or worse, you risk BORING her. Instead, keep it short and sweet and leave her wanting MORE.

Number 8

End it first

Want to know a simple secret that 99% of men don't know? When you're dealing with a woman, always be the one who ends the interaction. When you do, you send a subtle -- yet clear -- message that you have other important things in your life BESIDES her, and that you're the one in charge. Women love to be with men who are leaders and this is a simple way to show her that you're EXACTLY the kind of guy she wants.

Number 7

Don't reassure her

When you end the conversation, resist the temptation to say "I'll give you a call" or "We'll talk again." And don't set up a meeting or a date on the first call either. When you leave the future open and uncertain, you help her see you as a CHALLENGE and a MYSTERY -- “Is he going to call me again? Why didn't he ask me out? Does he like me?” -- Getting a woman intrigued and curious about you is ALWAYS a good thing, and this is a great way to do it.

Number 6

Show her that you have a busy life

There are few things you can do that dial up a woman's attraction for you more than being a guy with a busy life. We all want what we can't have, and when something is hard to get, we value it more. So after your first call, wait a couple of days -- she'll be wondering what you've been so busy with -- and then call her again. And again, keep the conversation short and to the point. Tell her that you are really busy but you have a couple of nights free this week, then ask her what her schedule is like.

Number 5

Limit the time frame

When you agree on a date, be SPECIFIC about what you are going to do and how long you'll be together. You can say something like, “Let's meet at Tom's on Thursday at 8:00 p.m. for 20 minutes or so and have a quick drink. That way if you turn out to be scary I can say I have to shampoo my dog or something and run away.”

When you set up a short time frame for the meeting, you avoid expectations. You won’t be forced to spend time with someone you aren’t into, and should you decide she isn’t for you -- or should she end up looking like a wildebeest when you finally meet her -- you have an easy “out.”

Most importantly, telling her upfront about why you only want to meet for 20 minutes challenges her to show you that she isn’t weird or crazy, and it DRAMATICALLY increases the chances of her showing up. Nice.

Number 4

Disarm her objections

Many women will test you on the phone and resist your idea to get together. What's happening unconsciously is she wants to see if you have a backbone. So DON'T CAVE IN. The best way to respond to a test is to DIAL IT UP A NOTCH. Say something like, "Don't be silly! It's just 20 minutes for tea, you dork." Turn the tables on her like this and she'll see that you're a "cut above" the other guys.

Number 3

Dealing with voicemail

These days, it seems like many men are AFRAID to leave a message for a woman. Well guess what, fellas? Women are onto all of the “tricks” these days. I’m talking about blocking your number and calling a hundred times until she answers, or calling from different numbers so she doesn’t know it’s you.

The good news for you is that since 90% of men make these “mistakes,” leaving a message for a woman is going to set YOU apart. This shows extreme confidence to a woman because she knows that you are putting yourself out there and that you are confident that she is going to get back to you… unlike the other wussies she’s met who had to hide behind blocked numbers.

Keep the message short and sweet. Remind her who you are, but don’t get into great detail. For example, you could say, “Hey Jennifer… Kevin here from the Square Friday night… it’s 4:45… give me a buzz when you get this at XXX-XXX-XXXX.” Simple and to the point is always best.

If she doesn’t call you back, give it three days and try again. If you don’t get a call back this time, MOVE ON. You have better things to do than stalk a woman -- and that’s how women see it when you call again after leaving two messages, ESPECIALLY if you call from a different number the next time.

Number 2

Get her right number -- every time

Here’s another trick that will save you a TON of time and hassle: Instead of asking for her number right away, say, “Take my number down.” After she puts it in her phone say, “Call me right now so I have yours.” BAM -- you’ll get the correct phone number every time. And just as important, she now has your name in her phone, so she will know who it is when you call. Women are 10 times more likely to answer a call from someone they know, so this will DRAMATICALLY decrease your chances of running into her voicemail.

Number 1

Be spontaneous

If the phone continues to trip you up, try avoiding it altogether. When you meet a woman, instead of getting her number, suggest grabbing a coffee or tea RIGHT NOW. Even a 15 to 20 minute "mini-date" can give you a sense of what kind of woman she is and help you decide if you want to see her again.

If the phone continues to be a BIG obstacle for you, it’s probably because you aren’t creating enough ATTRACTION in a woman when you first meet her to get her to want to see you again. Luckily, this is a fairly easy fix as well.

10: First Date Faux Pas - Dating advices and dating tips for men

2007-07-26T09:41:00.000-07:00

Women are harsh critics, and being critical is exactly what we do on a first date. We’re analyzing your clothing, your table manners, what you say, and what you don’t say. If you want to pass the test (and advance to date number two), be sure not to commit any of these top 10 first date crimes.

Number 10

Being a knight in shining armor

You pick up your date and hand her a dozen red roses. “Your chariot awaits,” you say as you race ahead to get the car door for her… the first of many doors. In your world, chivalry is not dead -- it’s very much alive and requires you to open every single door for her. Well, I hate to shatter your Prince Charming dreams, but women don’t expect you to be a doorman. In fact, this can be downright annoying. Of course, we don’t want a heathen who shovels food into his mouth, talks with his mouth full and keeps his elbows on the table either. That’s just plain rude (and a major turnoff). What we do want is something in between: not a knight in shining armor or a slob, but a gentleman.

Number 9

Choosing a bad venue

You’ve offered to pick the restaurant, so which one do you choose?
a) Fast food joint
b) Happy hour at Hooters
c) Fancy schmancy restaurant (where entrees start at $50)
d) None of the above

If you answered d) None of the above, give yourself a pat on the back. That’s the winning ticket. The other options serve a purpose, but they’re not appropriate first date venues. A fast food joint tells her you’re cheap, Hooters tells her you’re a pervert (even though they do have great wings) and fancy schmancy tells her you’re a show off. Women want something that’s not too cheap and not too expensive, but just right -- a place that falls in between fancy and cheap, so that it doesn’t look like you’re trying too hard or that you’re not trying hard enough.

Number 8

Being wishy-washy

When she asks where you want to go for dinner, you hem and haw and eventually say, “Doesn’t matter.” And then at dinner, you spend hours deliberating over the menu and end up asking the waitress what she recommends. Wrong and wrong. Women don’t want a spineless guy who can’t make a decision to save his life. We want backbone, we want direction, we want confidence. In fact, some women rate confidence higher than appearance and sense of humor, so make sure you show her you’ve got lots of it -- just try to avoid being overly confident to the point of arrogance.

Number 7

Getting transfixed by TV

You’re listening intently as she goes on about her sister who just got accepted to the Peace Corps and her brother who’s doing his Master’s in chemical engineering. While you’re honestly enthralled by the conversation, you briefly glance at the TV perched behind the bar for one teeny tiny second… and you get busted! You might not think it’s a big deal (come on, you barely looked), but to her it’s huge. Why? Because even though you were listening intently, she takes your sneak peek as a screaming sign that you’re not interested. There goes date number two. The easiest way to avoid the TV trap is by not picking a place with TVs in the first place, and if you do wind up at a sports bar, strategically position your chair so you won’t be tempted.

Number 6

Being too honest

Okay, so you just got out of rehab, but there’s not need to share this tidbit of information with your date (at least not if you want to see her again). I’m not saying you should lie (honesty is the best policy), but you don’t have to tell her everything. That includes DUIs, divorces, speeding tickets, minor indictments, depression meds, the fact that you still live with mom, or that case of syphilis from a couple of years back (which hopefully has cleared up). There may be a time to come clean, but it’s definitely not on the first date. At least let her get to know you first before you start dropping truth bombs. Just remember: She probably has a few skeletons in her closer that she’s not revealing just yet either.

Number 5

Constantly interrupting

She mentions that she’s been to England. You jump in to say that you’ve been too. She goes on to say that she loves Coldplay. You jump in again to say that you saw them live at Coachella and they were great. Well, stop right there and bite your tongue. Yes, shared interests are a must, but there’s no need for you to keep interrupting her. Not only is it impolite, it tells her that you’re more interested in hearing your own voice than hers. Instead, wait till she’s done and then wow her with your similarities. Your politeness will be duly noted.

Number 4

Dressing inappropriately

Before stepping out the door on your big date, you give yourself the once over. Your jersey/ball cap/shorts/flip-flops combo (all clean and wrinkle-free) doesn’t look too bad, if you do say so yourself. Well, think again. Unless you’re taking her to a ball game (which is a totally acceptable first date venue, by the way), leave your sports jersey at home. Women put a lot of thought into their first date outfit.- a lot. Heck, they probably even went out and bought a whole new ensemble for the occasion. And while we don’t expect you to invest in new digs, we do expect you not to under-dress (see above outfit) or over-dress (three-piece suit or tuxedo). That said, there are certain articles of clothing that are always off limits. These include socks with sandals, dark shoes with white sport socks, too-tight jeans and jean shorts.

Number 3

Touching on taboo topics

Just in case you’ve been living under some rock (or have been out of the dating race for a while), the taboo topics for first date conversations are as follows: ex-girlfriends, past heartbreak, religion, politics, and money. This last one is especially important because, contrary to popular opinion, all women are not after your dough. In fact, yapping about it (in particular, how much you make and how much you have), could send your date running for the hills. Show us what your worth (and I don’t mean in a monetary sense), don’t tell us about it. Same goes for name-dropping and bragging. Leave it for the locker room where it belongs.

Number 2

Staring at the waitress

It’s not your fault the waitress is smokin’ hot or wearing a V-neck down to her navel, but under no circumstance should you acknowledge this. No lingering leers, quick looks down her top or flirting. None whatsoever. First of all, no matter how discreet you think you are, your date will notice. Secondly, women want to believe that you’re with them because you want to be with them. Sure, we know that you’d opt for a Victoria’s Secret model given the chance (just like we’d take Brad Pitt any day of the week), but Gisel is just a fantasy girl. The waitress, however, is all too real. When you acknowledge her hotness right in front of our eyes, you’re showing disrespect -- a big no-no.

Number 1

Getting loaded

You want to have a good time, and more importantly you want to show her a good time, so what do you do? You order a couple rounds of tequila shots. Tequila equals fun, right? Wrong. This is not a bachelor party it’s a first date, and whether you like it or not you’re under strict observation. Having a couple glasses of wine with dinner is one thing, but getting drunk or plying her with alcohol is another -- unless you want her to think you’re still a frat boy who hasn’t grown up. And if you’re driving, don’t even think about having more than two drinks. Safety first.

honorable mention

Texting up a storm

Everyone knows that cell phones are off limits (unless it’s work-related, in which case warn your date in advance). Well, texting may not get as much air time, but it’s just as bad. It tells your date that she’s not the most important person in the room (or in your mind), and shows her that you can’t shut the world out for one measly date. If you start to go into withdrawal, you can try and sneak in a quickie while she’s in the bathroom, just make sure you don’t get caught. That will make you seem sneaky and self-absorbed. To avoid temptation, your best bet is to ditch your Blackberry altogether. Out of sight, out of mind.

10: Ways To Render Her Powerless - Dating advice and dating tips for men

2007-07-25T17:56:00.000-07:00

Everyone has a weakness -- a critical Achilles' heel that can be exploited for both fun and profit. In the case of dating, understanding a woman’s weaknesses can be the difference between an unforgettable night of passion and yet another evening of cruising the internet for donkey porn. Read on to discover the top 10 things that render every woman powerless, regardless of her background or position in life.

Number 10

Us Weekly

Did you know that Lindsay Lohan recently spent more than $9,000 at London’s Arrogant Cat boutique or that Beyonce Knowles enjoys riding the subway? Of course you didn’t (you have a life of your own), but your girlfriend certainly knows. That’s because, like all women, she loves to gossip. Luckily for her, trashy periodicals like Us Weekly and People Magazine give her a chance to get the inside dirt on all of the planet’s newsworthy celebrities.

Number 9

Dirty Dancing

Just as men can’t resist films with gratuitous nudity and explosions, women are similarly powerless in the presence of melodramatic movies that contain excessive dialogue and soundtracks featuring Patrick Swayze. Take Dirty Dancing, for instance. No, seriously, take it, because we don’t intend to waste another minute of our lives watching two grown adults do the jitterbug. Some other irresistible chick flicks include The Notebook, Breakfast at Tiffany's and Beaches, a film that not even Bette Midler's man can sit through from start to finish.

Number 8

“These Boots Are Made For Walking”

It’s been scientifically proven that no woman above the age of 30 can resist shaking her money maker to “These Boots Are Made for Walking.” In fact, the song’s allure is so strong that even Megadeth deemed it necessary to record their own version of the 1966 hit. Other female friendly tunes include Cyndi Lauper’s “Girls Just Want to Have Fun,” Madonna’s “Like a Virgin” and Marc Cohn’s "Walking in Memphis" (a light-rock classic designed to suck the testosterone out of your body with every saccharine verse).

Number 7

Tanning

Let’s be perfectly honest: Most men would be happy living in a cave if they could find one that was rent-controlled. Women, on the other hand, positively need the sun. That’s why they insist on bathing for hours at a time until their skin becomes crispier than a freshly baked tortilla chip. It’s also why America’s fake tanning industry raked in more than $4.2 billion in 2000; although to be fair, George Hamilton probably accounted for about a third of that. Nonetheless, the U.S. now has more than 15,000 fake-and-bake locations from sea to shining sea, most of which serve a predominantly female clientele.

Number 6

Conversation

Although most people know that Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone, few people realize that he never had the chance to use it because his wife was always on the line. The fact of the matter is that women love to talk: They do it on the phone, they do it in person, they do by e-mail and, if they had to, they’d do it through smoke signals and carrier pigeons.

And the conversations are never brief. Although some men can resolve a nuclear arms treaty in a matter of minutes, most women can somehow find a way of discussing their hairdo for up to seven hours at a time. Anyone who thinks the art of conversation is dead needs only to ask his wife how her day was to discover otherwise.

Number 5

Trash-talking one another

In the words of American essayist Agnes Repplier, " Conversation between Adam and Eve must have been difficult at times because they had nobody to talk about.” Luckily, with more than six billion people now on the planet, women have no shortage of targets to address. From their mouth-breathing boss to the best friend they secretly hate, the fairer sex love to complain for hours on end about the people who complicate their lives.

Number 4

Relationship analysis

Contrary to popular belief, Dr. Phil isn’t famous because women love bald guys with porn star moustaches. Rather, the good doctor is adored by the fairer sex because he willingly analyzes their relationships, something that all women do anyhow. As unbelievable as it may sound, women actually spend just as much time thinking about how they interact with others as you spend looking at box scores and managing your football fantasy team.

That means that while you’re busy considering whether you should drop Drew Bledsoe in favor of Jon Kitna, your girlfriend is trying to figure out if your fear of commintment is linked to the time your best friend moved to Idaho when you were 7.

Number 3

The Bachelor

All women crave romance, which is precisely why they fall for sappy reality shows like The Bachelor. After all, where else can they experience a world where everyone lives in mansions, first dates involve transatlantic flights to Paris and women get rejected with a single red rose? God knows, they’re certainly not going to experience it with you or you buddies. The last we heard, a typical Friday night with you involved pizza and a sweaty sock.

Number 2

Bath baskets

More than anything else, women love to be pampered. That’s precisely why they adore manicures, pedicures and dainty little bath baskets full of scented products. Luckily, men have no need for bath products. After all, we already have our own built-in bath toy that we’ve been happily playing with since we were toddlers.

Number 1

Photo albums

Ask a man where he was last Thursday evening at 8:00 and he’ll likely draw a blank. Ask a woman where she was and she’ll tell you not only the location, but also what she was wearing, who she was with, the color of the wallpaper in the room, and the song that was playing on the radio at the time. And nowhere will you find a woman’s obsessive love for detail more thoughtfully arranged than in her collection of photo albums.

These exhaustive volumes carefully document good friends, good times and, more often than not, horrible haircuts. It’s only fair to warn you now that in the event of a five-alarm blaze, most women would sooner save their albums before they saved you.

a little understanding goes a long way

It has been said that knowledge is useless without a practical application. So now that you know women’s weaknesses, it’s up to you to put your understanding to the test. Who knows? With a little luck and a lot of charm, she could end up dirty dancing her boots that are made for walking right into your bedroom...

Attracted to a handsome man - how to discover if love is returned?

2007-07-25T17:52:00.000-07:00

Have you been attracted to a handsome man, and yet still confused if he is attracted to you? If you’ve been dating him for some time you made an initial contact and some subtle contact has been created.

Moving beyond an initial casual chat with a man

When is the right time to go further on beyond an initial casual chat and entail some personal info in a conversation with a man?

Should you reveal too much about yourself too early? How would you know if she is interested to know more about you?

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills to date men:

Recognize male’s changes in expression and body language

Would you go for clever man vs. physically built the way you want?

What hints men are sending if they are interested in you>

So, let’s evaluate all-important steps one by one!

Recognize signs of attraction go after changes in expression and body language

The fact is you will quite rarely get clear signs that a man is obviously attracted to you. Men are intimidated by woman’s presence too and tend to send insignificant signals, hints, and subliminal messages.

You can pick up on changes in expression, posture, body language, etc that tells you more about what the man is thinking than what he is saying.

How do you choose whom to approach?

If you do not decide how to choose whom yu will accept as a romantic partner, you will be open to everything. What are you really looking for, someone to love and care for and grow old with or someone to wow others with and make you rich?

Weigh up men who might be fantastic but not built physically the way you want

It is very common for a women’s aspiration that a man has to be taller than she is. So at the start she has eliminated any man who might be fantastic but not built physically the way she wants him to be.

However the moment you know him, you reveal all the character, intellectual and spiritual values he has. Comparing a clever man to someone who lacks all the intellectual qualities, except the body shape you’ll understand which is more important to you.

Being in familiar terms if a men you’re attracted to is likely to mate you

How to get women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome man - dating advice and dating tips for men

2007-07-24T18:03:00.000-07:00

You can experience a state of brainpower where being with a woman, or doing a particular thing, feels magically smooth and easy. To enhance the romantic mood, make sure you share at least some common ideas and interests with each other.

Which woman will appreciate your masculine qualities?

Women like it when you show that you respect them and agree with their ideas. However, believe in yourselves. If you don't learn how to do it, you'll probably find that others won't believe in you either. So, how do you enhance romantic mood with women?

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:

Win women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome

Show strong personality mature and desirable attitude

Develop promising relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction

So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!

Win women’s interest even if you’re not amazingly charming and handsome

Women don't ask guys out generally. They don't even indicate romantic interest initially. However, fact that women aren't responding to your signals doesn't inevitably mean you're a total loser.

Women tend to be picky and play games too, as some men do. Pretending to be uninterested to a guy unless he's amazingly charming and handsome, they expect men to make the first move.

Strong personality makes a men appear mature and desirable

Women like it when you show that you respect them and agree with their ideas. However, don't compromise your own belief system just to please him. Having a strong personality and unshakable attitude makes a men appear mature and desirable to women.

As a guy matures in his feelings about women, he should tend to go from sex-oriented view of women to emotional intimacy of women.

How to show off your strong personality

Men don't drop hints, like the way women do when they're interested in a guy.

Women find men who are pro-active extremely attractive, that's the quality, which men should go for. It involves confidence, charisma, and the ability to have fun. Showing off your strong personality, requires knowing yourself and your surroundings.

Promising relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction

The truth is that some relationships with an immediate mutual physical attraction lose interest and wind up as just-friends.

On the other hand, the ones who start off, as close friends may become lovers someday if the conditions are right. So how do you progress from an acquaintance to a true relationship with a woman you’re attracted to? For more tips about developing strong personality and unshakable attitude attractive to women, refer to the e books below:

Relationships On Mutual Interests - Dating tips and dating advice for men and teens

2007-07-23T08:50:00.001-07:00

Do you feel that initial lust and passion in relationship wit your former girlfriend waned over the time? Once promising relationship gradually turned down to boredom and mutual avoidance, why if you still like her?

Friends as lovers remembering their previous relationship usually make mistakes that turn lust ad attraction off. They try to get used to partner’s pleasance and neglect their relationship.

Attracting women

Have you been stuck minding the ideas for activities on date? Should you propose walking out, coffee, dinner, watching sports, or something completely different? How do you actually know what she is interested in at all? You can always start with activities you personally enjoy, and hope she’ll share your interests.

Ask, and you’re never on the wrong side. However if she’s shy or a bit introvert, she could reject your date proposal even if she’d like to make you company. The only idea you need for a date is something you enjoy or have wanted to try.

Dating women - achieve experience with physical and emotional intimacy

2007-07-23T04:57:00.000-07:00

Men would enthusiastically view socializing with women as a big step that could lead to getting in closeness of someone interested in relationship or long-term friendship. Being an extrovert and funny person makes you an interesting company, which women would like to acquaint.

How do men deal with the vagueness that occurs after the first few initial dates?

However some women are very open, honest and unambiguously expressive but most are quite guarded in their response or give conflicting signals.

Men scarcely deal with the vagueness that occurs after the first few initial dates. Deciding if both partners has similar intentions regarding their evolving relationship ambiguous decision. They would ask partner whether she will want to continue to see them again.

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:

First steps in dating – pass up tenseness with a little practice

Know to achieve self-confidence in early phase of dating

Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel

So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!

First steps in dating – pass up tenseness with a little practice

The first steps in dating are often quite terrifying for both partners involved, but it gets tremendously easier with a little practice. If you can realize this, you will feel better and relax. Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. If you stammer slightly while asking her out, don't worry. She'll probably think it's cute.

The good move is to tell her how you feel. Getting used to a habit of being straightforward about how you feel works out tremendously. Afterwards you’ll have a better idea about how she feels in the same situation.

Achieving self-confidence in early phase of dating

Women are often left in the position of really wanting men to ask them out, but not feeling they can initiate anything for fear of how their actions would be perceived.

Gaining self-confidence in early phase of dating and acquainting women is essential for long-term success with women. You need to know you're attractive guy and achieve some experience with both physical and emotional intimacy. Maybe you'd be better off seeing other girls on a not-so-serious level.

Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel

It’s often better to be subtle when it comes to showing how you feel, especially when you're uncertain as to the seriousness of your relationship.

If you tell a girl that you need her, you risk scaring her off by giving the impression that you're desperate or dependent whatsoever.

Tips to communicate comfortably with women

Bottom line: Convince yourself that you can converse comfortably with women when there's nothing at risk. All you have to do is realize the women you want to ask out on dates are no different from your female colleagues.

Even if she says “no”, it will be good practice. For more tips about first dating steps, physical and emotional intimacy, refer to the e books below:

10: Ways To Meet A New Woman Tonight - Dating advices and dating tips.

2007-07-22T08:18:00.000-07:00

Meeting a new woman can be a daunting task. Most guys have NO CLUE how to do it, so they crash and burn, again and again. If you want to meet a new woman without running the risk of getting shot down you need a solid game plan. Use these 10 tips to start talking to women and getting numbers and dates in no time.

Number 10

Find a target-rich environment

It’s important that you find those special places that are PACKED with attractive women, places where it's natural to start talking to them and where there's less COMPETITION and distraction from other guys. Try the yoga class at your local gym… the Starbucks across from the tanning salon… the weekend art show, etc. If you’re willing to do a little research, you’ll discover that there are literally TONS of great places to meet women in your area that most men have NO IDEA even exist…

Number 9

Play it cool

When you see a woman you want to meet, pay attention to the situation and approach her when she's not likely to feel "rudely interrupted." It’s also a MUST that you eliminate nervous ticks, stilted body language, fast movements, stuttering, and any other signs that show you're uncomfortable. And, of course, look her straight in the eyes. When you do, you'll come across as the type of cool and confident guy she'd LOVE to give her number to.

Number 8

Practice your approach

It's important to mentally rehearse your first conversations with women. Plan what you're going to say, think about how she will probably respond and what you're going to do in the most common situations. Also, plan how you're going to physically and emotionally respond to a woman who ISN'T interested in talking to you. When you know you can handle the worst-case scenario, your confidence will sky-rocket and women will take notice.

Number 7

Use great “opener” on her

Here’s a great opening line you can go out and use RIGHT NOW to get you started. This one works especially well in bars and nightclubs, and it’s one of my personal favorites. Simply go up to a woman and say, "I'm sure that every drunk dumb-ass and his nine friends have been bothering you tonight, but I just wanted to say that I think you are fantastically beautiful… and I wanted to find out what you were like."

Here’s another great line you can use just about anywhere: "Hi, can I ask you a question… are you single?" [Her: "Why?"] "Well, I know someone that I think would really like you... and if you're single, I think you should consider having a cup of coffee with him…" (Your sly smile hints that the certain someone is YOU).

Number 6

Get her number on the road

Believe it or not, you can get a womans number at 65mph. If you see an attractive woman driving in a car next to you, smile and wave. Then hold up your cell phone and mouth the words "What's your number?" slowly. I love this one…

Number 5

Get her talking

A woman loves sharing her opinions, so why not use this to your advantage? Start the conversation by asking her opinion on something, such as saying, "Hey, my friends and I were talking, and I just want to get a female perspective from you… Do you think that men understand what women want and need?" WARNING: Once you get her talking, you might not be able to stop her!

Number 4

Get her e-mail and number

Most guys make this step way more complicated than it really is. After talking for a minute or two, just say, "Well, it was nice meeting you, I'm going to get back to shopping/my friends/work/whatever." Turn away and take a few steps… then look back at her and say, "Hey, do you have an email? Great, give it to me," then take out your pen and hand it to her. As she's writing her e-mail address, say, "And put your number down there too."

Number 3

Get a female-centric hobby

Another way to meet woman is easily is to take dance lessons… or start teaching something you're an expert on. And if you're with a friend, you can always fall back on the age-old standby where you have your friend approach her for you and build you up to be the man of her dreams.

Number 2

Handle objections

If she says "No, I don’t have e-mail," you say, "Well, do you have ELECTRICITY? OK, you can give me your number then, but it's so hard to reach people these days." And if she objects to giving you her number, no worries… just tease her with "You're going to be OK, just write it down. It's only an e-mail address (or phone number), silly."

Number 1

Get her to start conversations with YOU

There's nothing better than getting a woman to be the one to initiate contact FIRST… and fortunately there are a lot of ways you can get this done. One of my favorite ways is to walk by and say something to a friend within earshot of her, something so provocative that she can't RESIST responding to it… for example you could say "I think that secretly ALL women do it…" Few women will be able to resist coming over asking what you’re talking about.

go get her

The possibilities are endless. Use your imagination, and you can figure out all sorts of ways to bring new, attractive women into your life -- any time, anywhere.

Overcome Silence & Idle Talk - Dating advice for men , Dating tips

2007-07-20T20:02:00.000-07:00

Looks aren't everything - you might attract women if you learn correct attitude

Have you ever been upset in favor of tiny chance for being picked up by girls due to your average looks? Most average looking Guys does, obsessing it was their main obstacle for success with women. But have in mind that looks aren't everything. You need to learn how to emphasize your positive personality side and mental strength so you compensate average exterior.

Do you think you are not what girls usually look for in a guy? You could be a bit overweight, introspective, quite shy, and not exactly the social champion. But what's dreadful about that?
Show your interest for woman by putting your feelings evident for her

Woman will get really frustrated with you if you act too shy and probably will conclude you might not be interested in her company. She has no clue whether you’re being shy, or you’re not interested. You have to put your feelings on the line much the same as the other person.

Girls would quickly lose interest when a guy expects her to call, plan and do everything, because she probably initiated the conversation and waits for your action. She would be even more disappointed when they find out months later you really liked her, but just did not say it.

Dating women - achieve experience with physical and emotional intimacy

2007-07-20T13:30:00.001-07:00

How do men deal with the vagueness that occurs after the first few initial dates?

However some women are very open, honest and unambiguously expressive but most are quite guarded in their response or give conflicting signals.

Examine this list and see if you think you have all the essential skills:

First steps in dating – pass up tenseness with a little practice

Know to achieve self-confidence in early phase of dating

Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel

So, let's evaluate all-important steps one by one!

First steps in dating – pass up tenseness with a little practice

Achieving self-confidence in early phase of dating

Women are often left in the position of really wanting men to ask them out, but not feeling they can initiate anything for fear of how their actions would be perceived.

Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel

It’s often better to be subtle when it comes to showing how you feel, especially when you're uncertain as to the seriousness of your relationship.

If you tell a girl that you need her, you risk scaring her off by giving the impression that you're desperate or dependent whatsoever.

Tips to communicate comfortably with women

Even if she says “no”, it will be good practice. For more tips about first dating steps, physical and emotional intimacy, refer to the e books below:

Get an inside look at what you will learn:

How to take first steps in dating and pass up tenseness with a little practice?

How to achieve self-confidence in early phase of dating?

Act clever when it comes to showing how you feel?

Male Role Models: Who You Need and Why You Need Them - Dating advice for men, dating tips

2007-07-20T13:24:00.000-07:00

Whenever youre searching for advice and wisdom and your dad just wont do, you have to look for role models elsewhere. You need to define yourself as a man, and you need examples to lead the way. Being a real man means that there are certain traits you have to adopt and most of these are already latent in your personality. All you have to do is find the perfect role models to mold yourself after. Here are the best men, fictional and real, to help you take the steps you need in order to become A Real Man.

1) James Bond

Bond: That looks like a woman's gun.
Largo: Do you know a lot about guns, Mr. Bond?
Bond: No, but I know a lot about women.

Have you ever seen this guy in a crisis? Does he run away and scream at the first sign of trouble? Never. He maintains a state of relaxed confidence. The way you react during a crisis definitely shows your character, and if you have any sense at all, youll prefer having James Bonds character instead of Richard Simmons. Of course, you may give yourself only five seconds of panic at the first sign of trouble. But after that, you have to take a calm and confident attitude or else your emotions will get the best of you, and youll end up making things worse.

When it comes to approaching women, James Bond doesnt stutter or say Uhm between silences. He knows exactly where he wants to take the conversation. If the lady shows disinterest in him (a rare case), he shrugs it off. He doesnt wallow or linger around like a loser. He walks away from it elegantly. It takes practice to follow his example when it comes to rejections, but its an attitude youll definitely have to develop if you want to allow yourself to take chances.

2) James Dean

Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today.

James Deans persona is the embodiment of the saying Live fast, die young. While it is not recommended that you die young, living fast sounds like good advice. Do something wrong once in a while. It doesnt have to be illegal, it just has to be wrong in one way or another. Smash your fist into a wall. Take up boxing or wrestling and join an amateur competition. Find a way for you to get that natural, exhilarating high. While women say the like stability, most of them are attracted to the wildish nature in men. This wildish nature is the part of a man that seek adventure, unpredictability, and excitement. Get in touch with that aspect of yourself once in a while. Not only will this make you open to new experiences, but it will also make you feel as if youve lived life to the fullest.

3) Donald Trump

"Think big, or go home."

His hairstyle notwithstanding, Donald Trump is a man that all men with ambition should look up to. He takes his dreams seriously, and he doesnt tolerate laziness and mediocrity. He was also married to very beautiful women probably because they couldnt resist how strong and driven he is. It doesnt mean that you should make money and business a priority, the Donald Trump way is finding something that youre passionate about and pursuing it. It means finding a balance between listening to other peoples advice and following your own instincts. Having a sense of accomplishment is something that all men should aspire to, mostly because it makes you feel as if youre contributing something to the world. And lets face it other people, especially women, are drawn to men who have attained something worthwhile.

4) Those Guys from Queer Eye for a Straight Guy

It just goes to show: bad taste does not discriminate. Jai Rodriguez

No, you do not have to sleep with other guys. While it may seem odd that five gay guys are in a real mans role models list, wouldnt it be great if these five guys didnt have to work on straight men anymore? The concept is simple, really men should pay more attention to proper food, grooming, fashion, interior design, and culture. Get rid of the stereotype that heterosexual men are clueless about fashion. Leave the dirty rooms and baggy gangsta clothes to highschool boys. You dont have to nit-pick on every speck of dust in your home or every gram of fat in your food, you just need to pay a little more attention on how you present yourself as well as what you put inside your body. If youre finding the whole gay thing a little awkward, get a subscription of a mens health or mens fashion magazine to keep yourself updated.

5) Vito Corleone

Do you spend time with your family? Good. Because a man who doesn't spend time with his family can never be a real man.

Women like an alpha male, and one of the important characteristics of an alpha male is that he takes care of his family. Being protective and caring of your family and friends shows your deep interest in people, as well as your dependability. Give your younger siblings advice, give your mom the nice coat shes always wanted, and dont be afraid to help out random strangers. You have to be a rock that people can lean on during times of crisis. The test of a true man is to show strength during hardship and this strength is based on reason, not anger and brute force. All real men should display leadership qualities, but they shouldnt confuse this with bossiness. True leaders know when to take charge and when to step aside make sure that you let your woman take control from time to time. The plus side of being a good family man is that when you see how strong youve become for other people, youll soon learn to trust your own strength and instincts.

What Women Look For - Dating advice for men and women, Dating advices for men and teens

2007-07-20T10:23:00.000-07:00

good guys

Many women believe that all the good guys are taken, but you know that’s simply not true. iVillage.com is telling women exactly how to spot a great guy, so you best read on to see what qualities she’s looking for in her dream man.

finding mr. right

We all want to find a great guy. But let's face it: How many of your exes seemed fantastic at first, only for you to find out that they were Mr. Wrongs? Well, no more bad boys, mama's boys or anything of the sort! Dr. Bethany Marshall shares her shopping list for a healthy man in this excerpt from her book, Deal Breakers.

When you first meet a man, whether it's online, at the grocery store, at a bar, at school or at your job, you should feel that he wants you.

It may be conveyed by a look, a touch, a compliment, curiosity or attention to detail. And it must, within a short amount of time, be conveyed in person -- not online, through a text message or on the phone. And definitely, it should be backed up by his willingness to make a plan and move the relationship forward. If he's not interested enough to call in advance and make a plan, he's not interested enough to invest his emotions in a relationship. Conversely, constant calling, e-mailing and text-messaging is not true contact. He cannot touch you, see you, adore you or get to know you through words on a screen or over the phone.

Soon after meeting him, you should discover that he has appropriately achieved in at least one area of his life.

For instance, if he went to college he now has a good job. Or a decent car. If he inherited his parents' business, he has learned how to successfully manage it. Or if he is a member of a baseball team, he has learned to become a team player. His efforts continue to generate new opportunities, new skills, new challenges, or new possessions. Thus, he is progressing and not degenerating.

If he's a healthy man, he will never make plans for the future that he does not intend to back up.

And he will certainly not say, “I'm not sure where this relationship is going,” and then continue to call you and have sex with you. He will not send messages that are confusing and difficult to decipher. A healthy man says what he means and means what he says. And the words that he speaks are backed up by action that coincides. Even if he cannot give a guarantee, the relationship is always moving forward. Thus, you will never find yourself drunk-dialing at two in the morning because you fear that he is out with another girl. Or find yourself in a situation where he claims to want to get married , but you are the only one who is planning the wedding and paying for the caterer.

If you are in the right relationship, it will feel reciprocal and mutual.

When you offer emotional support, is he appreciative? Does he give back by surprising you with a special little something? Or remembering your favorite drink? Do you feel that what he gives is as valuable and meaningful as what you offer? For instance, if you set aside a Saturday night, will he make an entertainment plan that is enjoyable for both of you? If your car breaks down, will he come and get you? If you have a problem, will he help you? Is he as devoted to you as you are to him? Healthy relationships are based upon mutual give-and-take. And what is given and received should feel of equal value. If the only thing that you are getting out of this relationship is text messages or e-mails, occasional plans or the assurance that you won't be alone on a Saturday night, you are not getting what you need.

If he's the right guy for you, he will have good friends and you will like who he is when he's with them.

Whether he's at the bar, at a tailgate party or running for political office, you are confident that he is the man you know and love, both with you or apart from you. When he's out of sight, he does not turn into somebody else. For instance, a player. Or a jerk. Conversely, when you include him with your friends, you know who he will be: charming and engaging, enhancing instead of detracting.

If he's a healthy man, he will like you for who you are.

Even if you have a bad day or say something that he does not like, his adoration will remain steady and his view of you will remain the same. Beware of the guy whose perception changes whenever you deviate from his expectations. For instance, you dress a certain way and he refuses to hold you or compliment you. Or you gain weight and he stops having sex with you. Does he take pleasure in you, whether you look sexy in your low-rider jeans or have just gotten out of bed? Does he spend time with your family because he knows that you are a part of them? Is he interested in your spirituality? Or do you feel that you must suppress your personality in order to hold on to his approval? Even when it comes to your sexual preferences, you should feel free to reveal yourself without fear of losing his affection.

A healthy man will never view you as unconditionally bad or make you feel terrible about yourself.

Even in the midst of an argument, he will be able to see both the good and the bad in you. For instance, he will not stay mad at you once the argument is over. And he will move on instead of clinging to bad feelings or suspicions. He loves you and sees you as a good person, no matter what. And he would never refuse to call, refuse to be nice, or walk out the door without quickly returning simply because you shared your concerns with him.

A healthy man has a learning curve.

For instance, if you tell him that you need more time together or need him to stop doing something that is obnoxious, he will shift his behavior because he loves you and does not want to lose you. He is willing to learn from his mistakes and modify his actions. For instance, if he begins a friendship with a flirtatious girl and you let him know that this is creating a problem, he will be concerned about your feelings and come up with a solution. When you discuss relationship obstacles, he works on them. He would never admit to a substance abuse problem and then refuse to address it. Or agree to appropriately separate from his mother (who dislikes you), but then go running back to the nest.

If he is healthy, he will seek his own solutions.

For instance, if he has a problem, he will reach out to others for help, find resources, have a conversation, go to therapy, attend a 12-step program -- anything that will move him closer to making the changes that he needs to make. (You could do worse than give him this book. No, wait -- make him buy his own damn copy!) Petty pride, laziness or stubbornness will not keep him from taking the steps that he needs to take to have a full relationship with you.

A healthy man will not try to have power over you.

He won't leave you wondering where he is and what he is doing. Or leave you hanging just to prove a point. Or make you feel that you have to disappear for a few days to recover the power you once had. Even if he has more money, status and power, he will not make you feel that you would be nothing without him. A healthy man is willing to take you into account instead of pushing you away. He is willing to listen, meet your needs, and include you in mutual decision-making. Because you matter, he does not want to have undue influence or control over you. And he can trust that he is loved, even when he is not in charge. When it comes to who takes care of whom, and who makes the decisions, and who gets the last say, he is willing to negotiate (because, really, all of life is a little like Let's Make a Deal).

10: Ways To Attract Her With Humor - Dating advice for men dating advices for teens

2007-07-19T19:22:00.000-07:00

Number 10

Cocky Comedy defined

The purpose of Cocky Comedy isn’t to make a woman laugh -- it’s about making her feel ATTRACTION. Cocky Comedy is just the right mixture of cocky or arrogant and funny. Why this combination? Women aren’t attracted to lower-status men… and the cocky element implies you have high status. Healthy-minded women aren’t attracted to complete jerks either, and the comedy element keeps you out of the “complete jerk” category. If you can make a woman laugh at something you say that’s busting on her or is extremely arrogant-sounding, you’ve achieved a magical accomplishment. THAT is Cocky Comedy.

Number 9

Mess with her

When you mess with one of your friends but you sound serious, how does your friend know that you’re messing with him? It’s obvious because you’re being overly serious or “overly harsh” or “overreacting.” The problem is that most guys don’t do this stuff with women they don’t know… ESPECIALLY women they’re attracted to.

But it’s critical that you switch the conversation from the normal mode to the “I’m messing with you” mode QUICKLY. don’t let the conversation stay too normal for too long before switching it up. To switch into this mode, give an overexaggerated compliment that can’t be real but seems way too serious; accuse her of stepping over the line and trying to pick you up in some way; complain about something in an overly serious way. Keep her on her toes and you’ll keep her interested.

Number 8

Bust her balls

Want to REALLY dial up the attraction? Bust a woman’s balls just like you bust on your buddies. Call her names like dork, brat and dude. If she WHINES about anything, mock her whining in an exaggerated and playful way. Interrupt her repeatedly, then be overly silent. Bust her balls just like she’s an old buddy of yours, and she’ll be blown away by your confidence and sense of humour.

Number 7

Use your body

Your gestures, facial expressions and voice tone are all great Cocky Comedy tools. Push her into things as you’re walking. Hand her something but then don’t let go, and don’t grab something she’s handing to you. Steal her food or take the big piece. Swat her playfully with a magazine, napkin or whatever you can find. Thumb wrestle, tickle her… the possibilities here are endless.

Number 6

Never laugh to make her laugh

It sounds incredible, but most laughter ISN’T in response to something funny. We usually laugh when we’re seeking someone’s approval -- even if what the other person said isn’t all that funny. Men try to force a woman to give him this approval by saying something that’s supposed to make her laugh, and then laughing at his own joke in hopes he’ll get her to laugh too (and so give him the approval he’s looking for).

But all this does is communicate to her that he’s desperately seeking her approval… which is one of a woman’s BIGGEST TURNOFFS. Imagine a guy laughing at his own joke, and the woman is looking around for some kind of distraction so she can pretend that the guy she’s with isn’t as much of a DORK as he seems to be. DON’T BE THAT GUY. Never laugh to try to make a woman laugh in return.

Number 5

Hold your laughter to amplify attraction

Women are attracted to higher status males. So how does a woman tell if she’s talking to one? If she catches herself seeking HIS approval, and he never seeks HER approval, then she unconsciously knows that she’s dealing with a higher-status man.

And she’ll reward that man with mating opportunities. That’s where Cocky Comedy comes in. When you make a woman laugh (which is her seeking your approval), but not laugh yourself (which communicates that YOU don’t need HER approval), you’ll create and AMPLIFY her attraction to you. It’s an unconscious communication she can’t help but respond to.

Number 4

Learn the Cocky Comedy character

Most guys who naturally use Cocky Comedy aren’t TRYING to be funny, and they’re definitely not seeking approval -- they’re being the CHARACTER. The character is where 90% of the humor flows from.

So what is the character? If you catch yourself thinking, “She’s just trying to get me into bed" and “What’s in it for me?" or if you're sarcastically encouraging her bad behavior or imitating her silly quirks, then you’ve got the character. When you do, you’ll find that Cocky Comedy will happen almost automatically, and so will a woman's attraction for you.

Number 3

When something works… turn it up

As you start to use Cocky Comedy, you’ll notice women react to you in new and different ways. When they do, it’s time to TURN IT UP A NOTCH. So if a woman is acting fake mad, say, “You love me and you know it.” If a woman playfully hits your shoulder, say “Hey, you just hit me… just like a little girl on the playground hitting a boy she likes… you love me, and it’s OBVIOUS.”

Number 2

Avoid these common mistakes

Too much funny and she’ll see you as goofy or dorky. Too much cocky and she’ll see you as an A-hole, a jerk or an insecure guy. Don’t mistake an outright putdown for being cocky. And never do Cocky Comedy to impress woman or show off; you’ll make yourself look like a dumb-ass.

Number 1

Fill your toolbox with OTHER tools too

Although Cocky Comedy is one of the most POWERFUL strategies I’ve come across for creating attraction in a woman. it’s a mistake to think that it’s everything or, for that matter, to think that ANYTHING is everything when it comes to attracting a woman. Cocky Comedy is a lethal tool, don’t get me wrong, but don’t rely on Cocky Comedy to create attraction all by itself. You must overcome your insecurities, polish up your personality quirks and learn to control your body language -- and many other things -- if you want to really take advantage of the power that this technique and way of thinking has to offer.

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Competing For Women - Dating advice for men and dating advice for teens

2007-07-18T18:48:00.000-07:00

What should a guy do when another guy is competing for the same woman?

One of the ULTIMATE ways to handle situations like these is very simple: HAVE FUN.

The thing that really screws things up for most guys when this happens is letting it take them off balance... and screwing up their composure.

By laughing it off, or even making fun of the guys who are trying to make their move, you wind up coming off even MORE powerful.

Why does a woman often call a man out of the blue after not hearing from him for several weeks?

There's something about walking away from a woman, not calling her etc., that triggers some sort of mechanism that causes her to call at the most unlikely times.

My experience is that there's some kind of two- to four-week timer in a woman's head that goes off if she doesn't hear from you.

Again, I have no explanation for this particular bizarre pattern, but it has happened to me so many times that I can't believe it.

Women who have guys calling them day and night will be walking through their house one evening and all of a sudden think, "Where is that one guy? I have to call him... Why isn't he calling me?"

Of course, as this begins to happen, you can take this as a strong signal that you're beginning to REALLY get the ideas I talk about.

If I'm talking to two women, and I don't know which one I like, what should I do? I don't want to screw it up and offend one of them. And if it doesn't work out with one of them, would it be cool to be able to switch to the other? Which one should I get the e-mail and number from?"

BOTH, DUH.

The ultimate way to handle two or three or more women that are all beautiful and interesting is to say, "You know, you guys are EQUALLY DORKY, so instead of just rejecting all of you, I'll let you all give me your numbers, and maybe we can hang out sometime... and I can teach you how to be cool like me..."

When you just relax, have fun and approach the situation casually, you can walk away with ALL of the women's numbers.

And guess what?
Attractive women know OTHER attractive women. If it doesn't work out with one, she'll know 10 more.

Think big, act big and you'll reap big rewards.

Essential Top Dating Tips and dating advice - dating advice for men

2007-07-17T19:48:00.000-07:00

I thought I would bring you the key dating tips I have gathered along the way in the hope of assisting and enlightening those who need assistance. If you are new to the dating scene, a regular or just simply someone trying to meet someone new there should always be time for top dating tips, advice, information and things to consider. None of us are dating experts otherwise we would have a magic formula to present to others. And no, looks are not the magic formula otherwise all supermodels would be blissfully happy - which they are not my friend. Good looking people the world over struggle when it comes to affairs of the heart. Think of all the major figures in history who have fallen in matters of romance.

The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in stone and different things will always work differently for different people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating them here.

My Top Dating Tips

Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either.
Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.
Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.
Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances.
Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors.
Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.
Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.
Do Join a quality Internet dating agency for free and do post a photo profile if possible. Take your time and check your mail occasionally. Even if you never date online at least it will boost your confidence and spirits and allow you to Practise your opening lines and chat up skills. Internet dating is fun and secure and introduces you to the world of dating safely and gently.

Please watch for more top dating tips over the coming months as more articles are added to our dating advice database.

Attract Her Silently - Dating advice for men

2007-07-17T19:43:00.000-07:00

There’s more than one way to communicate, and experts will tell you the majority of human communication is expressed through our actions and expressions. If this is the case, wouldn’t it be reasonable to assume we could spark interest and attraction without the benefit of words? A picture is worth a thousand words, and so is a meaningful look or a significant gesture. While you will, of course, have to speak eventually, it isn’t essential that the launching pad consist of verbal interaction. Women are generally considered the more sensitive sex -- for better or for worse -- and therefore they’re more likely to notice the little things, things typical men might consider trivial or superfluous. Take advantage of this by making the silent approach a projection of your personality and desire with the absence of words. Your goal, of course, is to land an actual verbal flirting encounter.

The well-rounded Player should be capable of such a task, especially when the human psyche often generates a first impression before the first words are uttered. You should know how crucial a first impression is, and you’re virtually ensuring a great one if you can nail the silent approach. She’ll remember the way you looked at her and the way you looked when she first saw you. If done smoothly, it should work wonders.

Here are several tips to get you started, but remember: If this fails, a close, flirtatious encounter may be entirely out of the question.

Show similar interests through your actions

This will take some early observation coupled with a timely movement or gesture on your part. It’s easiest to explain through examples, so here’s one: Perhaps you’re in the supermarket and you’re both browsing through the produce. She’s selecting a cantaloupe and you “just happen” to reach for the same one at the same time (it’s not anywhere near as difficult as it sounds). Another example may take place at your home away from home: the bar or dance club. You’ve been keeping your eye on this hot little number three tables over and you notice she only orders one particular drink, giving you the perfect opportunity to purchase one and send it over. In turn, the door is opened to a “Hey, that’s your favorite drink, too?” sort of meeting. Birds of a feather!

This could happen anywhere, at any time. Whether you’re out in the park jogging and you match her pace for a little while or you simply stop beside her to examine a store window on the sidewalk, relating to her without words can be a surprisingly straightforward process.

Prompt verbal contact with your eyes/actions

This goes well beyond a simple look; you’re seeking to grab her attention with a specific action. For instance, say you’re in a department store looking through a rack of shirts. You notice a particularly appealing target within the same vicinity so you get a bit closer, select a shirt and hold it up. Catch her eye and shoot her an inquisitive look as if to say, “How’s this?” Or perhaps you find yourself in an elevator, stuck behind one particularly rude individual who believes the entire world wants to hear his personal cell phone conversation. A shared rolling of the eyes is often enough to spark light banter before you depart the elevator, and provided you’ve properly honed your speed-flirting skills, you’re golden.

By the way, this tip comes fully equipped with an added perk, one you’ve probably already surmised: You can easily gauge her interest by her reaction. The situation is almost irrelevant; if you attempt to share common ground with only a look, the results in her eyes and facial reaction should be clear.

Opposites attract from a distance

Here you will present yourself as a polar opposite from afar. Now, it may sound bizarre and maybe even counterproductive, but when done properly, this technique works far better than you might expect. If your eyes have already crossed paths, you’ve probably sketched a rudimentary portrait of her personality based on her reaction (remember the previous hint?). Therefore, if she’s clearly the shy type and averts her eyes with a small smile, you come on strong from across the room with a big smile and direct eye contact. If she likes to play the role of the aggressor, you become the hard-to-get target and play it soft. Get it? The key to “talking with your eyes” centers on a person’s ability to blend facial expressions with eye movement. In other words, if she looks away with downcast eyes and a small grin, she’s playing shy and coy. If you keep a steady gaze and a larger smile, it’s obviously a more straightforwad approach (just don’t stare like a nut).

You could also implement an idea from the previous tip, which includes buying her a drink in a bar with the accompanying -- and appropriate -- look. In other situations, you might even be able to pick up her movie tickets for her while standing in line at the theatre -- a surprising and flattering move.

Offer to help in an appropriate situation

It’s the silent, yet gallant, approach that will open so many doors; in fact, you might start with that one: Simply open a door for a lovely lady. There are multiple opportunities to take advantage of the straightforward gentleman theory, and that includes helping a woman when she’s clearly loaded down with packages or bags, helping her pick up the purse she dropped (and the contents that spilled from it), etc. Don’t say a word; simply move to assist and you’ll immediately be in her good graces.

Remember, though, we’re not advising you to create these opportunities. In the preceding example, for instance, don’t knock into her on purpose just for an excuse to help her retrieve the fallen items. Not only is it too transparent and even predictable, it’s also a little underhanded. For this tip, you simply need to be in the right place at the right time; don’t force the issue.

Dress to fit the occasion

When you know where you’re going and you know what type of woman you’re seeking, you can gain the upper hand by dressing appropriately… and alluringly. Women pay very close attention to the way a man dresses -- any successful Player knows this -- and you can get a foot in the door by selecting the best possible attire. If you’re looking for a higher class of female at a particularly elegant club, you’re going to have to dress it up beyond what is required.

Women dress to attract males, and contrary to popular belief, the door does swing both ways. Besides, it’s yet another opening for conversation and a chance for you to comment on her outfit, which very rarely fails to impress if done correctly.

Lure her with an outside “cuteness factor”

If you’ve ever been to the park in search of a delectable target, you’ll know it’s best to go with a partner in crime… one who’s a great deal smaller. You may not have a baby or a dog close at hand, so if you don’t just borrow one for the day. Babysitting or pet-sitting -- it doesn’t matter because provided you head to the right locations, you’ll be in a prime position to hear a lot of “aww” and “isn’t he cute?!” comments.

In one way, those compliments are indirectly aimed at you, as women instantly believe a man with either a child or pet is both sensitive and mature, capable of making (and upholding) important life decisions. Besides, without a woman holding your hand, they’ll also assume you’re a single parent -- or single pet owner -- and best of all, they will initiate contact. You just gotta play it up a bit by getting all mushy with your companion for the day. Sure, you may be risking some of those masculinity trophies you’ve acquired over the years, but it’s worth taking the chance.

actions speak louder

Ever wonder why there are so many jokes about bad pickup lines? It’s obviously because there are so many bad pickup lines. Despite the fact that much of human communication is done in a non-verbal capacity, saying the right thing to a woman remains pretty crucial. But you can remove some of the pressure simply by establishing an extraordinary positive rapport without even opening your mouth. The previous tips may sometimes rely on things you can’t control such as timing, the type of women in the vicinity and unique situational demands, but the foundation for each is solid. It’s not chivalrous to say you’re preying on a woman’s sensitivity, but it’s very honorable to say you’re simply speaking her language… without ever saying a single word.

Internet Dating - Dating tips, Internet Dating advice for men

2007-07-17T12:04:00.000-07:00

When is the right time for me to ask a woman I’ve met online to talk on the phone?

This is a question TONS of guys have.

The answer is actually pretty simple. Don't wait very long to get on the phone.

Just like most guys are afraid to ask women for their phone numbers in person, most guys online are too reluctant to take steps to get a woman on the telephone because they're afraid of getting rejected and losing their chances for good.

If a woman is having fun chatting with you, just say, "OK, it's time for me to go, but let's talk later like normal people do on the phone... I want to see if you can keep this up live in person."

Women will often say, "I don't talk to people I meet on the internet." You want to get this as soon as possible because a lot of women won't talk to you NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO.

It's better to find out sooner rather than later.

And if she's interested, but not ready for a phone conversation she'll probably say, "Let's talk online some more first."

Get her on the phone sooner rather than later or you’ll wind up wasting a lot of time chatting and little time progressing.

I'd also like to mention that the internet is a great place to PRACTICE talking to women. You don't have to meet women that you chat with online... it can just be a fun way to meet new people and practice your humor and conversation skills.

I have two girls I like, and who like me back. What should I do?

You're going to have to decide if you'd like:

1- A relationship with one of them

2- To be single and date both of them

If you want a relationship, then pick the one you like and go out with her more than once a week.

If you DON'T want a relationship right now, then don't see EITHER of them more than about once a week (twice every once in awhile is OK, but any more than that and a woman will start to go into relationship mode AUTOMATICALLY).

There is no problem with more than one woman liking you, the problem comes if you start being dishonest and not up front in your dealings with them.

These are great problems to have, really... as long as you don't screw it up by being a jackass.

Date ideas - Dating advice for men , dating advice for women and teens

2007-07-12T19:12:00.000-07:00

Doing something different with your lover is the first step to making sex more interesting and exciting. Traditionally, a date is based on a romantic concept, and you might get lucky if you do it right. But when you are already in a relationship, being romantic just to get sex is a little past its expiration date. Being sexually creative is one of the most important ingredients in a successful relationship, so why not plan a creative date that is specifically for sex? It will, after all, provide something new and exciting, not to mention a raunchy boost.

Here are six sex date ideas that are sure to steam up your love life. Granted, you might not be up for all the ideas that are presented here; feel free to dream up something hot for you and your lover. Your lover will appreciate it, and it may well prompt more erotic adventures.

Visit a private dancer

Visit a classy strip club together and get a private dance as a couple. This is a fairly effortless sex date, but it can be very erotic to have a sultry creature dancing and writhing while the two of you sit and watch in the magic little booth with the velvet, mirrors and vanilla scents. Choose your venue carefully, since there is nothing less sexy than turning up at a sleazy, badly run joint. The larger strip clubs usually have more dancers with well-choreographed stage shows, whereas the slummy pole bars typically cycle single moms who are past their prime through three-song performances. You could also try to take your sex date to a peep show or a porn theater, but these places tend to be sleazy and not very female-friendly.

Eat an arousing dinner

A dinner chock-full aphrodisiacs can make for an excellent sex date. Select sexy ingredients, such as champagne, oysters, avocado, asparagus, and anything phallic. Keep your fare light, as you don’t want to send all your blood to your stomach instead of other important places. Instead of simply feeding each other with your fingers, you could opt to make an appealing platter out of yourself. Simply get naked and place the delicious feast over your torso, and remember to strategically place some of the food. Dessert is often great on a "body plate" (yours or hers), and can involve warm chocolate sauce, strawberries, melon, and whipped cream. Sex and food have always gone hand in hand since both are about sensations, tastes, textures, and smells. As part of the preparations for you sex-date feast, remember to help the ambiance with scents, such as authentic ylang-ylang, rose or sandalwood essential oils that are known to have a sexually stimulating effect.

Play dirty games

No one said that your sex date can’t be a play date. Unfortunately, there is a true shortage of fantastic games for couples in the world, but there are some that will never go out of fashion. Combining your favorite card game with stripping is always fun and can be a blast for beginners. Other games available are sexual card games, dice games and board games.

Board games are typically more involved and take longer, leading to a steamy night of passion instead of a quick bump and grind. Monogamy, which won Adult Game of the Year, is a fun and interesting lover’s game. The Kama Sutra Game will add depth to your lovemaking and relationship, as well as fun and eroticism. In addition to a number of online resources, Hugh de Beer’s book, 269 Amazing Sex Games, offers many titillating, fun and pleasing ways to get your nasty on.

Unleash Her Wild Side - Dating advice for men, woman. Dating advice for teens and boys

2007-07-12T19:07:00.000-07:00

There are a lot of reasons why it is in your best interest to unleash the passionate and erotic wild side of your mate. The first and foremost is obviously that you both get hotter sex. You might have seen this side of her before and it faded, or perhaps you have no idea what she is capable of. Either way, here you’ll find some ways to help get her groove on.

Buy her a costume

The bottom line with this trick is that if you buy her a costume, she is obliged to put it on at least once and saunter around like a goddess. If you choose well, you may get more mileage out of it on special occasions. Do some discreet research and then go shopping. Beware of scrimping; those $30 outfits on the internet may look hot on the perfectly proportioned lingerie model, but "one size fits all" actually means "this will probably look stupid on your girlfriend." Check her lingerie tags for top and bottom sizes, and if she chops them off, ask someone reliable what they think. If it is more of a small, medium or large issue, it’s a bit easier -- check her clothing tags.

Some popular outfits include the good old risqué clichés: nurses, maids, corsets, and dominatrix styles. Choose something that is stylish, sexy, well-crafted, and is going to fit her properly, not accentuating areas she would rather hide. Stockings, suspenders and corsets all have good coverage and still have great sex appeal.

Challenge her with erotic dares

Is she a sucker for a challenge? Get her competitive streak working for you by suggesting erotic dares, such as stripping, dancing or being a shameless exhibitionist.

The thrill of breaking her own boundaries will excite her and leave you both breathless. It’s moments like these that stick in your mind and provide great fantasy fodder for later, plus a few good laughs at your audacity. Sexual antics in a public place or games at home can be excellent fun and really spice up your sex life.

Tease her over a prolonged period

The problem with men and women is that men generally want far more sex than women, so a woman can safely assume that whenever she wants it, he will be keen. This means that it is often the men who initiate sex simply because women don’t get a chance to or because they know that they don’t have to because you will. To reverse this on her, withhold sex for a bit and tease her mercilessly. Get her sexual mind active again, and she’ll be all over you like a rash in no time.

There’s nothing like a bit of carefully plotted reverse psychology to get her all hot and bothered. Tease her with touches (but stop there), sexy love letters or e-mails, erotic gifts, and of course, sensual words in her ear telling her what you would like to do to her. You will need to exercise some self-control here, but it will be worth it. Try a period of a week, and be crafty in your seduction.

Take command

Be bold, not demanding. Taking the initiative a step further, you can almost dare her to match you, say, in a public place -- tit for tat, so to speak. Takingdirty commands is a turn-on simply because it can come out of the blue and be spontaneous. She might find she quite likes it and command you back.

One thing leads to another and before you know it, she’s commanding you all over the place. And you love it because she’s doing the deed and telling you what she wants.

Bring a camera

Cameras are always risky business but can be a great deal of fun (not to mention the future supply of fantasy materials they provide). Trust is essential. It has to be clear that nothing will happen to the photographs or videos -- they’re strictly for personal use only (unless otherwise agreed, of course).

Watching the action through a digital screen while you’re doing it is fun because you get vantage points you didn’t have before, especially of her. She can’t see what you can; in fact, at any given moment she can’t see much unless she folds over. Giving her a real taste of what she looks like from behind, or even while she is on top, can be very erotic and dare I say, interesting.

get her to let loose

Women can be very shy about behaving in a lascivious manner. She might feel like a fraud or feel silly. Luckily, these things can be overcome reasonably easily. Being a sex goddess doesn’t come naturally to many women, for whatever reason. The key to charging her with electric sexuality is to make her feel very comfortable, desired and safe. Don’t ever laugh at her attempts because you can guarantee it will be her last if you do. Genuinely compliment her on what she does well, and even if it means overexaggerating at first, don’t let there be a gap where she can think “Am I doing this right?” because you can bet that if she has the time of think that, she’ll be thinking it.

Getting women to shed her inhibitions and get right into the filth can be hard, but it can also be incredibly easy; with the right situation anything is possible. On some occasions, make her feel comfortable so she can open up, and at others, surprise her with something raunchy and you may be pleasantly shocked at the results, as may she. Be very aware of boundaries -- hers and your own -- at all times, and if things become uncomfortable for either of you, stop. Make chatting about what you both like and want out of your sex life a regular thing and magic shall unfold. Just remember that if things aren’t going your way, couples who communicate well have more and better sex.

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Attracting Opposite Personalities

2007-07-09T18:14:00.000-07:00

The Player is never intimidated and rarely refused, but sometimes, the finest catches require the most amount of work. Few scores are as sweet as the opposite personality -- the woman who sits on the exact opposite end of your spectrum. Clearly, the reason for the significant challenge centers on one simple fact: You two simply don’t have enough in common. While there is a small shred of truth to the old saying “opposites attract,” it can be extraordinarily difficult to approach someone who can’t identify with your main interests. How does the jock deal with the arty chick who loves independent films? How does the plumber approach the lawyer? How can a refined gentleman secure a backwater Southern belle for the evening? When the contrast is extreme, your methods may have to change significantly.

Contrary to popular belief, it goes well beyond attempting to establish a common ground or just ignoring your differences. Those can be good options -- find elaboration below -- but things can get tricky, and you’ll have to adapt to an encounter that so often ends in failure. But there is good news. You’re not out to slip a ring on her finger (breathe easy); you’re out for a night of unbridled passion and nothing more. Therefore, you don’t have to maintain the connection for longer than a few hours, and regardless of the situation, any good player can manage that.

Present yourself as the forbidden fruit

One of the primary reasons why opposites can attract is because everyone, deep down, yearns for a roll in the hay with someone who counters their personality in almost every way. Men often don’t realize it, but if you look back at your history, many of the targets you’ve bull’s-eyed have mirrored most of your personality traits. In this case, finding a common ground may be out of the question, so embrace your differences. What would her parents think if you showed up at her door? That’s right, someone who isn’t necessarily a bad person, but an individual who is nothing like their precious daughter. Upon first encountering that beautiful anti-you, begin the prep process by clarifying and perhaps even slightly exaggerating the huge personality gap. It will be evident right off the bat, and she might even participate: “Wow, you liked that movie? I hate all movies that guy is in!”

Take the opportunity to provide some potential examples; perhaps you have friends who had “the best sex of their lives” when they slept with an opposite personality. Or you have a good female friend who consistently goes out of her way to look for men who are different from her in almost every way. You’re not “forbidden,” you’re a great chance for something fresh, exciting and new. As the differences mount, so will the heat.

Avoid talk of likes and dislikes

It’s commonly one of the first topics of conversation, but you’ll know within a matter of seconds that this won’t lead anywhere. You can either take the above hint and run with it, or avoid it entirely. Don’t bother with outlining the obvious; instead, focus on a variety of more obscure topics that you couldn’t possibly care less about. You can humor her if she selects the subject (space exploration, for example), but you want her to know how hot she looks, what your intentions are, and how strong your desire is. Flattery is a big key for this tip, and if the chemistry is there, this is all you should need. But if you find she’s intent on revolving around the obvious differences, don’t continue to dodge the conversation; that will only come across as impolite and suspiciously evasive. If this happens, snag another tip from this list and go with it (perhaps “Take an interest in her interests”?).

But if she’s more than willing to ignore what sets you two apart, then why bother taking the risk? If she’s smiling and laughing, and you’re clearly on the right track, then a lack of common ground becomes a non-issue.

Present yourself as a learning opportunity

Experience is never a bad thing, and learning should always be a major part of your dating life. She might see that angle as well, especially if you bring it to her attention early on. Perhaps you can start with something like, “You know, it’s tough meeting people who don’t like everything you like,” or “I think it’s fun meeting women who have something original to offer.” Translation: You have something “original” to offer and she’ll be able to learn from this experience. You may be a Player, but most women carefully file away all their dating experiences and utilize them on a consistent basis throughout their adventures. When was the last time you approached a woman who didn’t at least once mention an ex? How often do you think she’s comparing you to other men she’s known? Essentially, your differences present the perfect opportunity to learn a bit about individuals with opposite interests.

Take an interest in her interests

You find her opinions and thoughts to be fascinating, and she’s going to know it. You’re so often saddled with women who have nothing original to say, whose every word and phrase is painfully predictable. It’s just so refreshing to meet someone so different, and you appreciate her varying likes and dislikes; a difference of opinion adds spice to any encounter. Select any one of the preceding statements, make it one of your opening lines and you’re golden. Just be wary of overplaying your hand to the point where you’re clearly patronizing her. This tip requires top-notch observance skills; you have to keep an eye on her behavior as she speaks, and her reactions to your reactions are crucial. If you’re nodding your head and repeating, “Wow, that’s really interesting” over and over, you’re gonna see the rolling eyes and the wry grins. Unfortunately, there’s no two ways about it: You actually have to listen.

If you listen, regardless of how you feel about the topic, you can at least formulate some intelligent comments and questions. And by the way, any good Player knows that listening and taking an interest scores you big points, so it’s win-win.

Don’t be a pretender

You two are different, so don’t make a pathetic attempt to understand and agree with her stance on social mores or politics. Don’t just sit there like a goof going, “Hmm, you’re probably right about that.” Don’t abandon your own personality simply because you’re faced with a polar opposite; many guys will attempt to dodge the land mines by being a pretender. You’ll immediately appear as if you have zero substance, no mind of your own and worse, you’ll probably step directly into a trap without knowing it. She’ll see right through the pitiful ruse in no time: Do you honestly believe she doesn’t notice how different you two are? Besides, she obviously has no qualms about revealing who she is, so why insult her by veiling who you are? This situation has great potential, and attempting to override it by being a pretender is one of the worst mistakes you can make.

This is a good rule for just about any flirting situation. Understandably, who you are doesn’t matter as much when you’re not hunting for a life companion, but it’s nota classy or refined tactic. And that flies right in the face of everything you stand for, correct?

Use your differences to generate heat

Much like the “Take an interest in her interests” tip, this requires excellent observational skills and should only be attempted by the dating professional. Rather than avoiding the subject, and rather than skirting the issue when she pipes up with something you vehemently disagree with, you unleash with a fiery rebuttal. This works best with women who are talkative and charismatic, and after feeling her out for a few minutes, you should be able to discern if this is a viable option. If she seems more shy and reserved, don’t bother following this path because it’s just too dangerous. Get yourself locked in a heated debate -- the subject matter is irrelevant -- and let that heat boil over into another kind of heat; let it feed the flames of passion.

What, you’ve never heard of angry sex before? Then go watch A History of Violence (but no hitting the lady!).

opposites do attract

Whenever you encounter someone who appears to be your exact opposite, it can be difficult and even a little intimidating, but you do have options. You always have options. You can choose one of these tips early on and go with it, or you can wait for a few minutes and then select a plan of attack.

Either way, if you’re not prepared for a conversation you’re not familiar with, shooting from the hip can be a risky proposition, and the consequences are immediate. You’re continually walking a tenuous line with this scenario because the two of you are on completely different wavelengths. The trick is to meld those wavelengths together, thereby creating that sensuous melody both of you understand. You simply need to translate the situation into a language that you’re comfortable with, and I can help you do just that.

Acceptable Female Demands

2007-07-08T09:15:00.000-07:00

Dating is all about give and take, and relationships are a constant compromise. Women are always going to have demands, but some might take it too far and expect unreasonable levels of maintenance. High maintenance girls are pretty easy to spot, and can be worth the trouble sometimes, even though the upkeep might drive you to the brink on occasion. Obviously, making your girl happy is vital to your relationship, but it's in your best interest to decide just how much is too much and make sure to keep her expectations and demands in check.

It's one thing to feel like her knight in shining armor and quite another to feel like her constant caretaker. To win with a high-maintenance woman -- or any woman for that matter -- without becoming a slave to her demands, it's vital that you maintain a little flexibility rather than steadfastly refusing to negotiate. Putting your foot down might make you feel manly and in charge, but it might also make you feel that way… all by yourself. Keep reading to spot the differences between high maintenance and regular maintenance and learn what's reasonable for her to expect and what isn't.

She wants a chauffeur at her beck and call

It's acceptable to expect to keep your chauffeur cap on ice in situations where you aren't accompanying her on her outing. But when you're on your way out together it's fine to do the driving if not exclusively, then at least a lot of the time. So, will you drive when the two of you are headed to a friend's party? Sure. Will you pick her up at home and drop her off for a day of shopping with the girls? Nope. However, there are exceptions: If she puts in a request for a specific reason, like a lift home from the dentist after a root canal for example, then obviously your boyfriend duty is to comply.

She wants you to run domestic errands

Relationships are a partnership and errand distribution should reflect that equality. Household to-do lists and joint tasks are best served in a fair rotation or with a planned balancing act. If she hates taking out the garbage and you hate ironing, then by all means make a deal that those are your personal chores, with each of you opting for tasks that you prefer or are just plain more suited to. For the more mundane, like groceries or dry-cleaning, a weekly rotation is the best way to avoid an argument. And yes, she is allowed to complain if you "forget" your half of the bargain and drop the ball if it happens on more than just an occasional basis.

She wants you to hang out with her friends… all the time

As much as you may like her friends or not, a fair social time split is important to make sure you don't alienate your buddies and risk winding up with no friends of your own. It isn't acceptable for her social life to automatically become your social life. Each of you has the right to expect time with your own friends, either as a couple or alone. If she has a problem with your social circle, it's fine to try staging activities that you know she'll enjoy regardless of the company, like a concert or have her invite her friends to come along -- the more the merrier. If she really puts her foot down and refuses to play fair, it's well within your rights to let her know that you'll be heading out with the guys and she's welcome to join you if she changes her mind -- just be sure not to tip the balance in the other direction by ignoring her pals in favor of your own.

She wants you to buy her tampons

There are exceptions to every rule when it comes to keeping your lady taken care of: The unholy alliance of PMS and a woman in need of tampons is a very significant one. This combination only supersedes all other advice regarding standing your ground and not being bossed around if the circumstances are indeed dire. Forcing you to make this kind of purchase in your regular shopping trip to keep your house well-stocked for her visits isn't dire -- it's laziness on her part. Dire is when she's three days early at your place and completely unprepared. In those cases, yes, you have to go. And yes, you have to be sure to get the exact kind she likes to avoid all hell breaking loose. Pick up some Hershey's Kisses too while you're there. Trust us on this one.

She expects royal treatment without ever footing the bill

High-maintenance women often assume that price stickers are akin to quality markers or that your spending is in direct correlation to your feelings for her. While you don't want to come off sounding cheap, your monthly credit card statement might beg to differ. For big-ticket items, like a vacation, it's acceptable to expect that costs will be shared equally. For other occasions, depending on your respective income levels, it's assumed that the person doing the inviting will pay. She invites you to her cousin's wedding, she'll pay for the night's accommodation out of town. You invite her to a concert, the tickets are up to you.

She wants hours in bed devoted to her pleasure only

It's fine to focus on your lover and put them ahead of yourself… but not if it's one-sided all the time. Keep her on her toes by varying the routine. Make requests or wait for her to make the first move. Forcing her to take some initiative and actively playing a role in the course of your intimate encounters may help to shelve her selfishness. Keep in mind that your girl might also be self-conscious or timid in the bedroom, so make sure to give back plenty of positive reinforcement when she does things that drive you wild, and you'll be sure to see more of the same.

curb the princess effect

Whether your girl is high maintenance or just looking for standard girlfriend rights, your relationship won't survive unless you find ways to satisfy her needs while still avoiding being a doormat. If you find yourself caving in to irrational demands, just remember that the upkeep she is demanding is a choice, a choice for how she wants to live, but that doesn't mean that you have to play along. If she isn't willing and able to provide the things she demands for herself, it isn't necessarily best to provide them for her.

Be The Guy She Lusts After

2007-07-04T11:25:00.000-07:00

Every guy wants to be the kind of man that women secretly lust after, but few know how to make this happen. Pickup lines, fashion makeovers, even plastic surgery… none of that helps in the slightest if you don’t have a deep understanding of what turns a woman on. The fact is you usually only get one chance to prove you’re man enough to light her fire.

Here are 10 tips to guarantee that you ignite intense, throbbing passions she can’t deny.

Number 10

Her mind decides what her body already wants

The path to turning on a woman isn’t through her mind, it’s through her EMOTIONS. If she doesn’t feel physically or emotionally turned on, then all she has is her mind to decide with and the decision will almost ALWAYS be “no.” But if she IS physically or emotionally turned on, she won’t need to make a decision about you because it’s already been made. Learn to get her emotions turned on first, then her body, and never, EVER try to logically “convince” her to get turned on. It NEVER works.

Number 9

Become a master of Sexual Tension

Whenever you’re flirting with a woman, even if the conversation is completely unrelated to sex, there is an unconscious awareness that it COULD lead to sex. I call this idea sexual tension. Even though you’re not talking about sex, you both know that this interaction could be “step 1” on the way to potential intimacy. I’ve learned that actively avoiding the topic of sex, and focusing instead on creating this Sexual Tension is one of the single best ways to lead the interaction to a physical level quickly. Maintain this tension and increase its intensity, and you’ll be on the royal road to a sexually intimate future.

Number 8

Notice what’s going on inside of you and her

If you want to be the kind of guy women lust after, you need to continually monitor what’s going on inside of you, and what results you’re getting with her. Start with yourself: When are you seeking her approval? When are you explaining yourself to her? When do you feel the need to share the intensity of your emotions? Also pay attention to what’s going on with her: When does she pull away because you were leaning, needy or clingy? When is she disappointed because you gave in and acted like a wussy? All of these observations will take your sexual awareness to the next level and make you a much sexier man in her eyes.

Number 7

Put her beauty in perspective

Most men unconsciously and automatically credit beautiful women with positive character traits (like being innocent, trustworthy, etc). Psychologists call this the “halo effect.” It’s important to get past this unbalanced view. Realize that every woman has both sides and look for evidence of both at all times. Approach any woman knowing that she has a light AND a dark side. Never give a woman any extra credit because of her appearance or because of your attraction to her. If you do, you’ll stack the deck in HER favor, and you’ll quickly lose the game.

Number 6

Commit to boosting your Sexual Confidence

At the core of many men’s fear of women and lack of charisma around them is the lack of Sexual confidence and understanding of sexuality. If you learn how to make a woman feel pleasure that will blow her mind, every aspect of women -- including approaching them -- can become a fantastic and enjoyable event. Sexual Confidence comes from knowing that you will be the guy that makes her forget everything outside, and feel and experience things inside that she’s always wanted. This will lead you to INCREDIBLE Success

Number 5

Treat a woman’s turn-ons as arbitrary

Most guys try to use logic to figure out what turns a woman on. This is a HUGE MISTAKE. Realize that the things that turn a woman on are arbitrary and random. Don’t think of them logically. First, be open to learning what these arbitrary triggers are, whatever they may be. Next, learn how to master these areas so you can press her buttons at any time. Only AFTER mastering this skill should you allow your “logic” back in to analyze what’s going on.

Number 4

Awaken the sleeping beast

Many women have had so little good sex that they’ve become what you might call SEXUALLY DORMANT. Women seem to have this natural response when they’re at a time in their lives when they don’t have enjoyable sexual interaction… and they seem to accept it and “live with it” better than men. Waking up her sexuality with care and skill can unleash a beast that was sleeping inside of her, so don’t be surprised if and when it happens. When it does happen, be prepared to deal with the monster because YOU were the one who woke it up.

Top 10: Ways To Make Her Want You

2007-07-02T17:20:00.000-07:00

What would your life be like if you knew -- beyond a shadow of a doubt -- how to make ANY woman feel a deep, gut level attraction for you? Pretty awesome, no? But most guys are completely clueless in this area. They think the answer lies in “pickup lines” and pheromones. Nothing could be further from the truth. If you want to learn how to turn a woman on, you need to learn what it takes to spark ATTRACTION. Here are 10 tips to get you started on the path of women, women and more women.

Number 10

Become the high-status man

There are many logical reasons why women are attracted to high-status men, but the fact is that it’s TRUE and it’s not going to CHANGE anytime soon. If a woman perceives you as holding a higher status than her, you instantly qualify for the I’ll-consider-it group in her mind. If a woman perceives you as holding a LOWER status than her, she will instantly and unconsciously put you in the not-a-chance mental category. And if you communicate your status in just the right way, you can trigger a powerful and instantaneous attraction inside of a woman that will be impossible for her to ignore. She’ll FEEL IT. Luckily, this is something ANY guy can do.

Number 9

Communicate high status properly

The great news is that you can communicate high status even if you’re not good-looking, rich or famous. The first thing you need to do is STOP communicating LOWER status. Men typically communicate lower status by justifying, defending or explaining themselves. By seeking approval and by allowing things to affect them emotionally these men are portraying themselves a weak and in the lower status department. Stop doing these things immediately. Resist the temptation to explain yourself, be the center of your own universe and keep your cool. If you do, you’ll make HUGE headway in becoming the high-status guy women can’t get enough of.

Number 8

Never communicate low status

The ultimate mistake you can make when it comes to status -- and the one guys make over and over again -- is trying to trade your status for her APPROVAL. I call this becoming a WUSSY just to get a woman to like you. This one single thing you may do and it will almost GUARANTEE that she will NEVER feel a gut-level attraction for you. It’s so obvious and so pervasive that it’s almost invisible. This is the ultimate mistake men make with women. Whatever you do, never communicate lower status to try to get a woman to like you. It never, ever works.

Number 7

Let her chase you

When most guys meet an attractive woman, they think about things completely BACKWARD. They usually decide quickly that she is what they want, so they pursue which causes her to run away, which leads them wanting her more. BAD NEWS. Instead, try flipping this whole scenario on its head. The next time you meet a woman you’re hot for, instead of deciding SHE is what YOU want, take the perspective that YOU are the kind of guy SHE wants. Then when she starts to pursue you, run away. It’ll make her want you that much more. When you realize the steps that women use to attract us guys, you can use these same steps to attract THEM. Nice.

Number 6

Stop devaluing yourself

Humans have a hardwired system for assigning value in our heads. If something is easy to get, we don’t think it has much value, but when it’s hard to get we naturally assume it must be VERY valuable. If you want to DROP your value to zero instantly in a woman’s eyes, all you have to do is make yourself easy to get a hold of -- be readily available and obviously very interested. On the other hand, if you want to INCREASE your value in a big way, you need to do the opposite. Make yourself busy so you’re difficult to get a hold of, and when you do talk to a woman, make sure you get off the phone and go do something interesting and make sure you tell her about the activity right before you say, “Gotta go, bye!” Make sure you have all kinds of other options going on in your life so you CAN’T become too available.

Number 5

Tell her she’d make an interesting friend

If a woman uses the phrase, “He’s just a friend,” what she typically means is that the guy is interested in her but doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell of having a romantic relationship with her. So turn the tables. If you are talking to a woman and you can tell she’s starting to feel for you, say to her: “You know, I think you’re going to make an interesting friend.” Women RARELY -- IF EVER -- hear this from a man. It will set you up as a challenge in her mind and cause her to be MORE LIKELY to want to be with you in a romantic way.

Number 4

Become friends with attractive women

If you’re going out to meet women, is it better to be rolling with two horny guy friends or is it better to be rolling with two attractive female friends who love you? Exactly. Making friends, ACTUAL FRIENDS, with several attractive women is one of the best strategies for consistently meeting women without having to deal with any kind of anxiety over approaching women. When I say make friends with these women, I mean ACTUALLY make friends. It’s fine to flirt, tease and have fun with them, but they are going to be your friends so it’s best to keep your grubby mitts off of them. Keep these friendships intact and they’ll introduce you to TONS of available women. They’ll literally BRING THEM TO YOU.

Number 3

Show her that you’d make a great sexual partner

Animals have certain traits (like the male peacock’s giant tail feathers) that signal to females who will make a healthy mate. These signals are difficult to fake (you either have the feathers or you don’t), so females rely on them heavily when deciding who to mate with. Female humans also look for these “honest signals,” and lucky for us they can be learned (unlike the feathers). Focus on developing these honest signals like dominant posture, slow gestures and movement, strong eye contact, indifference, and cocky comedy. When you master these signals, women will have NO CHOICE but to take notice of you.

Number 2

Learn to tell if a woman is single quickly

Ever wonder if an attractive woman is single? If you develop the ability to be good at “reading” whether a woman is single or not, you’ll be able to behave with her right from the start in a confident, knowing way. And you’ll also stop taking it personally and getting hung up on women who seem cold to you because you’ll know WHY they seem occupied. To figure out if a woman is available or not start teasing her, if she continues to spar with you as you bust her balls, it’s usually a big signal that she’s available and open to you. Practice guessing if a woman is single or not until you can tell quickly and accurately. When you do, it will blow her mind that you knew her relationship status without her saying a word about it. She’ll see you as an insightful, intuitive guy -- precisely the kind of guy she’s attracted to.

Number 1

Create abundant choices for yourself

When you make a decision there’s a big difference between deciding whether or not to take the ONE option available, and trying to choose between an ABUNDANCE of options. Most guys have the mindset, “It’s either her, or nothing.” Most women have the mindset, “I can have any guy I want, so which one do I like best?” Take a moment and think about the subtle differences in your thinking, communicating and acting when you have MANY choices and you need to conserve your time, as opposed to having just one choice and having to figure out how to get it. Learn to think and behave as if you have all the choices in the world, then work on making that a REALITY by continually educating yourself on how to succeed with women and dating.

Top 10 Ways To Get Her To Chase You

2007-07-01T18:23:00.000-07:00

Most men naturally assume that it’s the MAN who must pursue the woman. But guys who are naturals at succeeding with women don’t buy into this belief -- and it’s a big part of why they’re always with the most attractive women. What would your life be like if instead of chasing women, women chased you? Here are 10 tips to shift the dynamic in your favor and get women tripping over themselves for a space on your social calendar.
Number 10
Use “reverse rapport”
“Reverse rapport” is when you say and do the opposite of what a guy would do when he’s trying to make a woman like him… but in a sarcastic, overly serious way that assumes the woman already knows, likes and trusts you. The objective here is NOT to try to be sweet and wonderful and nice in order to win her approval. How do you do this? Well, one way is to use a sarcastic comment that’s the OPPOSITE of what a woman wants to hear. Or answer a question a woman asks you with an answer that’s the opposite of what she expects, all in a very sarcastic tone that implies you’re making fun of her. When you do, you’ll create a deep, polarity-charged connection with her that will get her pursuing you in no time flat.
Number 9
Read between the lines
If you’re talking to a woman on the phone and she tells you that she’s seeing someone, understand that she’s saying this more for herself than for you. She probably is casually dating another guy, but she’s feeling attracted to you, so she needs to say this to put on the brakes so she doesn’t feel “promiscuous.” If you find yourself in this situation, tell her something challenging like “Yeah, congratulations… and you know, that’s pretty assumptive thinking that I was trying to pursue you.” She won’t know what to say, and you will have communicated that you’re a confident guy who doesn’t need any woman -- just the kind of guy women LOVE. Don’t be surprised if she calls you back within a week, telling you she wants to get together and that she’s suddenly dumped the guy she was dating (for a chance to get to know you, of course).
Number 8
See beyond getting laid
When I first started learning how to succeed with women and dating, the idea of getting laid was a lot more interesting to me than it is now because I thought that if you could learn how to “get laid” then you’d naturally be able to have any other kind of success you wanted with women. Well, many of the guys I’ve met who are GREAT at “getting laid” don’t have any idea how to find a high-quality woman to have a great relationship with and when they do find one, they have no idea how to keep her around. I think it’s much more interesting and useful to learn how and why women become attracted to men, and why they STAY attracted. This way, you’ll be able to keep that fantastic woman in your life once you find her. There’s nothing wrong with “getting laid,” but it’s only a tiny piece of the puzzle, and it alone won’t lead you to happiness and success in life.
Stop courting, start attracting
There are two basic models for how men approach meeting women: the courtship model, and the attraction model. If you base your approach with women on ATTRACTION, you get a very different response from COURTING them. When you court a woman, her natural response is to run, which makes you want her more and makes her run more. But when you attract a woman, her natural response is to chase YOU. This subtlety makes all the difference in the world.
Number 6
Be the dominant one
Courting is based on what you DO, what you OFFER, and what you GIVE… and is largely based on gifts, dinners, flowers, compliments, etc. Attraction is based on how you communicate, who you are and your masculine identity. Courting takes the “make friends” strategy and supersizes it; it’s about being as nice as possible in order to get her to like you. Attraction isn’t concerned with “liking” because a woman doesn’t need to like you in order to feel attracted to you. Courting is facing the challenge; attraction is BEING the challenge. Courting is about being a follower, submissive and weak; attraction is about being a leader, dominant and strong. Stop courting, start attracting, and you won’t BELIEVE how it can transform your success with women.
Number 5
Show her you get it
Women will act completely different around you and treat you very differently if you’re a guy who “gets it.” The way to show her you’re one of these rare guys is to see when she’s testing you and keep your cool. So if she mentions that other men are interested in her or she says she’s unavailable or she complains about something you do, realize it’s just a test. Then simply say, “Hey, stop that stuff,” and she’ll know what you mean. More importantly, she’ll know she’s dealing with a real man, and she’ll stop at no expense to chase you down.
Number 4
Stay on your own course
Most men orient themselves by following and seeking approval of the woman. She leads, they follow; in fact, she isn’t even leading, but the man tries to convince her to lead with questions and body language that seek approval. This is a horrible mistake, and annoys women to no end. Instead, stay on your course, even when she’s all over the map. Let her reorient her body, behavior, moods, and responses to YOURS. Don’t ever try to get her to lead. Show her you’re the kind of man who loves to be the captain of your own ship, and she’ll feel an undeniable attraction to you.
Number 3
Never backpedal or explain yourself
If you say or do something that seems to upset a woman, don’t try to explain your way out of it or do something to “make her feel better.” Don’t act like you screwed up or show her that you’re nervous just because she’s acting upset. Just move on as if nothing happened. Get right on to the next topic or story. If she stays on it, whines or complains, just say “Get over it, it was a joke, stop being a pain,” and then get on to the next topic again. If you try to backpedal or explain yourself or in any way hint that you think you’ve “screwed up,” you’re DEAD MEAT. If you say something and she doesn’t like it, that’s not YOUR problem. Women often complain to see if they can manipulate you with their emotions, and when you show you don’t fall for this, her respect and ATTRACTION for you will go through the roof.
Number 2
Hint that you’re normal
There are a lot of psycho, perverted and “mentally unstable” guys out there, so it’s important you communicate through your behavior that you’re NOT one of them. Tell a woman you’re busy, and get off the phone WITHOUT asking her to meet for a date. Make fun of dumb-ass behavior, and other guys who act like wussies. If she calls but doesn’t leave a message, accuse her of being a stalker, and tell her that normal people leave messages. Chase women out of your house; say “get out” over and over again if she’s kissing you. All of this gives her subtle signs that you’re not some freak who desperately wants to get in her pants. This will give her an irresistible craving to get to know you better because you’re so different from the typical needy guys she dates.
Number 1
Use her own games on her
We all know women love playing games. But when you turn the tables and play games on a woman, it shifts the power dynamic in your favor. One of my favorite games to play with women is “You’re a brat, and I’m fake exasperated.” That’s pretty self-explanatory. Some others are “Let’s see who can act the least interested,” and “I’m hard to get, and you love me.” Have fun playing these games with a woman and you’ll soon find that she won’t be able to get enough of your challenging, confident personality.

How to talk to her? Dating advice for men, teens and guys

2007-07-01T18:06:00.000-07:00

Dating Q&A

What should I do if I’m already seeing a woman for a while, and I really want to create a special evening?
OK, as you know I don't like to venture into the "relationship" realm, but I will make a comment here.

If you have been seeing a woman for awhile, and you REALLY want to blow her mind, DO SEVERAL THINGS THAT SHE LIKES ALL IN ONE DAY OR EVENING.

Take her to her favorite restaurant, give her a gift of her favorite flowers, wear the clothes that you know she likes, rub her shoulders, and, um... give her some good lovin'.

Romance is wonderful, as long as you don't overdo it and come across as a WUSSY.

Focus all of the things that she likes into one small window, and good things will come of it.

Then don't do them again for awhile... AT ALL.

She'll talk about that night forever, and she'll always be wondering when the next one will come.
Won’t a woman get upset if I tease her, “bust her balls,” and use your Cocky & Funny technique?
Yes, in the real world, sometimes a woman will get upset because you're indifferent, or because you make fun and bust on her... it happens.

It's so hard for men to see that some women just aren't going to be right for them, and that some women aren't fun or interesting.

Just because a woman is attractive doesn't mean that she's also sweet, kind, loving, stable, etc.

Men tend to instantly assume that attractive women are more honest, more friendly, more trustworthy, etc., JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE ATTRACTIVE.

And it just isn't so. You will have to strike your own personal balance in regards to how you act toward women, and you'll have to learn for yourself which signs to watch out for.

I personally have no time for a woman who can't deal with a little teasing or who gets upset because she's not the center of attention and being courted like a princess.

I laugh if a woman gets upset by one of my jokes... IT'S VERY FUNNY! I just say "lighten up, a bad attitude isn't attractive."
If you had to boil down how to get a woman to like you in just a couple of paragraphs, what would you say?
The way to make a woman like you is to:

1- Not act like all the other average guys out there.

2- Make her laugh.

3- Be unpredictable, challenging and mysterious.

What's the secret behind communicating with a woman properly?

Of course there are more ingredients, but these are a start.

Don't act nervous or uncomfortable. Treat her like you've known her all your life... almost like she's your bratty little sister.

Tease her and make her laugh. Have fun.

Don't be PREDICTABLE. Do things that surprise her. Say things that keep her wanting to hear more. Tell interesting stories and don't answer her questions directly... instead, make her work for the answers.